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Posted by alesta on September 13, 2004, at 0:09:02
i'm at a point where it just seems like nothing means anything...it's depressing..all the things we strive for..to look good, to be noticed, to be smart, to do things well..they add up to nothing..they mean nothing..what is the point?
i'm in a relationship with a guy who doesn't give a damn about me(he's a misogynist)..sometimes i just wish there was a way to have something real..maybe if i was in a relationship based on love i would feel differently..but is that even possible..it seems like superficial appearances or personality or whatever get in the way of true, authentic love..it's not real..and then if you do have true, authentic love, would it just be boring? so you can't win..i don't know..i'm just not feeling that great about life right now..
i have no family anymore so i can't remember how meaningful that is..if at all..this post may seem strange to some of you..i'm unfortunately in a strange place right now..any responses at all appreciated..:)maybe i'm just depressed, but i doubt it..it's hard living with eyes wide open...amy:)
Posted by Dr. Bob on September 13, 2004, at 15:52:21
In reply to feels like nothing means anything..., posted by alesta on September 13, 2004, at 0:09:02
> i'm at a point where it just seems like nothing means anything...it's depressing..all the things we strive for..to look good, to be noticed, to be smart, to do things well..they add up to nothing..they mean nothing..what is the point?
Sorry to interrupt, but I'd like to redirect this thread to Psycho-Social-Babble. Here's a link:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/social/20040907/msgs/390371.html
Thanks,
Bob
Posted by 4WD on September 13, 2004, at 21:53:24
In reply to feels like nothing means anything..., posted by alesta on September 13, 2004, at 0:09:02
> i'm at a point where it just seems like nothing means anything...it's depressing..all the things we strive for..to look good, to be noticed, to be smart, to do things well..they add up to nothing..they mean nothing..what is the point?
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> i'm in a relationship with a guy who doesn't give a damn about me(he's a misogynist)..sometimes i just wish there was a way to have something real..maybe if i was in a relationship based on love i would feel differently..but is that even possible..it seems like superficial appearances or personality or whatever get in the way of true, authentic love..it's not real..and then if you do have true, authentic love, would it just be boring? so you can't win..i don't know..i'm just not feeling that great about life right now..
> i have no family anymore so i can't remember how meaningful that is..if at all..this post may seem strange to some of you..i'm unfortunately in a strange place right now..any responses at all appreciated..:)maybe i'm just depressed, but i doubt it..it's hard living with eyes wide open...
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> amy:)
Amy,It sounds to me as if you are depressed. Didn't you just go off meds and start some alternative therapies? Maybe they just haven't had time to kick in.
When you feel better, you may have the energy to make the changes in your life that will help your depression instead of contributing to it.
What you said in your post sounds so very much like depression. I will be thinking about you and praying for you.
Much love,
Marsha
Posted by alesta on September 14, 2004, at 21:01:41
In reply to Re: feels like nothing means anything... » alesta, posted by 4WD on September 13, 2004, at 21:53:24
hi, marsha:),
you are so sweet, and a good friend to me on pb.:)yes, i agree, i was thinking that, too, about the depression, after i wrote that post..you're absolutely right. the depression is not as bad as it was that day..the antidepressant is kicking in more now (i upped my dosage, too). i tend to start looking for external gratification when i'm depressed as a last resort..and it never satisfies...plus i'm not eating much at all and that can't be helping..there's so much going on right now..i just broke up with my bf after a particularly cruel streak on his part. and i spent hours comforting him previous to that..not that he has ever cared when i'm upset. he is threatening violence and i have just got to get out..but i have no plan whatsoever and no means to leave..i have to find another job that won't involve contact with him..a daunting task..i hope those prayers come in handy, or i am really SOL. this could be the beginning or the end for me. life feels really impossible right now.thank you for your prayers and for thinking of me.
Love,:)
Amy
Posted by 4WD on September 14, 2004, at 21:20:13
In reply to Re: feels like nothing means anything... » 4WD, posted by alesta on September 14, 2004, at 21:01:41
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> hi, marsha:),
> you are so sweet, and a good friend to me on pb.:)yes, i agree, i was thinking that, too, about the depression, after i wrote that post..you're absolutely right. the depression is not as bad as it was that day..the antidepressant is kicking in more now (i upped my dosage, too). i tend to start looking for external gratification when i'm depressed as a last resort..and it never satisfies...plus i'm not eating much at all and that can't be helping..there's so much going on right now..i just broke up with my bf after a particularly cruel streak on his part. and i spent hours comforting him previous to that..not that he has ever cared when i'm upset. he is threatening violence and i have just got to get out..but i have no plan whatsoever and no means to leave..i have to find another job that won't involve contact with him..a daunting task..i hope those prayers come in handy, or i am really SOL. this could be the beginning or the end for me. life feels really impossible right now.
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> thank you for your prayers and for thinking of me.
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> Love,:)
> Amy
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Hi Amy,The best thing that ever happened to me was when my first husband and I decided to get a divorce. It sure didn't feel like it at the time. I was terrified and had no idea how I was going to take care of myself. I never had had to.
I had just started graduate school when we broke up. I had to move to a different town, transfer my classes, find an apartment and a way to support myself (and my eating disorder) and learn to take care of myself. Trust me. When you HAVE to do it, you can.
I was terrified. But things just fell into place. It's amazing how stuff like that works out.
You will be better off without a cruel boyfriend. You have probably been devoting so much of your energies to him that you have none left for yourself. And as bad as he is, I bet he is a sort of "safety net" for you. Like you have him to fall back on if things are hard. But I truly believe that if you believe in yourself, you can take care of yourself way better than he ever could.I guess what I am trying to say is that I believe you are stronger than you know. If you are in a position where you have to swim or drown, I think you would be one of the ones who would swim. I believe in you.
I won't be posting again for several days after tonight because there is a hurricane headed directly for my house (near Mobile, AL). I just wanted to tell you that so you wouldn't wonder where I had disappeared to.
God has answered so many of my prayers. He will help you too.
Love,
Marsha
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Posted by Dr. Bob on September 15, 2004, at 18:56:02
In reply to Re: feels like nothing means anything... » alesta, posted by 4WD on September 14, 2004, at 21:20:13
> The best thing that ever happened to me was when my first husband and I decided to get a divorce...
Sorry to interrupt, but I'd like to redirect follow-ups about divorce, etc., to Psycho-Social-Babble. Here's a link:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/social/20040914/msgs/391227.html
Thanks,
Bob
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