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Posted by DaisyM on December 2, 2003, at 14:14:40
I've decided that just like everything else, therapy has "stages" -- developmentally very much like a child. It struck me after my appointment last night that I've moved into a new stage, though I don't have a handle all the way on what it is yet.
I guess I can't tell if I've move backwards or forewards. I feel very shut down but the good thing is that I have (finally!) been able to close off some of the neediness and I don't feel "so" depressed.
I told my Therapist this when he asked how I had been feeling. I told him that I felt like we had "gone through" something. He thought maybe it had to do with his "question" (see above post) and wondered if perhaps he shouldn't have asked it. I disagreed because it helped me quiet myself. I called it a reality check -- a little like cold water. He said he didn't think it was a good thing because he thinks now I'm hiding myself again, especially that part that had just started to express any overt needs. He seemed sorry that he asked it...
So now I don't know what to talk about Thursday, because even if I'm hiding myself, it is so much better than needing him so much and not being able to figure out why or what exactly I want him to do for me.
Backwards or forwards? Holding still seems the safest option!
-D
Posted by zenhussy on December 2, 2003, at 14:30:41
In reply to Therapy Stages - back or forth? , posted by DaisyM on December 2, 2003, at 14:14:40
DaisyM,
Recently both my pdoc and therapist have said to me that one step forward and ten steps back isn't okay. One step forward and two or three steps back is acceptable in my case.
See what feels right for you. If you are functioning satisfactorily for you then I think you're doing great. If you do indeed see where your therp. is coming from with the 'hiding' comment then perhaps express your need to hide to your therp. and see if he can't respect your need to step back after what you felt was a breakthrough to a new stage.
I think that your sense of not needing him as much sounds good for you. Congrats on that.
Why can't holding/hiding be a way of moving forward, be it ever so slowly....
zenhussy
Posted by Poet on December 2, 2003, at 16:01:30
In reply to Therapy Stages - back or forth? , posted by DaisyM on December 2, 2003, at 14:14:40
Hi Daisy,
That you are less depressed and have closed off some of the neediness is a step forward from where you were.
Holding still is better than going backwards.
You can move forward again when you're ready.On Thursday maybe you can talk more about why you feel safer hiding yourself and why you think it's better for you right now.
Poet
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