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Posted by Shortelise on March 4, 2005, at 13:42:20
Does this ever happen to anyone else - I can't read anymore as posts are making me cry...
ShortE
Posted by pinkeye on March 4, 2005, at 14:12:28
In reply to Babble making me cry..., posted by Shortelise on March 4, 2005, at 13:42:20
> Does this ever happen to anyone else - I can't read anymore as posts are making me cry...
>
> ShortEBabble is hard to read.. It gets to me manytimes too. Take care and don't read / post more than you can handle.
I sympathize for therapists who have to do it as a profession. It must be extremely demanding and emotionally draining for them to listen to everyone and be there for everyone.
I wish I could apologize to my therapist from my heart for whatever pain I must have caused him. It must have been incredibly hard.
Posted by daisym on March 4, 2005, at 15:09:03
In reply to Babble making me cry..., posted by Shortelise on March 4, 2005, at 13:42:20
I'm sorry for your tears. I think Babble lets us see in a profound way that we all struggle with the same things, that there is a tremendous amount of hurt in the world and not enough "inter-dependency." It speaks to your sensitive soul that the suffering touches you.
Sometimes I find when I go back and reread what I've written that I get annoyed with myself, instead of tearful. Sometimes I laugh, often I'm triggered with such a strong identification that I have to stop reading. There are people here who articulate things that i can't yet, but I find I can't respond because of the emotionality of it for me.
I hope you find something more soothing to do today and come back when you can. I enjoy your posts.
Posted by alexandra_k on March 4, 2005, at 16:35:27
In reply to Babble making me cry..., posted by Shortelise on March 4, 2005, at 13:42:20
The psychology board makes me cry a lot too...
When that happens I go be silly over on social.
Posted by pinkeye on March 4, 2005, at 16:42:41
In reply to Babble making me cry..., posted by Shortelise on March 4, 2005, at 13:42:20
> Does this ever happen to anyone else - I can't read anymore as posts are making me cry...
>
> ShortEWhy don't you take a break and come back when you feel better? This is really hard stuff, and it is not advisable if you are not able to handle it. There are lots of triggers in this place.
I am trying to limit my time here as well. It is getting hard for me too.
Posted by Susan47 on March 4, 2005, at 16:43:29
In reply to Re: Babble making me cry... » Shortelise, posted by pinkeye on March 4, 2005, at 14:12:28
Save some empathy for yourself, Pinkeye, don't give it all away because it makes everything that much harder when you do.
Posted by pinkeye on March 4, 2005, at 17:06:51
In reply to Re: Babble making me cry... » pinkeye, posted by Susan47 on March 4, 2005, at 16:43:29
Funny you should say that I have empathy. Up until a few weeks ago, I didn't think I had any.
Babble does have a way of making us realize our own humaneness.
Posted by messadivoce on March 4, 2005, at 18:29:38
In reply to Babble making me cry..., posted by Shortelise on March 4, 2005, at 13:42:20
Oh ShortE, you have such a sensitive heart. I hope you can come back soon. You always have such good things to say. Thanks for all your support.
Voce
Posted by Mark H. on March 4, 2005, at 20:01:45
In reply to Babble making me cry..., posted by Shortelise on March 4, 2005, at 13:42:20
Dear ShortE and Pinkeye,
I can barely handle the Psychology board, and I have to avoid Relationships altogether. I simply cannot handle the level of suffering that some of our dear friends here at Babble endure in their daily lives. I have to choose the threads I get involved with very carefully.
I appreciate your sensitivity and compassion and encourage you to respect your limits.
With fondness,
Mark H.
Posted by Shortelise on March 5, 2005, at 12:06:34
In reply to Babble making me cry..., posted by Shortelise on March 4, 2005, at 13:42:20
Thank you all so very much for your kind notes.
I do have to back away for a bit - my moods can change quickly, so it may not be too long! I think my sensitivity is due to some depression which hopefully will pass soon.
I wonder if sometimes I might substitute your pain for my own because it's easier to feel yours than mine? Do you think some T's do that?
ShortE
Posted by Poet on March 5, 2005, at 12:13:30
In reply to Re: Babble making me cry..., posted by Shortelise on March 5, 2005, at 12:06:34
Hi ShortE,
It's okay to back off. Try not to add my pain to yours, you don't deserve it. I sometimes think my T does substitute my pain for hers, especially when she gets that worried look.
Babble when you are ready.
Poet
Posted by Susan47 on March 6, 2005, at 12:02:21
In reply to Re: Babble making me cry..., posted by Shortelise on March 5, 2005, at 12:06:34
I think many people do that, what I'm understanding you to mean; that we substitute other people's pain for our own, because we're afraid to feel it, is that right?
I would hope that therapists, all therapists, adequately dealt with their life issues in training, and that they're taught to continually do so all through their lives. They need to keep on top of themselves, or they can't be effectively helping others. So hopefully, they can still understand other people's pain but don't feel the need to take it on. But that's just one take on the situation, I'm quite sure there's others. Like, for example, if a therapist didn't feel they had enough empathy, and needed to work on that issue, they might decide to become really open to someone's pain.
Anybody else have more thoughts on this? It's really interesting ShortE.
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