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Posted by Still Hurting on October 13, 2003, at 8:22:04
Well people, I've have had my ex-counselor's home telephone number for some time and I finally did it. I finally called her. At first I called and didn't say anything. She kept saying hello, until I finally hanged up. Then I called right back. Oh wow. All she wanted to know was how I got her number and then she told me that she was hanging up on me. She asked me why I was calling her. So I told her that if I called her at her job then I'm in trouble because they put a restraining order against me on her job so I decided to call her at home. I told her I needed her help to put closure to our therapistic relationship. See, i've been to everyone to put closure to this drama. I've talked about it to so many people that even they have gotten sick about it. I don't know what to do. I go out and I'm hoping that I bump into her. I do on dates and wish that I was there with her instead of them. I don't know what to do. My current therapist is tired of hearing about the situation. But seemingly I can't put an end to this. It is like I took a knife and opened my soul up to this woman. And she just walked straight on it without no regarded to my emotions. When she terminated me as a client, i felt like she had raped me and left me for dead. And I'm supposed to pick up all the pieces and go on with my life. I don't know how. It's like her name has just rented space in my cerebel cortex. I know this is bad. But in my down, lonely, and emotional periods, my heart seems to always want her to comfort me as she did in our therapeutic sessions. Can sometimes therapy not be helpful to some people. Like me who was emotionally and mentally vulnerable to love. So when I found what looked like love, I killed it to death, and now its seems to be killing me. Later, today I will find out if there's a warrant for my arrest. As a professional I'm embarrassed if there is; but somehow, I feel as if her agency should have been more careful when they cut the open strings from her and I.
Posted by loolot on October 13, 2003, at 11:21:35
In reply to Okay, i finally did it !!, posted by Still Hurting on October 13, 2003, at 8:22:04
Still Hurting, I know you are going through a heart wrenching time with this abandonment from your old therapist. It sounds so hard, almost as hard as a break up you dont expect, something like that.
I think you should take a hands off approach to this, though. Consider this a withdrawal period and you have to just get through the shakes and the sweats alone. It will be extremely painful, but the more you try and let this person know how much she hurt you, the less she will even consider your opinion.
She may already know, and if you stay silent and go on with your life she will have to deal with those feelings. If you try and reach her she wont deal with them because she can write you off as mentally ill.
She was wrong for doing that, but you just have to let go now. I am so sorry for all of this. You sound like you are going through so much pain it is almost unbearable.
Just try and weather the storm. Do what you have to do, meditation helps me during these times. Call whomever you can, you are withdrawing, remember...
Just dont let this ruin your own life.
We are here for you on the board, too
Good luck
Posted by Dr. Bob on October 13, 2003, at 17:36:25
In reply to Okay, i finally did it !!, posted by Still Hurting on October 13, 2003, at 8:22:04
> Well people, I've have had my ex-counselor's home telephone number for some time and I finally did it...
Sorry to make this more complicated, but I'd like to redirect this thread to Psychological Babble. Here's a link:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20031011/msgs/269062.html
Thanks,
Bob
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