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Posted by fayeroe on July 23, 2010, at 12:11:11
In reply to Re: Ratings » fayeroe, posted by Dinah on July 22, 2010, at 16:51:49
> Would you prefer that?
Would I prefer to not being involved in a rating system here? Of course I don't want to be involved in it.
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> I don't think I've ever seen you posting on Admin when you didn't also post supportively on other boards. You were the only one who answered me on Psychology recently and I thank you for it.You are welcome. I did that because I saw your pain. N
You've often been very supportive to me, and I know you to be supportive to others.
But, Dinah I've never posted to anyone expecting a score/rating/reward. That goes against everything I stand for as a person who tries to help others.
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> I wouldn't think it would be a particularly onerous task to talk to other Babblers rather than just Bob?I can't answer that.
Posted by fayeroe on July 23, 2010, at 12:20:19
In reply to Re: Ratings » Dinah, posted by Deneb on July 22, 2010, at 15:13:31
> That's a great idea Dinah!
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> Ooooh, there is so much potential in this!Potential for what, Deneb?
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Posted by fayeroe on July 23, 2010, at 12:25:38
In reply to Re: blocked for week » ron1953 » Toph, posted by Dr. Bob on July 23, 2010, at 0:43:14
Truth=Uncivil.
Posted by jade k on July 23, 2010, at 12:41:47
In reply to Re: 'OPTING OUT' FYI thread goes too » jade k, posted by 10derHeart on July 20, 2010, at 20:42:33
> You are not blocked, I imagine, because Dr. Bob gives some time for posters to decide to apologize for uncivil posts. He only warned you about 6 hours ago or so, right? Don't know if he has a general rule of thumb for how long, but it's often at least a day, I think.
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> Did I have a temper tantrum I've forgotten? I've had a few in life, but none publicly on the boards that I recall...? Well, I feel dumb now.
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> I'd rather you not get blocked, but i understand that Babble and Dr. Bob's ways aren't for everyone.Oh hey 10derheart!
I just now saw, that you posted me again. I was just having a bad day. Sometimes I get tired of all the drama and want to leave, and other times I feel I have been here long enough to feel connected if that makes sense. Haha, no, you didn't have a temper tantrum, I definately can't imagine that. It was a poster. Sorry. Anyway, weather here is okay so I'm goin outside sorry again for the negative post. I just get worried about what's gonna happen. I hope nothing! I'm sure (I hope) Dr Bob will handle any problems that arise. Btw, I rephrased and didn't get blocked! Thats gotta be a first!
Take care,
~Jade :-)
Posted by jade k on July 23, 2010, at 12:49:08
In reply to Re: blocked for week for telling truth. » Dr. Bob, posted by fayeroe on July 23, 2010, at 12:25:38
> Truth=Uncivil.
You didn't get there in time with one of your outstanding rephrases.
~Jade
Posted by Dinah on July 23, 2010, at 13:10:31
In reply to Re: Point system » Dinah, posted by fayeroe on July 23, 2010, at 12:05:06
I thought I'd been enormously clear how *not* on board with it I am. I am frankly horrified at the idea. So is my therapist. He had the same reaction I did. He laughed that Dr. Bob couldn't do a better job of getting rid of Babblers if he tried.
It might be appropriate on large, fact oriented boards. Though I actually don't think it is, and I've seen very negative reactions to it on large, fact oriented boards. Nor do I see it as really adding to those boards. Quite the contrary. But in a small community like this, it staggers my apparently limited imagination to believe anyone would think it will lead to anything but hurt and resentment and anger.
That being said, when Dr. Bob seems set on doing something, I find that trying to convince him not to do it is rarely worthwhile, and finding a way for posters to wiggle around his "improvements" is far better.
That was impossible with the Twitter/Facebook idea. We needed Dr. Bob to provide us with an opt out. We didn't need Dr. Bob to decide to post when someone is in danger of going over three posts. While I'd like to have Dr. Bob provide a total opt out for posters on this, or to create separate boards so that he can better see how well his idea adds to the board. But if he won't do that, the only practical solution I can see is to either not post on threads begun by posters who rate, or to not post on threads begun by posters who don't rate every single reply that was well intentioned as "helpful". If only the most helpful post is "thanked", then I'd avoid the threads of posters who rate entirely. It's not what I prefer, since I really hate to boycott anyone. But it's the only choice Dr. Bob leaves me, given my feelings on the topic.
Besides, I don't think I'd particularly want to converse with people who only thank some of the people who care enough to take the trouble to respond to their threads. I hate to have to feel that way about other posters and really would prefer not to know who would do that, but again it's the way Dr. Bob is setting it up to be.
If you're not given any choice, then you have to work with what you've got.
I've already tried to leave Babble and haven't found anyplace that suits me as well. So I suppose that it's Babble or nothing for me. I don't seem to be all that good at doing nothing either. So I suppose I don't leave me with that many choices either.
I *will not* participate in a ratings system. If Dr. Bob doesn't allow me to opt out officially, I'll opt out unofficially.
Posted by Dinah on July 23, 2010, at 13:23:05
In reply to Re: Ratings » Dinah, posted by fayeroe on July 23, 2010, at 12:11:11
Ah, I think I misunderstood you.
I thought you were saying you wouldn't want to post on Admin if you had to post elsewhere as well. I was confused by that, because you generally do.
My suggestion, which I've dropped because Dr. Bob seems to have combined it with his other idea, wasn't about ratings. Just a numerical post count. No judgment involved.
I must have been way more polite to Dr. Bob than I thought I was... I hope he hasn't misunderstood my posts to mean I support his idea.
Posted by PartlyCloudy on July 23, 2010, at 13:23:12
In reply to Re: Point system » Dinah, posted by fayeroe on July 23, 2010, at 12:05:06
> I didn't realize that you were so on board with this, Dinah.
I had the same impression and was taken aback by it. I've since read Dinah's post in reply and my brain is not keeping up. !!??!!
pc
Posted by PartlyCloudy on July 23, 2010, at 13:24:13
In reply to Re: Ratings, posted by Dinah on July 22, 2010, at 15:02:51
> Now, if Dr. Bob really wants to give points, it might be a good idea to limit posting on the Admin board to those who have posted 20 on topic and civil posts on boards other than Admin in the past month. Perhaps he could even make that to include at least five civil responses to people outside their core group.
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> Admin could be limited to just those people who actively use Babble. It would seem that posting on Admin would be quite an incentive, since that seems to be one of the more lively boards.
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> There would be no judgment involved. Just a computer count of posts, with deductions for posts deemed uncivil and posts that are administrative in nature but posted on other boards.I'm sorry, but this reads like an endorsement to me.
Posted by Dinah on July 23, 2010, at 13:28:32
In reply to Re: Point system, posted by PartlyCloudy on July 23, 2010, at 13:23:12
Was my post in reply to Faye's still obscure?
I was basically saying that I am totally against the idea, and in fact it's had me so riled that I'm sick to my stomach at the thought. But if he's going to do it, I'm going to figure out a way to not participate in it.
My only other choice is to leave Babble, and I've tried doing that too many times to think I'd succeed short of being blocked out of Babble by Dr. Bob.
Posted by Dinah on July 23, 2010, at 13:36:16
In reply to Re: Ratings » Dinah, posted by PartlyCloudy on July 23, 2010, at 13:24:13
That was a suggestion I later *dropped*.
It had nothing to do with rating or judging other posters. It only had to do with counting posts, which could be done by computer.
I have no huge objection to counting posts, if the number is low enough. Twenty posts a month is hardly an insurmountable hurdle. And I don't think it's an entirely bad thing to encourage posters to interact with other posters on nonadministrative matters. It's not, to my mind, exclusionary.
What I object to is not recognizing that anyone who cares enough to post *is* helpful by virtue of caring enough about another poster to post. In a community, I think everyone should be considered valuable. Dr. Bob claims that this wouldn't be doing that. But he also says that other posters could see how "helpful" you've been to other posters. I suppose Dr. Bob thinks it's ok to think that degrees of value are ok here. I think it's a recipe for disaster.
Posted by PartlyCloudy on July 23, 2010, at 14:00:25
In reply to Re: Ratings » PartlyCloudy, posted by Dinah on July 23, 2010, at 13:36:16
> That was a suggestion I later *dropped*.
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OK, I missed that. I'm sorry.> I think it's a recipe for disaster.
Agreed!!
Posted by BayLeaf on July 23, 2010, at 19:06:19
In reply to Re: Point system, posted by Dr. Bob on July 23, 2010, at 2:58:17
I don't want the creater of this or any thread to rate my post as helpful or not helpful. I do my best when I post. I may not always succeed. I don't need my misses/failures pointed out. I do my best to communicate my ideas and feelings.
A poster may not be ready to hear something which is SUPER helpful, crafted by a PhD, etc., but we may simply not know the poster all that well. Could be a quiet one, or a newbie. So we try our best. Poster may not be ready to hear this great, supportive idea. So poster could rate the post NOT helpful.
WTH? Who the BLEEP does that help?? What am I missing here Bob?
Posted by BayLeaf on July 23, 2010, at 19:11:29
In reply to Re: blocked for week » ron1953 » Toph, posted by Dr. Bob on July 23, 2010, at 0:43:14
It's a volatile time here Bob....cut folks some slack, wouldcha? Just post a general - "please be nicer so I don't have to block a bunch of yous knuckleheads", might be useful.
Posted by fayeroe on July 23, 2010, at 21:17:24
In reply to Re: blocked for week » Dr. Bob, posted by BayLeaf on July 23, 2010, at 19:11:29
> It's a volatile time here Bob....cut folks some slack, wouldcha? Just post a general - "please be nicer so I don't have to block a bunch of yous knuckleheads", might be useful.
Ditto, Bayleaf.
Recently Bob said that "the posters can't manage the group alone" yet when he is here people are much more likely to be upset and say things that they probably wouldn't say under ordinary circumstances.
Posted by chujoe on July 24, 2010, at 8:06:33
In reply to Re: blocked for week » BayLeaf, posted by fayeroe on July 23, 2010, at 21:17:24
>>Recently Bob said that "the posters can't manage the group alone" yet when he is here people are much more likely to be upset and say things that they probably wouldn't say under ordinary circumstances.<<
Ditto, indeed. I actually thought that remark about posters not being able to manage the group by themselves to be, well, uncivil.
Posted by fayeroe on July 24, 2010, at 10:12:01
In reply to Re: blocked for week » fayeroe, posted by chujoe on July 24, 2010, at 8:06:33
> >>Recently Bob said that "the posters can't manage the group alone" yet when he is here people are much more likely to be upset and say things that they probably wouldn't say under ordinary circumstances.<<
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> Ditto, indeed. I actually thought that remark about posters not being able to manage the group by themselves to be, well, uncivil.Yes, I thought at the time that it fell into the uncivil category.
Personally, I would like to see Bob let the members know that he is going to be spending less time here. Letting the posters know what he is doing is key.
Previously, he has disappeared and some posters had problems because no one knew how long he was going to be gone and if something "happened" people were likely to become very upset. Fear of the unknown.
It would be nice if members felt like we have a partnership with Bob. I ain't feeling it.
Posted by sigismund on July 24, 2010, at 17:05:52
In reply to Re: blocked for week » chujoe, posted by fayeroe on July 24, 2010, at 10:12:01
>It would be nice if members felt like we have a partnership with Bob.
It doesn't feel like a very happy relationship, does it?
If I owned a website and had a relationship with posters like Bob does, I'd feel awful about it.
Posted by fayeroe on July 24, 2010, at 17:50:28
In reply to Re: blocked for week, posted by sigismund on July 24, 2010, at 17:05:52
> >It would be nice if members felt like we have a partnership with Bob.
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> It doesn't feel like a very happy relationship, does it?
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> If I owned a website and had a relationship with posters like Bob does, I'd feel awful about it.The main reason that I enjoyed teaching in a prison is that I established a good relationship with each offender. We all worked well together and frequently the offenders would tell me that they were less likely to cause problems in their pod after one of my classes. One day a younger offender started crying and said that the classroom was the only place he felt equal to everyone else. I cried and I saw several of the "rough and tough" guys wiping their eyes.
A good relationship in all aspect of our lives makes everything brighter and easier. My 11 year old granddaughter told me "my other nana treats me like I am a dumb little kid and you treat me like I am your partner". That is one of the nicest compliments I have ever had.
Another good example would be our partnership when we were commenting in the Politics forum. That was so much fun and I looked forward to it each day.
Posted by gardenergirl on July 24, 2010, at 18:19:43
In reply to Re: blocked for week » sigismund, posted by fayeroe on July 24, 2010, at 17:50:28
That's quite a gift you give your students and loved ones.
Way to go!gg
Posted by sigismund on July 24, 2010, at 22:10:38
In reply to feeling equal » fayeroe, posted by gardenergirl on July 24, 2010, at 18:19:43
In some volunteer organisations people get on very well because, not being paid, they really have to be nice to each other for the organisation to work well.
It seems to me that the application of the civility rules has alienated a significant number of people and now Bob is reaching for a technical fix.
Some of those people would have gone anyway, and some would not.
It was something I really enjoyed on Politics, working out how to say what I wanted within the framework of the civility rules. Still, when there are blocks like Lil jimmy's for linking to a site critical of the torture policy of the previous Administration....and not everyone wants to spend hours figuring out how to say stuff. People just leave instead. For the record, I'm in favour of some kind of moderation and rules.
Posted by fayeroe on July 24, 2010, at 22:26:02
In reply to Re: feeling equal )fayeroe, posted by sigismund on July 24, 2010, at 22:10:38
Did you know that Lil' Jimmy lives in Austin? I am 35 miles southwest in a small town. I lost his email address so I don't know how to get in touch with him. I liked him a lot.
No doubt we need rules and moderation. We just don't need to be "tweaked" to death.
I am beginning to care less and less again. I know Bob will do whatever he pleases whether it will work for the posters or not.
Babble posts will be on every website that will take them.
Yeah, I really miss talking about politics. I talk to the dogs and cats now. :-) We've been discussing the new law that Arizona just passed that pertains to illegal immigration. Check it out. While you are at it, look at what is happening to a sheriff who dislikes the law. He is under the microscope of those who want everyone to enforce it. I believe his last name is Dobson. I'll check and email it to you. It is very interesting.
Pat
Posted by fayeroe on July 25, 2010, at 15:08:03
In reply to feeling equal » fayeroe, posted by gardenergirl on July 24, 2010, at 18:19:43
> That's quite a gift you give your students and loved ones.
> Way to go!
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> ggThanks, I've found that working out in the real world certainly helps one see the big picture.
Posted by Dr. Bob on July 26, 2010, at 2:53:10
In reply to Re: feeling equal )fayeroe » sigismund, posted by fayeroe on July 24, 2010, at 22:26:02
> Yeah, I really miss talking about politics.
Sorry to interrupt, but I'd like to redirect more social posts to Psycho-Babble Social. Here's a link:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/social/20100716/msgs/955946.html
If it keeps being about politics, I might redirect it again. :-)
That'll be considered a different thread, so if you'd like to be notified by email of follow-ups to it, you'll need to request that there. Thanks,
Bob
Posted by Dr. Bob on July 26, 2010, at 3:57:28
In reply to Re: blocked for week » chujoe, posted by fayeroe on July 24, 2010, at 10:12:01
> So the poster originating the thread awards the helpfulness points?
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> So that we can de facto opt out by choosing not to reply to anyone who decides to use the system?Yes, or you could just opt out:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20100714/msgs/955117.html
> I don't think I'd particularly want to converse with people who only thank some of the people who care enough to take the trouble to respond to their threads.
Do you only converse now with people who thank everyone who responds to their threads?
> he also says that other posters could see how "helpful" you've been to other posters. I suppose Dr. Bob thinks it's ok to think that degrees of value are ok here. I think it's a recipe for disaster.
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> DinahI think it's clear that some people are considered helpful by more posters and some by fewer. Differences between members of a community are a fact of life. Why would acknowledging that be a disaster?
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> A poster may not be ready to hear something which is SUPER helpful, crafted by a PhD, etc., but we may simply not know the poster all that well. Could be a quiet one, or a newbie. So we try our best. Poster may not be ready to hear this great, supportive idea. So poster could rate the post NOT helpful.
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> WTH? Who the BLEEP does that help?? What am I missing here Bob?1. There wouldn't be a "not helpful" button:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20100714/msgs/955563.html
2. The poster would consider other posts helpful.
3. Those people would feel good for having been considered helpful.
4. The original poster would feel good for having thanked them.
5. The PhD would learn what kind of posts that poster feels helped by.
6. Other posters might consider the PhD's posts helpful.
> It's a volatile time here Bob....cut folks some slack, wouldcha? Just post a general - "please be nicer so I don't have to block a bunch of yous knuckleheads", might be useful.
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> BayLeafI tried something like that:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20100714/msgs/955115.html
Other posters might be useful, too. :-)
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> I've never posted to anyone expecting a score/rating/reward.
Have you ever appreciated being thanked?
> It would be nice if members felt like we have a partnership with Bob. I ain't feeling it.
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> fayeroeI sense a lot of anxiety, but I think posters still have some misunderstandings, and are continuing to clarify their concerns, and I'm trying to address those. A partnership can be hard work.
Bob
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