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Posted by Klokka on September 8, 2004, at 21:13:40
In reply to Can't believe my T cancelled today!, posted by gardenergirl on September 8, 2004, at 12:07:05
Wow, talk about awful timing! I can't even imagine how difficult that must be; I think I'dve been a wreck after either one of those alone. Hope tomorrow goes well, as well as the wait until then.
Posted by gardenergirl on September 8, 2004, at 21:25:37
In reply to Re: Can't believe my T cancelled today! » gardenergirl, posted by Klokka on September 8, 2004, at 21:13:40
Thanks sweetie,
And although I didn't post on your thread, I read your update. I can imagine you WERE nervous. I'm so glad it went well. I'm also glad your T was honest about that writing that you found. Do you feel okay about it now?Take care,
gg
Posted by Klokka on September 8, 2004, at 21:41:26
In reply to Re: Can't believe my T cancelled today! » Klokka, posted by gardenergirl on September 8, 2004, at 21:25:37
Thanks, gg. I do feel okay about it now, although I still have a few questions which I can probably ask him next week. I came to terms with the fact that I did the search in the first place eventually, and had only been concerned about what the consequences of that might be. Having my pdoc explain what happened and generally handle it very well without implying for a moment that I was bad for having searched relieved that.
Posted by Poet on September 8, 2004, at 22:53:04
In reply to Re: Can't believe my T cancelled today! » Poet, posted by gardenergirl on September 8, 2004, at 13:50:34
Hi GG,
I'll have to try the frozen cookies. If I baked them I'd have to figure out how to turn the oven on.
I'm trying to get up the nerve to talk to my therapist tomorrow about all the bumping me around she's been doing. I'd like to know who these people are who out rank me. She's now being billed to insurance, so it's not like when I had to scrape together the money to pay her. Then again back then I had a standing appointment. Hmm.
Poet
Posted by gardenergirl on September 10, 2004, at 9:08:33
In reply to Re: Can't believe my T cancelled today! » gardenergirl, posted by Poet on September 8, 2004, at 22:53:04
Okay,
My T cancelled again yesterday. I rescheduled for this afternoon, but I don't have a lot of hope. And frankly, even though I really need to see him, I don't have a lot of time, as my inlaws are coming this weekend.Also, I found out last night that my cousin was admitted to a psych. unit because she was fairly delusional. Apparently she has been diagnosed with Bipolar and ADD in the past, and was abusing stimulants. Please say a prayer, light a candle, or send positive energy her way. She's a very dear girl who is very broken right now.
And send health rays towards my T....
Since inlaws will be here today for the weekend, I won't be online much. I'll try to get on to read, but posting may have to wait until MOnday or Tuesday.
Take are all and have a lovely weekend.
gg
Posted by Aphrodite on September 10, 2004, at 11:02:26
In reply to Cancelled again yesterday! and bad news, too., posted by gardenergirl on September 10, 2004, at 9:08:33
If your in-laws are anything like mine, therapy would be a MUCH needed thing before they arrive! Serioulsy, I am sorry your T cancelled again. He must really be ill. And I will definitely send positive energy and prayers out to the poor girl. It's wonderful that she has people in her family like you who can sympathize and not judge.
I wish you well. Bake some more cookies:)
Posted by Susan47 on September 10, 2004, at 12:53:23
In reply to Re: Cancelled again yesterday! and bad news, too. » gardenergirl, posted by Aphrodite on September 10, 2004, at 11:02:26
I'm sending good health wishes to your T and also your cousin.
Posted by Poet on September 10, 2004, at 13:43:21
In reply to Cancelled again yesterday! and bad news, too., posted by gardenergirl on September 10, 2004, at 9:08:33
Hi GG,
I'm sending white light to surround your cousin and your T.
Poet
Posted by Klokka on September 10, 2004, at 19:46:20
In reply to Cancelled again yesterday! and bad news, too., posted by gardenergirl on September 10, 2004, at 9:08:33
I am so sorry your T cancelled again, especially when so much else is going on. :( I'll be saying prayers for all concerned. Hope things look up soon.
Posted by shrinking violet on September 11, 2004, at 11:58:34
In reply to Re: Cancelled again yesterday! and bad news, too. » gardenergirl, posted by Klokka on September 10, 2004, at 19:46:20
((((((GG))))))
Positive energy to your cousin and T.
Blessings,
SV
Posted by gardenergirl on September 12, 2004, at 19:56:14
In reply to Re: Cancelled again yesterday! and bad news, too. » gardenergirl, posted by Aphrodite on September 10, 2004, at 11:02:26
Thanks for your well-wishes. Actually, my in-laws are great. It was very nice to see them. But after therapy on Friday (he's better, thank goodness!), I was so raw and drained, I'm afraid I wasn't very good company Friday night. Fortunately, Saturday was better. And I DID bake more cookies!
No more word on my cousin, unfortunately...
Thanks again.
gg
Posted by gardenergirl on September 12, 2004, at 19:58:19
In reply to Re: Cancelled again yesterday! and bad news, too., posted by Susan47 on September 10, 2004, at 12:53:23
Thanks, Susan. I appreciate it.
gg
Posted by gardenergirl on September 12, 2004, at 19:59:06
In reply to Re: Cancelled again yesterday! and bad news, too. » gardenergirl, posted by Poet on September 10, 2004, at 13:43:21
Thanks, Poet. I hope it works as well for my cousin as it did for my T.
Take care,
gg
Posted by gardenergirl on September 12, 2004, at 20:00:11
In reply to Re: Cancelled again yesterday! and bad news, too. » gardenergirl, posted by Klokka on September 10, 2004, at 19:46:20
Thanks, dear. It's so nice to know I can come here and find suport no matter what is going on.
Warmly,
gg
Posted by gardenergirl on September 12, 2004, at 20:01:18
In reply to Re: Cancelled again yesterday! and bad news, too., posted by shrinking violet on September 11, 2004, at 11:58:34
Thanks sweetie. I think it helped!
gg
Posted by Passerby on September 15, 2004, at 0:52:35
In reply to Re: Can't believe my T cancelled today! ? gardenergirl, posted by Klokka on September 8, 2004, at 21:13:40
While I understand your connection to your therapist and even your concern about his health, I think it might be helpful if you remember he is human and humans get sick. And, sometimes therapists have issues just like their patients. Three years ago my mother died. About six months later, my therapist's uncle died. Growing up, his uncle was essentially his father. Clearly he had to cancel and that meant more than one appointment. Yet, I was nowhere near over my own pain regarding my mother. But that is how life is sometimes.
I don't minimize the importance of your relationship with your therapist. At the same time, if you care about him you will cut him some slack when life gets tough for him.
Passerby
Posted by Susan47 on September 15, 2004, at 21:52:42
In reply to Re: Can't believe my T cancelled today!, posted by Passerby on September 15, 2004, at 0:52:35
I agree with you.
Posted by TofuEmmy on September 16, 2004, at 8:47:15
In reply to Re: Can't believe my T cancelled today!, posted by Passerby on September 15, 2004, at 0:52:35
Sometimes we simply need to vent, ya know?
It's really nice to have a non-judgemental environment where people can just let their hair down, and vent their emotions. It's healthy.
Sometimes it's either that, or kick the dog. I vote for venting! :-)
emmy
Posted by Susan47 on September 16, 2004, at 8:59:11
In reply to Re: Can't believe my T cancelled today! » Passerby, posted by TofuEmmy on September 16, 2004, at 8:47:15
Posted by Passerby on September 16, 2004, at 9:54:53
In reply to Re: Can't believe my T cancelled today! ? Passerby, posted by TofuEmmy on September 16, 2004, at 8:47:15
Yes, venting is good. But I think the original person who posted and the on going "babble" went way beyond venting. I tried to offer another perspective that might help. Venting helps but so does constructive thought.
Posted by Susan47 on September 16, 2004, at 10:09:29
In reply to Re: Can't believe my T cancelled today!, posted by Passerby on September 16, 2004, at 9:54:53
Absolutely.
Posted by DaisyM on September 16, 2004, at 10:15:30
In reply to Re: Can't believe my T cancelled today!, posted by Passerby on September 16, 2004, at 9:54:53
I didn't see anywhere in the babble that anyone wasn't allowing the therapist to be human. Mostly it was support about how horrible it feels to want or need your sessions and not get them. An honest expression of those kinds of feelings can't typically be done in most environments. OF COURSE, we know he is allowed to be sick. And, OF COURSE, in a "normal" conversation we would be so grown up and understanding..."no problem, just take care of yourself and I'll see you when you feel better." But the whole idea of posting here is to say what can't usually be said...and to get support and understanding for those feelings.
If there is one thing I've learned, feelings for your therapist are not rational and though we can maintain an outward persona of polite, grown-up understanding of the boundaries and limitations, sometimes, secretly, all we really want is what we really want, without having to be fair or balanced.
*sigh* It would be easier if rational perspective worked.
Posted by gardenergirl on September 16, 2004, at 11:26:33
In reply to Re: Can't believe my T cancelled today!, posted by Passerby on September 16, 2004, at 9:54:53
Um, I wasn't aware that the two were mutually exclusive.
Thanks for your input.
gg
Posted by Dinah on September 17, 2004, at 11:08:46
In reply to Re: Can't believe my T cancelled today!, posted by Passerby on September 16, 2004, at 9:54:53
Chuckle. Gardenergirl has never struck me as someone who has trouble with constructive thought. Perhaps you misunderstood the tone of the thread.
I think Daisy had it right. Here we often allow ourselves to say what's in our secret heart of hearts. The things we know are illogical. Things that if we said them at all to our therapists (amid copious expressions of sympathy for their illnesses) would be accepted by our therapists as exactly what they are, and no more. Grist for the therapy mill. An admission of the importance of our therapists.
Besides, in any situation, therapy or otherwise, down below all the expressed compassion and hands extended to others, there is a tiny bit of the wee child whose first thought is "Yes, but how does this affect *meeee*." Nothing wrong with that as long as we act appropriately. Which I'm sure Gardenergirl did. You can see in her thread that she continued to do all she needed to do in a completely appropriate manner.
But it's still ok to feel upset.
Posted by 10derHeart on September 17, 2004, at 18:19:39
In reply to Re: Can't believe my T cancelled today!, posted by DaisyM on September 16, 2004, at 10:15:30
Oh my goodness, Daisy, NO ONE could have said any of this any better. It's as if you lifted my own precise thoughts/feelings about our need for our Ts right out of my head and heart, made them articulate and flowing,then posted them here. Wow! Thank you on behalf of gg (hope that's ok, gg), myself and many more, I'm sure. You continue to amaze, comfort and support so many with your insight. (in awe of Miss DaisyM...10derHeart)
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