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Posted by Dinah on January 26, 2005, at 4:49:01
In reply to Re: Actually, posted by mair on January 25, 2005, at 21:30:37
Posted by Atticus on January 26, 2005, at 10:50:41
In reply to Re: please be civil » Atticus, posted by Dr. Bob on January 26, 2005, at 1:36:58
Jesus wept! Not another PBC! I'm accruing these things like bloody speeding tickets. Good thing I'm about to go on holiday from PB. I do think that if you could demonstrate a much, much greater degree of empathy in all your decisions, and if you could bring yourself to allow intuitive empathy to shape your decisions more (or better still, all the time), you'd have a much more harmonious site. Next you'll argue that this would be unfair and capricious. Well, guess what, boyo: You're already very widely viewed as unfair and capricious -- and I believe one poster even referred to you as "heartless" as well. Let your heart rule your head more often, and I think your decisions as an administrator will be more successful and better received. I'd still like to see you apologize to Angel Girl for what I (and many, many others here) think was an appalling lapse of judgment. I think just that simple gesture would go a long way toward healing the wounds you've left across this site, and the damage you've done to your "status" as an authority figure. Because right now a good deal of this site is united in its disgust with you. That means all your future decisions will be questioned as well. Better to admit to one mistake and make a gentle and kind human being feel better than to stand pat due to some kind of foolish pride. I'd certainly think more of you, and that's saying a lot. Now I'm off the site for a non-PB holiday for about a month. All of this cr*p has really left my emotions twisted and unstable, and in someone with rapid-cycling BP, that ain't a good thing. I'll be curious to see whether you stay the same or grow as an administrator and a person in my absence. Atticus
Posted by Tabitha on January 26, 2005, at 11:23:10
In reply to Re: please be civil » Atticus, posted by Dr. Bob on January 26, 2005, at 1:36:58
I just cracked up reading Dinah's apology paragraph in Dr Bob's PBC. It sounds so very non-Bob-like. I had to check the post header to make sure it was Dr Bob posting.
Posted by Dinah on January 26, 2005, at 12:17:30
In reply to Re: The new Dr Bob?, posted by Tabitha on January 26, 2005, at 11:23:10
Well, to give him credit, he remembered it and used it properly in context. :) Even more to his credit, he did go to the trouble of rewording it slightly so that it felt more comfortable to him (or to correct my grammar errors) and to personalize it to the poster and the situation.
You know, I strongly suspect that people overestimate Dr. Bob's pleasure in compliance. I think he has a real fondness for those with a fighting spirit. And irreverence. I've definitely noticed a fondness for irreverence.
Posted by AuntieMel on January 26, 2005, at 13:42:32
In reply to Re: The new Dr Bob? » Tabitha, posted by Dinah on January 26, 2005, at 12:17:30
Then I must be his new best friend!
Posted by Gabbix2 on January 26, 2005, at 14:18:07
In reply to Re: The new Dr Bob? » Tabitha, posted by Dinah on January 26, 2005, at 12:17:30
If he'd asked Atticus to play Spiderman with him and the Guys..
Posted by Angel Girl on January 26, 2005, at 15:01:26
In reply to Re: The new Dr Bob? » Tabitha, posted by Dinah on January 26, 2005, at 12:17:30
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> I think he has a real fondness for those with a fighting spirit. And irreverence. I've definitely noticed a fondness for irreverence.
Maybe that was MY big mistake. I kept apologizing to Dr.Bob for my irreverence. Maybe he would've liked me if I hadn't.AG (who is still very much reeling from last night here)
Posted by Fallen4MyT on January 26, 2005, at 16:37:04
In reply to Re: please be civil » Atticus, posted by Dr. Bob on January 26, 2005, at 1:36:58
??????
> > if your mind ever gets hungry enough to ponder the possibility of your being fallible.
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> Please don't be sarcastic or post anything that could lead others to feel put down.
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> I really thought about posting this and decided it was the right course of action for the board because I'd like the atmosphere here to be as harmonious as possible. However, I realize that although I do my best to do what I believe is in the best interests of the board, my action may distress you. If this distresses you (or others), I sincerely regret that. While I may not be able to repair things in the way that you would wish, I do want to tell you that I and the community value you for your fighting spirit and I hope that this doesn't unduly affect your continued relationship with the community. Best wishes,
>
> Bob
Posted by Dinah on January 26, 2005, at 17:32:45
In reply to Re: The new Dr Bob? » Dinah, posted by Angel Girl on January 26, 2005, at 15:01:26
Angel Girl, to some extent I was kidding and speculating. Dr. Bob shows equal distance to all, as far as I can see. I don't think he has any dislike for you. Anyone who looks for a personal reaction from Dr. Bob is doomed to be disappointed.
But he provides a nice service for us by providing the space for this community. And we can get tons of personal reactions from others here.
Posted by Angel Girl on January 26, 2005, at 21:34:05
In reply to Re: The new Dr Bob? » Angel Girl, posted by Dinah on January 26, 2005, at 17:32:45
> Angel Girl, to some extent I was kidding and speculating. Dr. Bob shows equal distance to all, as far as I can see. I don't think he has any dislike for you. Anyone who looks for a personal reaction from Dr. Bob is doomed to be disappointed.
>
> But he provides a nice service for us by providing the space for this community. And we can get tons of personal reactions from others here.
DinahThanks for clearing that up for me.
AG
Posted by Tabitha on January 27, 2005, at 0:15:57
In reply to Re: The new Dr Bob? » Tabitha, posted by Dinah on January 26, 2005, at 12:17:30
> Well, to give him credit, he remembered it and used it properly in context. :) Even more to his credit, he did go to the trouble of rewording it slightly so that it felt more comfortable to him (or to correct my grammar errors) and to personalize it to the poster and the situation.
That's nice, but if he wants us to believe it's really him talking, I think he'll need to reduce it down to 8 words or less. ;-)
Posted by AuntieMel on January 27, 2005, at 13:37:26
In reply to Re: please be civil/ AN APOLOGY FROM DR BOB? » Dr. Bob, posted by Fallen4MyT on January 26, 2005, at 16:37:04
I read it as sarcasm.
Another case of two people reading the same thing and getting different impressions, Dr. Bob??
Posted by Angel Girl on January 27, 2005, at 14:42:58
In reply to Re: APOLOGY FROM DR BOB? I read it as..... » Fallen4MyT, posted by AuntieMel on January 27, 2005, at 13:37:26
> I read it as sarcasm.
>
> Another case of two people reading the same thing and getting different impressions, Dr. Bob??
WOW!!! I never considered that Dr. Bob was being sarcastic at all. I thought he was being genuine. Of course, I could be wrong as I tend to be a little naive and want to think the best of everyone. That's not to say that you are wrong, just giving my viewpoint and now am curious to know if Dr. Bob was being genuine or sarcastic.AG
Posted by Gabbix2 on January 27, 2005, at 14:55:48
In reply to Re: APOLOGY FROM DR BOB? I read it as..... » AuntieMel, posted by Angel Girl on January 27, 2005, at 14:42:58
> > I read it as sarcasm.
> >
> > Another case of two people reading the same thing and getting different impressions, Dr. Bob??
>
>
Yeah, Dr. Bob can be a Rorschac test, in this case I didn't sense sarcasm, but on occasion his P.B.C's make me wonder if he has a really dry sense of humor. Like the one that read "Please don't accuse anyone here of causing the deaths of millions.
But other times, I think he's just being Auto-Bob
Posted by partlycloudy on January 27, 2005, at 15:08:58
In reply to Re: APOLOGY FROM DR BOB? I read it as....., posted by Gabbix2 on January 27, 2005, at 14:55:48
I thought Dr Bob's post was a real departure from the ol' cut and paste from the FAQs. My sarcasm detector wasn't alerted, but it does need to be recalibrated after the workout it gets here sometimes.
Posted by Gabbix2 on January 27, 2005, at 15:15:27
In reply to Re: APOLOGY FROM DR BOB? I read it as....., posted by partlycloudy on January 27, 2005, at 15:08:58
> I thought Dr Bob's post was a real departure from the ol' cut and paste from the FAQs. My sarcasm detector wasn't alerted, but it does need to be recalibrated after the workout it gets here sometimes. : )
I really liked it, it's unfortunate though, every time I see he makes an effort to be more personal, because of the reaction I can understand why he was the way he was before.
I think he made a friendly comment to someone's post recently, and someone else was hurt because he hadn't commented on their post.
I'm not criticizing the reactions at all, it just helps me understand why he maintains his distance.
Posted by Fallen4MyT on January 27, 2005, at 16:52:39
In reply to Re: APOLOGY FROM DR BOB? I read it as..... » Fallen4MyT, posted by AuntieMel on January 27, 2005, at 13:37:26
> I read it as sarcasm.
>
> Another case of two people reading the same thing and getting different impressions, Dr. Bob??Wow maybe I dunno...????
Posted by Angel Girl on January 27, 2005, at 17:15:56
In reply to Re: APOLOGY FROM DR BOB? I read it as....., posted by Gabbix2 on January 27, 2005, at 14:55:48
Gabbix
Wow!!! That's a new one to me. What was the post that he would make that kind of comment on?
AG
> >
> Yeah, Dr. Bob can be a Rorschac test, in this case I didn't sense sarcasm, but on occasion his P.B.C's make me wonder if he has a really dry sense of humor. Like the one that read "Please don't accuse anyone here of causing the deaths of millions.
> But other times, I think he's just being Auto-Bob
>
>
Posted by Angel Girl on January 27, 2005, at 17:18:54
In reply to Re: APOLOGY FROM DR BOB? I read it as....., posted by Gabbix2 on January 27, 2005, at 15:15:27
Gabbix
I guess it just goes to prove that you can't ever make everybody happy, especially when there are so many posters here.
AG
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> I really liked it, it's unfortunate though, every time I see he makes an effort to be more personal, because of the reaction I can understand why he was the way he was before.
> I think he made a friendly comment to someone's post recently, and someone else was hurt because he hadn't commented on their post.
> I'm not criticizing the reactions at all, it just helps me understand why he maintains his distance.
>
Posted by Gabbix2 on January 27, 2005, at 17:27:40
In reply to Re: APOLOGY FROM DR BOB? I read it as..... » Gabbix2, posted by Angel Girl on January 27, 2005, at 17:15:56
> Gabbix
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> Wow!!! That's a new one to me. What was the post that he would make that kind of comment on?
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> AG
Oh it was an old old one, and I can't remember off hand, I think it *may* have been about someone advocating a certain medication, but it's the response that registered with me.
It's in the archives íf you do a search.
Posted by Angel Girl on January 27, 2005, at 18:00:53
In reply to Re: APOLOGY FROM DR BOB? I read it as..... » Angel Girl, posted by Gabbix2 on January 27, 2005, at 17:27:40
> > Gabbix
> >
> > Wow!!! That's a new one to me. What was the post that he would make that kind of comment on?
> >
> > AG
> Oh it was an old old one, and I can't remember off hand, I think it *may* have been about someone advocating a certain medication, but it's the response that registered with me.
> It's in the archives íf you do a search.
GabbixI think the response is comical unless it was about meds, then maybe not.
AG
Posted by Dinah on January 27, 2005, at 19:06:52
In reply to Re: APOLOGY FROM DR BOB? I read it as..... » Fallen4MyT, posted by AuntieMel on January 27, 2005, at 13:37:26
I know that for certain.
I would be sorry though if his taking my suggestion led to problems for him. I thought it was kind of nice of him.
Posted by alexandra_k on January 27, 2005, at 19:18:05
In reply to Re: APOLOGY FROM DR BOB? I read it as....., posted by Gabbix2 on January 27, 2005, at 15:15:27
> I really liked it, it's unfortunate though, every time I see he makes an effort to be more personal, because of the reaction I can understand why he was the way he was before.
> I think he made a friendly comment to someone's post recently, and someone else was hurt because he hadn't commented on their post.
> I'm not criticizing the reactions at all, it just helps me understand why he maintains his distance.Yeah Gabbix, you read my mind.
Posted by Gabbix2 on January 27, 2005, at 19:56:46
In reply to Re: APOLOGY FROM DR BOB? I read it as..... » Gabbix2, posted by alexandra_k on January 27, 2005, at 19:18:05
Fair's Fair Alexandra. Now would you please read my mind and then post about it under the gated communities thread?
Teasing..
Gx2
Posted by Angel Girl on January 27, 2005, at 21:26:56
In reply to It wasn't sarcasm » AuntieMel, posted by Dinah on January 27, 2005, at 19:06:52
> I know that for certain.
>
> I would be sorry though if his taking my suggestion led to problems for him. I thought it was kind of nice of him.
I thought so too Dinah. I thought he was making a genuine effort after reading your post. I was happy to see him apply it.AG
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