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Posted by fallsfall on December 9, 2003, at 18:58:34
Yesterday's therapy was very hard and very confusing. I really don't know what he was trying to say at the end - usually I will try to think about whatever he says at the end so we can move on in the next session. But I was so confused that I decided that I couldn't work on it, and that it would be OK for me to take a couple of days break from therapy. Just focus on my life until Thursday.
Last night I didn't get to bed until 2 (helping a friend). I got up at 6:30 to take my daughter to school. By 8 I was back in bed for the 2nd half of my "night's" sleep. My alarm was set for 11.
At 10:00 my phone rang. It was my therapist. He wanted to change the time of my appointment on Thursday - could I come in the morning instead of the afternoon? I told him that I could. He apologized for keeping needing to switch times on me (it really isn't a big deal - as long as he doesn't switch days). I said it wasn't a problem. Then he asked if I was OK. He had woken me up, so I'm sure I sounded groggy. Yes, I answered, I was just up late last night. I was trying really hard not to "talk" to him - he called to change the appointment, I didn't think it was fair to talk about what was going on, or my confusion over the session etc. I'm trying to be able to wait until the next session. So I didn't want to go into a lot of detail about why I had been up late. But he hesitated, and I figured he was worried that I didn't sleep because of the session. So I told him that I helped a friend go into the hospital. I told him that it was a friend from my support group. Oh, he said. (And I thought, wonderful. He's going to give me grief about helping my friend.) He said that there wasn't anything wrong with doing that (at least we are both thinking in the same direction now), but it was just that it was ... I supplied the word "distracting", and he agreed. He said we could talk about it on Thursday (except I have more important things to talk about). He reconfirmed the new time and we hung up.
There I was, in my comfy, warm bed having just talked to my therapist (who has a wonderful accent, by the way - very soothing). *He* called me. Sometimes I think that I call him because I want to make sure he is still there, and I want to make sure that he is thinking of me - that he remembers me. For once in my life I was actually having a day when I wasn't obsessing about him, when I wasn't feeling needy. I was so ready to just let things sit until Thursday. And he was worried about me (twice, in fact: that I had stayed up late because of the session, and that I would think he disapproved of my helping my friend). And he would have talked more about these things if I wanted to.
Talk about bliss. Beyond my wildest dreams.
This has got to be transference or countertransference or both. Real life can't feel this good.
Posted by Dinah on December 9, 2003, at 19:17:07
In reply to Better than ice cream, posted by fallsfall on December 9, 2003, at 18:58:34
Can't say that's ever happened to me. Must feel good. :)
Posted by fallsfall on December 9, 2003, at 21:38:35
In reply to Re: :-) » fallsfall, posted by Dinah on December 9, 2003, at 19:17:07
Posted by Dinah on December 9, 2003, at 21:48:51
In reply to Survey: Do I have to tell him? (nm), posted by fallsfall on December 9, 2003, at 21:38:35
We're allowed a few guilty secrets.
Posted by Speaker on December 9, 2003, at 22:02:21
In reply to Survey: Do I have to tell him? (nm), posted by fallsfall on December 9, 2003, at 21:38:35
That happened to me once and I went in and told my therapist that he was a blessing. I think it made him feel intune in some way. I think you have the opportunity to keep it or share it...whatever makes you feel better! That is the goal ;).
Posted by DaisyM on December 9, 2003, at 22:10:09
In reply to Survey: Do I have to tell him? (nm), posted by fallsfall on December 9, 2003, at 21:38:35
I think you tell him if you want to talk about it. Of course you run the risk of him explaining too much, analyzing it and maybe changing the way you remember it.
I often wonder too if I call sometimes just to make sure he is still there. I also wonder if he thinks about me...don't we all?
Lucky you. Concrete evidence that he *really* cares. I hope you glow until Thursday.
-D
Posted by Penny on December 10, 2003, at 8:33:23
In reply to Survey: Do I have to tell him? (nm), posted by fallsfall on December 9, 2003, at 21:38:35
I say, tell him if you feel like it at the time, and don't if you don't. If you're like me, you never really know how you're going to feel when you walk in that room...
and if you think that the other issues are more pressing, you might not mention it or keep it short and sweet.
Regardless, it's nice to know that he cares! Try to take that in...
P
Posted by Poet on December 10, 2003, at 9:35:22
In reply to Better than ice cream, posted by fallsfall on December 9, 2003, at 18:58:34
Congratulations on your bliss. I hope your next session has the same warm feeling.
Poet
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