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Posted by littleone on January 16, 2005, at 15:06:31
Have I told you all that I love my T? He is fantabulous. I had a wonderful first session back.
I gave him a bucket load of journaling and I told him how I'd been posting on babble and gave him some of my posts.
I'd been worried that he wouldn't like me babbling because by the time I write something for him, it wouldn't be pure anymore. It would be re-thought and re-worked and have other people's ideas in there and whatnot. And since I don't talk, I only write, that's the only way he has of getting into my head.
So I bit the bullet and explained it all to him and he read a couple of my posts and started to get very concerned. He was asking what sort of replies I get. He was worried for me! Can you believe that!! I get warm and fuzzies just remembering that. I think he was concerned that I was really putting myself out there and making myself vulnerable and it would probably do a lot of damage if I got shot down or torn to shreds.
So I showed him a couple of the replies and he said "I can understand why you'd want to post there. They are very understanding and compassionate."
So there you go guys - you're understanding and compassionate. And my T was very happy for me to keep babbling. Have I said that I love my T? :)
Posted by Dinah on January 16, 2005, at 19:31:49
In reply to First session back :), posted by littleone on January 16, 2005, at 15:06:31
:) Good for your therapist. :) I'm glad you don't have a internet-phobic one.
How often do you generally go? How long has your therapist been gone? Sometimes it seems like the weekend is forever for me. But sometimes I forget what my therapist looks like and wonder why on earth I go when he goes away.
Posted by Fallen4MyT on January 16, 2005, at 19:38:05
In reply to First session back :), posted by littleone on January 16, 2005, at 15:06:31
Littleone what an awesome T he sounds so sweet and caring...I liked how he read the posts and then relaxed cause he was worried on what kind of advice you were getting and thats very wise of him cause one can get into bad sites. Too cool I am happy for you
> Have I told you all that I love my T? He is fantabulous. I had a wonderful first session back.
>
> I gave him a bucket load of journaling and I told him how I'd been posting on babble and gave him some of my posts.
>
> I'd been worried that he wouldn't like me babbling because by the time I write something for him, it wouldn't be pure anymore. It would be re-thought and re-worked and have other people's ideas in there and whatnot. And since I don't talk, I only write, that's the only way he has of getting into my head.
>
> So I bit the bullet and explained it all to him and he read a couple of my posts and started to get very concerned. He was asking what sort of replies I get. He was worried for me! Can you believe that!! I get warm and fuzzies just remembering that. I think he was concerned that I was really putting myself out there and making myself vulnerable and it would probably do a lot of damage if I got shot down or torn to shreds.
>
> So I showed him a couple of the replies and he said "I can understand why you'd want to post there. They are very understanding and compassionate."
>
> So there you go guys - you're understanding and compassionate. And my T was very happy for me to keep babbling. Have I said that I love my T? :)
Posted by littleone on January 17, 2005, at 15:23:45
In reply to Re: First session back :) » littleone, posted by Dinah on January 16, 2005, at 19:31:49
> :) Good for your therapist. :) I'm glad you don't have a internet-phobic one.
It's funny about him and the internet. I wouldn't say he's internet-phobic, but he's certainly internet-naive/inexperienced/clueless. It was a piece of cake to google him and get photos of him, but he was pretty surprised I could do that. I was saying "come on, surely you've had other clients google you" and he was adamant that they hadn't. I then said that I'm sure they had but just hadn't admitted it to him and he was pretty confident that that wasn't the case either. I still thing that's poppycock.
> How often do you generally go?I've been going twice a week for 10 months now.
> How long has your therapist been gone?
It was for 3 eternal weeks. The upside is that I was really in the red before his break, so now I'm back in the black with all that spare cash.
> But sometimes I forget what my therapist looks like and wonder why on earth I go when he goes away.
Oh, ditto for me. I was just talking to him last night about object constancy and how I think it's a problem for me. But he'd never heard of that term before which really surprised me. I thought it was a pretty old train of thought, not a modern catchphrase. Think I'll have to educate him about that one :)
The only thing I remember about him between sessions is how he says hello when we've sat down. Just that one word and that tone of voice. And I was really losing even that during his break.
Posted by littleone on January 17, 2005, at 15:26:38
In reply to Re: First session back :) » littleone, posted by Fallen4MyT on January 16, 2005, at 19:38:05
> Littleone what an awesome T he sounds so sweet and caring...I liked how he read the posts and then relaxed cause he was worried on what kind of advice you were getting and thats very wise of him cause one can get into bad sites. Too cool I am happy for you
Thanks Fallen, he is pretty awesome :) I'm glad to have him back. When he was away I just kept thinking "I hope you're enjoying that break because you're not getting another one!!"
Posted by littleone on January 17, 2005, at 15:33:27
In reply to First session back :), posted by littleone on January 16, 2005, at 15:06:31
I have gotten an icky assignment from him though. We hardly ever talk about our relationship or what is happening in the here and now. I pretty much make like a statue and freeze him out.
Today's assignment is to explain why I missed him. What I missed about him. What I missed about therapy. Ack.
I'll be able to talk about how no one else understands me anywhere close to the way he does. And how it's nice to have someone so focused on me and my needs. But I dance away from the more personal stuff about him. Makes me feel like a horse rolling it's eyes and turning it's ears and rearing up, shying away.
Blah.
Posted by daisym on January 17, 2005, at 15:59:40
In reply to Icky Assignment, posted by littleone on January 17, 2005, at 15:33:27
Can I make a suggestion?
Write a first draft to yourself. Be as honest as you can. The only person who will see it is you. Then edit this one for your therapist. Leave in as much as you can but take out what you must. It might be interesting to see what comes out. I found it hard to be honest about my feelings at first...sometimes I still do. But it really moved things forward when I could tell him what I was feeling and it was so hard for me to trust.
It would probably be nice for him to hear some of the good things once in awhile too. I liked your post...that was a good start.
Posted by Fallen4MyT on January 17, 2005, at 16:16:47
In reply to Icky Assignment, posted by littleone on January 17, 2005, at 15:33:27
Ohhhh my I would DIE...HAHAHAH I like the horse gig :) OK I would just be honest but all in blah general way...Like I missed the support you give and the way you mirror such and such back to me..only you do that in my life and so on. I am glad I never had to write that :)
> I have gotten an icky assignment from him though. We hardly ever talk about our relationship or what is happening in the here and now. I pretty much make like a statue and freeze him out.
>
> Today's assignment is to explain why I missed him. What I missed about him. What I missed about therapy. Ack.
>
> I'll be able to talk about how no one else understands me anywhere close to the way he does. And how it's nice to have someone so focused on me and my needs. But I dance away from the more personal stuff about him. Makes me feel like a horse rolling it's eyes and turning it's ears and rearing up, shying away.
>
> Blah.
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