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Posted by Susan47 on August 31, 2005, at 0:45:48
In reply to Re: Relationship with Myself .. May Trigger, Sex » Susan47, posted by Damos on August 30, 2005, at 22:39:09
You're probably right. ;)
Posted by Mal on September 6, 2005, at 21:55:15
In reply to Relationship with Myself .. May Trigger, Sex, posted by Susan47 on August 28, 2005, at 14:48:29
Susan-
I sometimes remember some "boyfriends" from my previous life... There is one- I can remember what he smelled like. It is weird, like- I can't just call up his smell from memory, but sometimes it hits me out of nowhere- I smell him- and I have to look around to make sure he isn't there. THis hasn't happened to me in a LONG time, but it HAS happened.ANyhow, I know he wasn't THE ONE for me- our break up was a smart thing I did, but our attraction was sooo...animal, electric, combustible. From the minute I first saw him, it was magnetic, and it was obvious he was interested in me, too. He looked at me like I was beautiful. He didn't glance away when I caught him looking. I miss that. He made an effort to be introduced to me. Then when we finally got together...niiiice. But it was hard, too (no intended puns, there). Because I was a GOOD GIRL- not a virgin, but not someone who could just have sex on the first date, with very little emotional connection (unless animal magnetism is actually an emotional connection...). For over a year we spent about a weekend a month together, with very few calls between, and I was getting attached but God knows what he was doing while he was away. Foolish of me, in a way- no telling who he was shagging, what drugs he was doing. But we were having as good a time as I had ever had at the time. I never could REALLY have a purely sexual relationship- sex always made me mixed up, made me think about LOVE, which of course isn't the same thing. I had a couple of other fuckbuddies in college, and one I still feel friendly toward- not upset or hurt... But I am just insecure enough to wonder if he ever talked about me, had derogatory remarks or opinions about me, or if he still has warm feelings for me, too. This guy I could call up and just be friends again, I think. But there is still a little rejection in there, because I would have been his girlfriend if he had been interested... Guess I wasn't good looking enough for him.
But in case you are wondering, my husband smells real good, too. ;) Not to mention SKILLS!
Have a great time, whatever you do.
MAL
Posted by muffled on September 8, 2005, at 22:39:06
In reply to Re: Relationship with Myself .. May Trigger, Sex » Susan47, posted by Damos on August 30, 2005, at 22:39:09
> Okay Damos she's called your bluff, now what?
>
> Panic, yep panic, always a good first step, then what. Think boy think! Change my posting name, emails, phone numbers and residential address, investigate countries with non extradition treaties. Oh yeah, cold shower.
>
> Seriously Susan I am flattered and would be truely honoured to share the enjoyment of your self discovery in all its beauty, passion and wonder. But you need someone way more confident and self assured than me. You are waaaaaaaay more than I could handle even on my best day. I'll just be content to celebrate your finding the joy and beauty that's in yourselfOh Damos, you sound so sweet and funny too. If I wasn't married I go with you. Those sweet guys are sometimes the BEST of all!
Posted by Damos on September 11, 2005, at 17:05:02
In reply to Re: Relationship with Myself .. May Trigger, Sex » Damos, posted by muffled on September 8, 2005, at 22:39:06
Why thank you Ms Muffled. It's been a loooooong time since and it'll probably be an equally long time till. Lots to learn, lots to forgive myself for before I'd be much good to anyone. But thank you.
Posted by Susan47 on September 15, 2005, at 23:17:48
In reply to Re: Relationship with Myself .. May Trigger, Sex » Susan47, posted by Mal on September 6, 2005, at 21:55:15
No one's here anymore, in all likelihood, but I was just reading this post of yours, Mal, and I'm thinking how fortunate you are that you have that memory of the smell of this man who was so attractive to you. It's so lovely to feel animal heat for someone. I wish everyone could have that feeling at least once. I had it for someone so intensely that I created love out of it, this feeling of huge love.. the attraction, for me, was that intense. Still is but fortunately, I suppose, not able to be indulged in any way .. hopefully there is someone else at some point before I .. go ... oh, I'm just being silly. The whole thing is probably a conjurer's trick, a mirage of the mind.
But man, does it ever feel incredibly good!
Posted by sunny10 on September 16, 2005, at 7:57:55
In reply to Re: Relationship with Myself .. May Trigger, Sex » Mal, posted by Susan47 on September 15, 2005, at 23:17:48
I have a smell memory trigger, too... a particular cologne on particular guys (it never smells the same on everyone) reminds me of a love long ago...
I don't miss him anymore- after all, there's a reason it didn't work out- but it's a fond memory when I smell that.
(See, someone was paying attention!)
Posted by fairywings on September 17, 2005, at 23:26:36
In reply to Relationship with Myself .. May Trigger, Sex, posted by Susan47 on August 28, 2005, at 14:48:29
I'm glad you got together with yourself susan! why don't women do this more often? it's good to know what works, what feels good. heck, a back massage feels good, so does a foot massage, and i sure don't feel guilty about that! i'm all for putting the baby down for his nap and having my way with myself!
i finally broke down and bought a vibrator, my husband helped me pick it out, well he would have if i had picked one out from the first 3 web sites, and first 100 pages! lol, Anyway, gotta try a lubricant called liquid silk. i thought we/i didn't need any lubricant, but honey, wow! it is wonderful on the fingers, wonderful on my new friend, wonderful to rub on him! ; ) and he loves it too!
oh, and we have 3 of the "ladies" videos by candida royale, lol funny, cheesy, but better than the hard core porno stuff. not saying that i've ever SEEN the hard core.......LOL
have a good time susan!
fw
Posted by fairywings on September 17, 2005, at 23:27:13
In reply to Re: Relationship with Myself .. May Trigger, Sex, posted by crazy teresa on August 29, 2005, at 10:43:57
Road Trip! LOL
Posted by fairywings on September 17, 2005, at 23:32:53
In reply to Re: Relationship with Myself .. May Trigger, Sex, posted by Susan47 on August 29, 2005, at 12:11:07
and you should enjoy your body susan that's great, that's really healthy, and i'm glad you and your ex have a great relationship, that's so awesome for your daughter. and btw, omg, can i borrow your ex just to make a tape of the sounds? i mean i'll use him for the sex, get the sounds on tape, and then give him back? ; )my hubby is pretty quiet till then end, i fantasize about some of that kind of stuff.......
fw
Posted by crazy teresa on September 18, 2005, at 2:52:13
In reply to Re: Relationship with Myself .. May Trigger, Sex » crazy teresa, posted by fairywings on September 17, 2005, at 23:27:13
Oh sure, I drive while you and your new "friend" are in the back seat together? ROFL!!!
Posted by fairywings on September 18, 2005, at 7:11:50
In reply to Road trip » fairywings, posted by crazy teresa on September 18, 2005, at 2:52:13
nah, i was just kidding, i only do my husband, no women, well vibrators too, but mostly my husband....but the vibrator is catching up. LOL
fw
Posted by crazy teresa on September 18, 2005, at 21:52:24
In reply to Re: Road trip » crazy teresa, posted by fairywings on September 18, 2005, at 7:11:50
Posted by fairywings on September 18, 2005, at 22:16:16
In reply to I was refering to your new vibrator friend! (nm) » fairywings, posted by crazy teresa on September 18, 2005, at 21:52:24
Better yet, susan's ex, he makes better noises! LOL
Posted by crazy teresa on September 19, 2005, at 7:23:02
In reply to Re: blush! Can I bring my husband too?! » crazy teresa, posted by fairywings on September 18, 2005, at 22:16:16
Posted by Susan47 on September 19, 2005, at 21:21:47
In reply to Re: Relationship with Myself .. May Trigger, Sex » Susan47, posted by fairywings on September 17, 2005, at 23:32:53
I think my ex- might be just sick enough to go along with that. Actually, we do not have a great relationship, we have a pretty lousy one, yet still better than many exes. It would be difficult to have a good relationship with S. He's not the type of person that very many people really want to spend a lot of time with, in that way.. including me. He actually did me a lot of psychological harm. I actually did what I thought I was smart enough NOT to do, I married a guy pretty much like my father is/was. And the weird thing is that he was pretty much well-disguised until you scratched the surface. I never gave myself that necessary time. Heavy sigh. In any case, thanks for the thought, wish it were true, haven't had sex since then and even though he tried I'm off limits, it was nice to know I could do it, but I just don't.. care enough that he turns my crank, unless I'm extremely H, which is as I was when that happened. Even then though I had to work hard to make myself feel good, loving feelings towards him. I managed to do it, because I had to and he was the safest person I know.
But it's horrible when the kids find out, which ours did even though we thought we were being secretive. That might be one of the reasons I'm not able to feel turned on anymore to him. Maybe in another six months I'll be with a new man. I hope.
Posted by Susan47 on September 19, 2005, at 21:22:39
In reply to Road trip » fairywings, posted by crazy teresa on September 18, 2005, at 2:52:13
If you drove a motorcycle, she wouldn't need her friend, the seat vibrates deliciously.
Posted by crazy teresa on September 20, 2005, at 0:02:22
In reply to Re: Road trip » crazy teresa, posted by Susan47 on September 19, 2005, at 21:22:39
Posted by fairywings on September 20, 2005, at 6:52:45
In reply to Re: Relationship with Myself .. May Trigger, Sex » fairywings, posted by Susan47 on September 19, 2005, at 21:21:47
OH! Sorry to hear that! If I married someone like my father, I'd well, you don't want to know. he was a total *astard!
Anyway, thought about a vibrator? ; ) Mines fuscia! and the speed adjusts! ; ) www.goodvibrations.com Just in case
Mine's one of their home brands i think. fuscia, soft pliable, adjustable, uses two batteries, and is "ribbed" that's not the right word for it, but....
oh well, not the same, but it helps in a pinch.fw
Posted by Susan47 on October 8, 2005, at 15:24:24
In reply to Re: Relationship with Myself .. May Trigger, Sex » Susan47, posted by fairywings on September 20, 2005, at 6:52:45
I'm going to look into an electric model, Hitachi I think has a good one. But they're expensive. Will have to make do, for now. Does anybody reading this have an electric vibrator, if so, what are they like, are they really better than battery? What types of electric vibrator can you get? I understand the Hitachi model has rabbit ears and a G-spot stimulator. Who's got one???
Posted by alexandra_k on October 8, 2005, at 17:51:13
In reply to VIBRATORS » fairywings, posted by Susan47 on October 8, 2005, at 15:24:24
ew.
okay, so not sure whether other people feel the same as me on this or what but...
ew.
i'm not so much into the idea of having sex with an object or a thing.
i'd rather make do with the hand.
okay, so its not perfect...
but it ain't so bad...(and i've heard that if you use your left hand it't almost like someone else is making love to you lol!)
:-)
Posted by Susan47 on October 9, 2005, at 21:30:12
In reply to Re: VIBRATORS, posted by alexandra_k on October 8, 2005, at 17:51:13
No, you don't actually have sex with it... and I'm not at a point where I can put anything inside me anyway, I honestly think it feels awful, nothing at all like a real penis, nothing is like a real penis inside you. I can't even fake an interest in anything else. But as far as clitoral stimulation, well, the hand gets a bit tired, you know?
Posted by alexandra_k on October 9, 2005, at 21:48:23
In reply to Re: VIBRATORS, posted by Susan47 on October 9, 2005, at 21:30:12
> No, you don't actually have sex with it...
oh. lol! shows how much i know about them then.
> well, the hand gets a bit tired, you know?
yeah okay. point taken...
but then maybe...
thats why god gave us two hands
(and multiple fingers)
lol
don't mind me.i think i get what you are saying...
Posted by Tamar on October 10, 2005, at 6:22:51
In reply to Re: VIBRATORS, posted by alexandra_k on October 8, 2005, at 17:51:13
I didn’t have any sex toys at all until a few months ago when several of my friends gave me toys for Christmas. I don’t know why… But it makes a change from using hands. And if you’ve got a toy, your hands are free for other things :)
I don’t know whether an electric vibrator would be an advantage over a battery-powered vibrator. I guess it depends on how well your batteries last! I’d be more inclined to get a waterproof one (if such a thing exists). But maybe I’m a pervert.
As for having sex with it… Er… (getting embarrassed here)… It was only after being given all these sex toys that I discovered that the G-spot thing isn’t the myth I’d previously thought it was. So that was interesting…
I’ve said enough! I’m going away to hide my blushing face now…
Posted by fairywings on October 10, 2005, at 8:56:47
In reply to Re: VIBRATORS, posted by Tamar on October 10, 2005, at 6:22:51
> I didn’t have any sex toys at all until a few months ago when several of my friends gave me toys for Christmas.
I like your friends! ; ) My husband got me mine in July when he was going out of town! ; ) B4 that I never had a toy either. I would never have thought I'd like it, but I do, it's just different.
>
> As for having sex with it… Er… (getting embarrassed here)… It was only after being given all these sex toys that I discovered that the G-spot thing isn’t the myth I’d previously thought it was. So that was interesting…Me too! ; ) The vibrator just "gets it" better! There's also an F spot, right below the cervix, on the same side as the G-spot.
>
> I’ve said enough! I’m going away to hide my blushing face now…
>
It is embarrassing sometimes, but you know, it's really no different than a great massage, or a great meal, except that those are socially acceptable. Oh well.fw
Posted by alexandra_k on October 10, 2005, at 20:32:44
In reply to Re: VIBRATORS » Tamar, posted by fairywings on October 10, 2005, at 8:56:47
> > As for having sex with it… Er… (getting embarrassed here)… It was only after being given all these sex toys that I discovered that the G-spot thing isn’t the myth I’d previously thought it was. So that was interesting…
> Me too! ; ) The vibrator just "gets it" better! There's also an F spot, right below the cervix, on the same side as the G-spot.
hmm. so they don't come with instruction manuels then ;-)
i'm getting confused about the number of spots...
i've heard of three and i've found two...
> It is embarrassing sometimes, but you know, it's really no different than a great massage, or a great meal, except that those are socially acceptable. Oh well.
yeah. lol. i guess thats true enough!
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