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Posted by gardenergirl on June 11, 2005, at 12:36:32
This must be a sign of progress towards authenticity. I'm even 'spressing the negative emotions. (well, I suppose I could tone down the screaming banshee, but still...progress?)
Yea me!
gg
Posted by rubenstein on June 11, 2005, at 13:38:47
In reply to Hey...I'm 'spressing myself more, posted by gardenergirl on June 11, 2005, at 12:36:32
that is great Gardener Girl
sometimes that is so hard, it is something I am struggling with myself
and last session it was better
progress!!!!Rachel
Posted by sleepygirl on June 11, 2005, at 13:46:29
In reply to Hey...I'm 'spressing myself more, posted by gardenergirl on June 11, 2005, at 12:36:32
'Spress on! 'spress on!
Posted by fallsfall on June 11, 2005, at 13:49:27
In reply to Hey...I'm 'spressing myself more, posted by gardenergirl on June 11, 2005, at 12:36:32
Posted by Dinah on June 11, 2005, at 14:13:28
In reply to Hey...I'm 'spressing myself more, posted by gardenergirl on June 11, 2005, at 12:36:32
And at times, screaming banshee is what is called for. :)
Posted by happyflower on June 11, 2005, at 14:48:02
In reply to Hey...I'm 'spressing myself more, posted by gardenergirl on June 11, 2005, at 12:36:32
Good for you! Have you read the Women Who Run with Wolves? It is by the same auther as the Stone Child. It talks about being an authenic women. I am a women hear me roar!
Posted by partlycloudy on June 11, 2005, at 17:27:47
In reply to Hey...I'm 'spressing myself more, posted by gardenergirl on June 11, 2005, at 12:36:32
That's great! I'm trying really hard, too. Not to hold my tongue but instead to wait for the right words to come, then deliver them. Otherwise I am very good at swallowing my anger until it expresses as those inconvenient and unstoppable tears of mine.
It feels good like getting a zipper to go up without complaint. it fits.
pc
Posted by annierose on June 11, 2005, at 18:25:05
In reply to Hey...I'm 'spressing myself more, posted by gardenergirl on June 11, 2005, at 12:36:32
That's great! It's feels powerful to say what you feel and not feel inhibited. Hopefully that feeling will carry over into your therapy sessions, think of the progress you'll make!!
Annierose
Posted by alexandra_k on June 11, 2005, at 18:29:44
In reply to Hey...I'm 'spressing myself more, posted by gardenergirl on June 11, 2005, at 12:36:32
Yay! Good for you :-)
And maybe... If you start to express the negative emotions a little earlier then that might prevent the screaming banshee ;-)
Thats a hard one though, I struggle with that myself.
Yay. GG's coming out of her shell.
Posted by Daisym on June 11, 2005, at 20:25:28
In reply to Hey...I'm 'spressing myself more, posted by gardenergirl on June 11, 2005, at 12:36:32
Is this in or out of therapy? And what...no details? Are we 'spessing at the husband, or the sister?
I think 2x a week makes a difference.
Good for you!
Daisy
Posted by Aphrodite on June 11, 2005, at 21:40:24
In reply to Hey...I'm 'spressing myself more, posted by gardenergirl on June 11, 2005, at 12:36:32
Details?
I'm glad for you, really glad!
My T seems to have a bias against anger. He tells me that he doesn't think it's a necessary part of healing. He's not a big fan of 'spressing it. Isn't that a bit unusual for a psychologist? Sometimes I get very angry, but I make sure I don't let him know. I'm a control freak over my emotions anyway, so I can do it. Still . . .
What do you think about anger and banshees and all of that as a client and as a professional? Sounds like you think it's healthy. I think it is as long as plates aren't flying. :)
Didn't mean to go off track. I'm curious what has happened to cause this for you.
Posted by Jazzed on June 11, 2005, at 22:33:22
In reply to Hey...I'm 'spressing myself more, posted by gardenergirl on June 11, 2005, at 12:36:32
Good for you! Hope we can all get there one day.
Jazzed
Posted by Poet on June 12, 2005, at 12:22:46
In reply to Hey...I'm 'spressing myself more, posted by gardenergirl on June 11, 2005, at 12:36:32
Hi GG,
If the screaming banshee is letting out negativity, don't try to tone her done, let her loose.
Keep in mind I am good at negative emotions, it's positive ones that allude me. What would the opposite of a banshee be- a fairy godmother? I do have the fairy wand I bought for four year old me...
Go GG, congrats on 'spressing those negative emotions.
Poet
Posted by JenStar on June 12, 2005, at 13:14:27
In reply to Hey...I'm 'spressing myself more, posted by gardenergirl on June 11, 2005, at 12:36:32
good for you! I think it's great that you're doing it. I hope it will be helpful for you & the relationship.
How are things with hubby lately? Has he apologized at all about the birthday fiasco? Is he being nicer? (I hope so!)
JenStar
Posted by Racer on June 12, 2005, at 14:14:07
In reply to Hey...I'm 'spressing myself more, posted by gardenergirl on June 11, 2005, at 12:36:32
Posted by pinkeye on June 12, 2005, at 18:35:54
In reply to Hey...I'm 'spressing myself more, posted by gardenergirl on June 11, 2005, at 12:36:32
great to hear.
I am not very good in expressing negative emotions like anger, rage, hurt, jealousy, possessiveness etc. I tend to swallow it all up and one day burst. I wish I could follow you.
Posted by antigua on June 13, 2005, at 13:32:27
In reply to Hey...I'm 'spressing myself more, posted by gardenergirl on June 11, 2005, at 12:36:32
I was startld at first because I thought you meant "suppressing" more instead of expressing more. Shows where my mind is.
antigua
Posted by Tamar on June 13, 2005, at 15:42:43
In reply to Hey...I'm 'spressing myself more, posted by gardenergirl on June 11, 2005, at 12:36:32
> This must be a sign of progress towards authenticity. I'm even 'spressing the negative emotions. (well, I suppose I could tone down the screaming banshee, but still...progress?)
Good for you! No need to tone down the screaming banshee, IMHO. Let her scream all she wants.
Tamar
Posted by gardenergirl on June 15, 2005, at 11:02:46
In reply to Re: Hey...I'm 'spressing myself more, posted by rubenstein on June 11, 2005, at 13:38:47
Rachel,
Glad it's getting better for you, too.Thanks,
gg
Posted by gardenergirl on June 15, 2005, at 11:12:05
In reply to Hooray! » gardenergirl, posted by Dinah on June 11, 2005, at 14:13:28
Thanks Dinah, falls, and sleepygirl. It feels kinda good and kinda right, but it's a new behavior, so it hasn't settled in yet.
gg
Posted by gardenergirl on June 15, 2005, at 11:13:43
In reply to Re: Hey...I'm 'spressing myself more » gardenergirl, posted by partlycloudy on June 11, 2005, at 17:27:47
> It feels good like getting a zipper to go up without complaint. it fits.Great metaphor. And I think one of the reasons I cry so much is due to unexpressed anger, too. Good luck with dealing with yours.
Let's all repeat after me: anger is just another feelings. Anger is just another feeling.
gg
Posted by gardenergirl on June 15, 2005, at 11:15:02
In reply to Re: Hey...I'm 'spressing myself more, posted by annierose on June 11, 2005, at 18:25:05
> That's great! It's feels powerful to say what you feel and not feel inhibited. Hopefully that feeling will carry over into your therapy sessions, think of the progress you'll make!!
Yikes, at first I read this as maybe the anger will carry over into therapy and that would lead to progress. Hmmm, unconscious anger towards T at work? :)
Thanks,
gg
Posted by gardenergirl on June 15, 2005, at 11:16:47
In reply to Re: Hey...I'm 'spressing myself more » gardenergirl, posted by Daisym on June 11, 2005, at 20:25:28
Hi Daisy,
Anger at hubby outside of therapy. The birthday woes thing...gg
Posted by gardenergirl on June 15, 2005, at 11:22:06
In reply to Re: Hey...I'm 'spressing myself more » gardenergirl, posted by Aphrodite on June 11, 2005, at 21:40:24
> Details?
See the birthday woes thread on the Social board. I'd link, but I'm pressed for time at moment. :(
>
> My T seems to have a bias against anger. He tells me that he doesn't think it's a necessary part of healing. He's not a big fan of 'spressing it. Isn't that a bit unusual for a psychologist?I'm not sure if this is unusual or not, but I have not heard of it before. Your T is analytical? Or CBT? I forget. I think of anger as another feeling that gives you information about yourself. And I think expressing anger in a responsible way is a good thing. I'm not saying that screaming at someone, especially a loved one, is responsible. But considering the only way I used to express it to my husband wazs in indirect, passive-aggressive ways, I think direct is an improvement.
I've had clients tell me they are angry with me before. I always appreciated this, as it gives me more information about the therapy process and what's going on with the client. I've never had a screaming banshee on my hands, though. And no plate throwing, thank goodness.
My T thinks that I am moving towards becoming more authentic, and that includes angry feelings at times. And he thinks it's the result of going to twice a week therapy. But then he also admits that might be grandiose of him to think that. :) I'm not sure what I think, but it's a reasonable hypothesis.
gg
Posted by gardenergirl on June 15, 2005, at 11:24:33
In reply to Re: Hey...I'm 'spressing myself more » gardenergirl, posted by Poet on June 12, 2005, at 12:22:46
> Hi GG,
>
> If the screaming banshee is letting out negativity, don't try to tone her done, let her loose.Thanks for the validation.
>
> Keep in mind I am good at negative emotions, it's positive ones that allude me. What would the opposite of a banshee be- a fairy godmother? I do have the fairy wand I bought for four year old me...Hmmm, that's a good question. Someone who loudly and profusely proclaims love and joy all the time? (Why does that make me cringe?) A fairy godmother works. Or pollyanna?
I would have loved to see the wand...Good for you.
gg
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