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Posted by zeliva on April 21, 2003, at 14:32:21
In reply to Re: blocked for 8 weeks » Dragonslayer, posted by NikkiT2 on April 21, 2003, at 14:29:25
Who is this person Roxy? I guess I am just slow. I have a hunch. Can someone tell me the last letter of their original posting name. This is driving me nuts now!
jill
Posted by kara lynne on April 21, 2003, at 14:35:41
In reply to Re: blocked for 8 weeks, posted by zeliva on April 21, 2003, at 14:32:21
R is K.
Posted by zeliva on April 21, 2003, at 15:02:36
In reply to Soilent Green Is People, posted by kara lynne on April 21, 2003, at 14:35:41
Posted by fayeroe on April 21, 2003, at 18:40:11
In reply to Re: TY my instict was right! (nm), posted by zeliva on April 21, 2003, at 15:02:36
here's the skinny on the poster. she was on the other forum. many, many sheenanigans were pulled. many angry people. many. this a.m. i was alerted by a e.mail that she might be here. i came, i read and e.mailed the administration. i knew her style, punctuation, etc.......and i'm hopeful that we've ALL read the last!! fayeroe
Posted by ayuda on April 21, 2003, at 21:50:53
In reply to Soilent Green Is People, posted by kara lynne on April 21, 2003, at 14:35:41
Oh wow, I haven't heard a Soilent Green reference in forever!
Posted by kara lynne on April 22, 2003, at 0:28:40
In reply to Re: Soilent Green Is People » kara lynne, posted by ayuda on April 21, 2003, at 21:50:53
Well thank you! I was *waiting* for someone to notice!
Posted by noa on April 22, 2003, at 9:29:43
In reply to Re: TY my instict was right! » zeliva, posted by fayeroe on April 21, 2003, at 18:40:11
I suspected immediately when I read R's first post, too, and that is why I did not respond to her. But it was just a "hunch". Does Dr. Bob have a way of confirming your hunch that it was a blocked poster?
I guess Nikki kind of answered that. But what if someone were to use different access points?
Posted by NikkiT2 on April 22, 2003, at 12:00:47
In reply to Re: TY my instict was right!, posted by noa on April 22, 2003, at 9:29:43
If someone were really determined to post here, there is bascially no way to completely block them (been there done it all with my stalker!)... I'm not gonna go into details here cos I don't want to be giving people ideas!!
Nikki
Posted by ayuda on April 22, 2003, at 12:35:48
In reply to Re: Soilent Green Is People/ayuda, posted by kara lynne on April 22, 2003, at 0:28:40
> Well thank you! I was *waiting* for someone to notice!
As a historian of US popular culture, I am so worried that the great movies, tv shows and jokes of the past few decades will be lost soon. I know that TVLand and Nick at Night show old tv shows, but there are many that are not shown, and lots more movies and books, on which we draw our "common" jokes and references. Sometimes I hear a broadcaster on tv say something that is a line from a 70s tv show or movie, and I think, do kids even get that?
I almost insulted one of my students, though, not knowing he is almost 30, by making reference to George Romero, and asking if that was too obscure a reference. He responded that he isn't THAT young to not know of the Romero zombie movies. So now we trade .wav files of Monty Python quotes!
So not only did I notice the Soilent Green reference (which I found out last night is the name of a metal band these days too, by the way), I am grateful for it!
Posted by kara lynne on April 22, 2003, at 13:23:17
In reply to Re: Soilent Green Is People » kara lynne, posted by ayuda on April 22, 2003, at 12:35:48
Posted by fayeroe on April 22, 2003, at 14:39:30
In reply to Re: TY my instict was right! » noa, posted by NikkiT2 on April 22, 2003, at 12:00:47
i don't want to give people ideas either. but vigilance is the key word! and wariness about strange and stranger posters...dumb and dumber, etc.
Posted by Dragonslayer on April 22, 2003, at 17:36:37
In reply to Re: TY my instict was right! » NikkiT2, posted by fayeroe on April 22, 2003, at 14:39:30
Unfortunately, internet groups, chat rooms, things of the like can be a Mecca for some highly questionable activity like lying, conniving, and tormenting. One can find those who prey on the giving and kindness of others, some will use their illnesses as a convenient excuse – as if they have no behavioral controls. Shamefully, a few spoil what can be a good thing.
Posted by fayeroe on April 22, 2003, at 17:39:37
In reply to Never let your guard down, posted by Dragonslayer on April 22, 2003, at 17:36:37
Posted by shar on April 22, 2003, at 19:09:08
In reply to Never, ever let your guard down+++ (nm), posted by fayeroe on April 22, 2003, at 17:39:37
Posted by shar on April 22, 2003, at 19:14:21
In reply to Re: TY my instict was right! (nm), posted by zeliva on April 21, 2003, at 15:02:36
I think after a while of reading posts and going through some games people play and all that, one develops sort of a 'spider sense' about ruses and hoaxes. Or spotting dishonesty. Not at 100% accuracy, of course, but there are a lot of posts that I wait and see about now, as compared to when I first started posting here.
And, in this situation, I'd not be surprised if a couple more didn't crop up.
Shar
Posted by fayeroe on April 22, 2003, at 19:18:07
In reply to Re: TY my instict was right!, posted by shar on April 22, 2003, at 19:14:21
Posted by Dinah on April 22, 2003, at 21:08:03
In reply to Re: TY my instict was right!, posted by shar on April 22, 2003, at 19:14:21
On the one hand, I don't like being made a fool of. But... I dunno. I think I would feel worse if I didn't welcome someone who needed welcoming.
I guess I've always felt that what other people do is what other people do, and they need to answer for that themselves. But what I do is what I do, and I'm responsible for that no matter what other people do.
Do I have a big bullseye painted on my back?
Posted by Dinah on April 22, 2003, at 21:09:35
In reply to Re: I have mixed feelings, posted by Dinah on April 22, 2003, at 21:08:03
Oh, and by the way. Those were just musings. Not related in any way to anyone's post.
Posted by Dinah on April 23, 2003, at 1:38:17
In reply to Re: I have mixed feelings, posted by Dinah on April 22, 2003, at 21:08:03
Just to be sure I'm clear. By other people I mean those people who might try to make a fool of me.
Posted by leeran on April 23, 2003, at 1:55:09
In reply to Re: I have mixed feelings, posted by Dinah on April 22, 2003, at 21:09:35
Musing as well.
What I love about the internet is what I dislike about the internet - the anonymity. Ten years ago most of us didn't have the opportunity to interact with people from all over the world who share similar interests (or who are dealing with similar issues/problems). I have met some great people who, in turn, have become great friends on the internet (including my husband).
Some have crossed the line between "message board and real life" by stopping in to visit when they’re in this area. So far, I've been really, really lucky (note, I'm talking about seven people, including my husband, not a cast of thousands).
The funny thing is, I am very distrustful by nature, so the fact that I have ever extended myself beyond the safety of a message board has been a real leap of faith (times seven).
The anonymity of the internet can be a drawback, but think of how many times a day we are anonymous. Standing behind people in line at the store, riding an elevator with people you may never see again. Passing through a new town can leave me feeling really anonymous, and nothing is more anonymous (and agonizing) for me than a bar. I guess we run risks wherever we spend much time. Maybe it's an odds thing. Example, I’m home most of the day and I see that I could very well develop agoraphobia without the Wellbutrin.
I actually put two and two together the next day after I responded to the “post in question.” When I replied, I wanted to help. ASAP. I’m very moved by the written word, regardless of whether or not it's grammatically correct. If I perceive pain, I react. It's definitely part of my "fixer" mentality.
I was always very afraid that my mother would commit suicide and in retrospect, I guess I thought that if I talked long and hard enough I could prevent it from happening.
I never thought about it this way 'til I wrote this paragraph, so I guess I can walk away from it feeling like I gained some insight (actually, I'm just rationalizing losing fifteen minutes of my time on a Saturday night :-)
My musings started out with a much greater purpose. Then the Ambien started to kick in.
Posted by shar on April 23, 2003, at 20:00:10
In reply to Re: I have mixed feelings, posted by Dinah on April 22, 2003, at 21:08:03
Dinah,
I think you are a kind and caring and sympathetic person (and secretly wish you were kinder, more caring, and more sympathetic to YOURSELF) and we need bunches of people like you, who are willing to move toward people that say they hurt.The most important thing is doing what feels right to you (except being mean to yourself), and responding to others in a way you can live with.
It'd be a pretty cold world if everybody took my approach. And, variety is what it's all about in most things. We all bring different things to the boards here, and you should certainly not ever apologize or feel bad or foolish for your genuine responses and gifts. Instead, you should feel proud that you do what you think is right. And, if others don't like it, too bad. And, if you get a 'gotcha' every once in a while, join the club; you're in good company here cause we all get got from time to time (even the cynics among us).
And, I don't believe that's a bullseye on your back. The bullseye is on your foot, where you keep shooting yourself by being so harsh and mean to yourself. One of these days I want to read about how you put yourself FIRST.
(For clarification, those are two separate topics I managed to mix in; the one about you being kind to others, and the one about wanting you to be kinder to yourself. They seemed to sort of dovetail as I was writing, but they are actually two different things in case that wasn't very clear.)
Shar
> On the one hand, I don't like being made a fool of. But... I dunno. I think I would feel worse if I didn't welcome someone who needed welcoming.
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> I guess I've always felt that what other people do is what other people do, and they need to answer for that themselves. But what I do is what I do, and I'm responsible for that no matter what other people do.
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> Do I have a big bullseye painted on my back?
Posted by Miller on April 24, 2003, at 15:09:49
In reply to Re: I have mixed feelings » Dinah, posted by shar on April 23, 2003, at 20:00:10
Shar,
That was so perceptive and true. It does justice to know that you have the same thoughts as the rest of us. I feel when I am in need, Dinah is always there. Yet, when she is hurting it is so hard to get through to her! Well done. :)
-Miller
Posted by Dinah on April 24, 2003, at 18:09:25
In reply to Re: I have mixed feelings » Dinah, posted by shar on April 23, 2003, at 20:00:10
Wow, it's eye opening sometimes to see how others see you. Am I really hard on myself? Hmmm... If you and Miller both say so, I'll have to give it some thought. I'm used to being told I'm way too easy on myself. But I'll think about it.
I remember when I first realized here that people didn't have to be what they claimed to be. I know, duh... But it was a huge revelation to me at the time, and took up weeks of therapy. (And I think of myself as a cynic.) Having come to grips with that though, I think the idea of being fooled bothers me less. Now my attitude is more like Jane expressed. It's really amazing that so many people are what they present themselves to be, given the possibilities for deceit. I don't think I'll let the few who aren't truthful mess up the rest for me. And that is completely self serving of me, so you should be impressed. :)
(And Shar and Miller - Thanks to you both. I will think about it.)
Posted by Dragonslayer on April 24, 2003, at 19:23:56
In reply to Re: I have mixed feelings » shar, posted by Dinah on April 24, 2003, at 18:09:25
While we don't "know" one another - Dinah, I do envy your attitude and wish I could get back to looking at things that way. I did at one time, I'm sure. I have had some abusive, tormenting, and disturbing situations from internet "connections", so I keep it superficial, now. Maybe I should discuss with my therapist why I appear to draw those types. It does make me wonder.
You are correct - the good experiences do outweight the bad. The bad stuff is unfortunately what sticks with me. Keep being one of the open people, they are needed.
Posted by shar on April 25, 2003, at 21:26:42
In reply to Shar!!, posted by Miller on April 24, 2003, at 15:09:49
Thanks for your compliment, Miller.
I am very fond of Dinah. We will have to keep hassling Dinah about being better to herself.....tag team.....
Shar
> Shar,
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> That was so perceptive and true. It does justice to know that you have the same thoughts as the rest of us. I feel when I am in need, Dinah is always there. Yet, when she is hurting it is so hard to get through to her! Well done. :)
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> -Miller
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