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Posted by Jazzed on June 19, 2005, at 23:05:52
Just thinking about you as I read through the posts!
Jazzy
Posted by happyflower on June 20, 2005, at 7:50:31
In reply to Happy, how ya doing?, posted by Jazzed on June 19, 2005, at 23:05:52
> Just thinking about you as I read through the posts!
I am doing great! Looking forward to my first trumpet lesson this Tuesday! It has been years! lol How are doing! Have you fallen for your T yet? At least you can picture him in the same shirt! lol Do you have a appointment this week? I wonder if he will wear the same shirt! lol
Thanks for caring about me. :)
Posted by Jazzed on June 20, 2005, at 8:12:55
In reply to Re: Happy, how ya doing?, posted by happyflower on June 20, 2005, at 7:50:31
> > Just thinking about you as I read through the posts!
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> I am doing great! Looking forward to my first trumpet lesson this Tuesday! It has been years! lol How are doing! Have you fallen for your T yet? At least you can picture him in the same shirt! lol Do you have a appointment this week? I wonder if he will wear the same shirt! lol
> Thanks for caring about me. :)
Oooo, I remember you talking about going back to school, and that you used to play professionally. How cool! Let us know how that goes!You are SO funny, I love it! LOL Yes, I've got him in my mind in that some shirt. I don't have another appt. until the 27th, but I do wonder what he's going to ask me. I know for sure some tough questions will come up eventually because we touched on some of it very briefly last appt. Better wear that waterproof mascara! LOL
Jazzy
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Posted by happyflower on June 20, 2005, at 8:27:08
In reply to Re: Happy, how ya doing? » happyflower, posted by Jazzed on June 20, 2005, at 8:12:55
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> You know I bought some waterproof just for therapy! Just in case, but I haven't cried yet in therapy. I don't want to but I probably will but I don't feel comforatable about it. Epspecially since he knows I am not comforatable with it.> >
> But I like to paint my nails in sexy red too, just in case! lol (ya never know when you might need sexy nails!)
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Posted by Jazzed on June 20, 2005, at 16:24:22
In reply to Re: Happy, how ya doing?, posted by happyflower on June 20, 2005, at 8:27:08
I don't want to but I probably will but I don't feel comforatable about it. Epspecially since he knows I am not comforatable with it.> >
> >OMGosh, I know I'm in for it because he already asked me about when I had something really bad happen to me as a teen-ager. He knows what it is, we got that far, but I told him I wasn't comfortable discussing it yet. AND, he brought it up like 20 min. b4 the session was over?! Like how stupid is that?! But, I do know when it does come up, it won't be pretty.
>>But I like to paint my nails in sexy red too, just in case! lol (ya never know when you might need sexy nails!)
> >What, to scratch him with?! LOL Yeah, leave big, LONG welts on his back!!!! LOL
Jazzy
Posted by happyflower on June 21, 2005, at 1:52:32
In reply to Re: Happy, how ya doing? » happyflower, posted by Jazzed on June 20, 2005, at 16:24:22
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> OMGosh, I know I'm in for it because he already asked me about when I had something really bad happen to me as a teen-ager. He knows what it is, we got that far, but I told him I wasn't comfortable discussing it yet. AND, he brought it up like 20 min. b4 the session was over?! Like how stupid is that?! But, I do know when it does come up, it won't be pretty.> I don't like to cry ever! I was not allowed to cry as a child even when I had the crap beaten out of me, if I cried it lasted longer and was hit harder. My T knows this, and doesn't push it with me. This is why EMDR works so well. I have come close to tears once and my T looked so concerned like a lost puppy or something, it was kinda a "gassy baby look" if you know what I mean. lol
But I do cry in front of my husband and kids if I am pushed hard enough or like when my daughter had to have heart surgurey. But I feel very uncomfortable.
I remember telling my T thats why I get along with males better than females, because I don't like to show emotion and males typically don't get emotional or cry. He said yeah, I can see that!But now that I am playing the trumpet, I realize you have to "feel" emotion in order to play music well. Well I feel it is opening up a whole can of worms with me. I think I might become more musically if my T can help me unlock my emotions. Plus EMDR can be used for stage fright. Well at least I can hope! lol I still might suck at it anyways! :)
> What, to scratch him with?! LOL Yeah, leave big, LONG welts on his back!!!! LOL
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>Oh, la la! But I would be more gentle though! lol He is sort of a sensitive guy. I wonder what kind of lover he would be? Sometimes it is hard to tell. hmmmmmm. Jazzy, stop putting these thoughts into my head! lol hmmmmmmm..... I said stop it Jazzy, do you hear me? mmmmmmmm..... Oh help me now!
Posted by Jazzed on June 21, 2005, at 7:38:47
In reply to Re: Happy, how ya doing? could trigger, posted by happyflower on June 21, 2005, at 1:52:32
> > I don't like to cry ever! I was not allowed to cry as a child even when I had the crap beaten out of me, if I cried it lasted longer and was hit harder.OMGosh! I'm SO sorry happy! They should be locked up! No child deserves that, and no one should have to carry the feelings attached to that.
(((((hugs))))))My T knows this, and doesn't push it with me. This is why EMDR works so well. I have come close to tears once and my T looked so concerned like a lost puppy or something, it was kinda a "gassy baby look" if you know what I mean. lol
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LOL, I'm imagining that, too funny! ; )
> But I do cry in front of my husband and kids if I am pushed hard enough or like when my daughter had to have heart surgurey. But I feel very uncomfortable.Gosh, who wouldn't? Is your daughter okay now? How long ago was that? I can't imagine!
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> I remember telling my T thats why I get along with males better than females,I feel more comfortable with men too because it seems like men can hear just about anything and not be phased by it. I feel more judged by women, but I do cry, and that makes me uncomfortable in front of anyone.
> Well I feel it is opening up a whole can of worms with me.I'm glad you're doing it though, sounds theraputic. Maybe I'll have to try EMDR, I think my T does it too, and I think he does hypnosis, but I'm not sure I want to do that!
I still might suck at it anyways! :)
Now, now you be kind to yourself!
> >Oh, la la! But I would be more gentle though! lol He is sort of a sensitive guy. I wonder what kind of lover he would be? Sometimes it is hard to tell. hmmmmmm. Jazzy, stop putting these thoughts into my head! lol hmmmmmmm..... I said stop it Jazzy, do you hear me? mmmmmmmm..... Oh help me now!
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Hmmmmm, fun to think about, huh? Sensitive? I'm sure he'd be a great lover! LOL Now, get in the zone!Jazzy
Posted by Dinah on June 21, 2005, at 7:51:23
In reply to Re: Happy, how ya doing? could trigger » happyflower, posted by Jazzed on June 21, 2005, at 7:38:47
I'd love to do hypnosis, but my therapist doesn't do it himself, and he'd rather I didn't get it done, period. :(
Posted by happyflower on June 21, 2005, at 8:32:31
In reply to Re: Happy, how ya doing? could trigger » happyflower, posted by Jazzed on June 21, 2005, at 7:38:47
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> OMGosh! I'm SO sorry happy! They should be locked up! No child deserves that, and no one should have to carry the feelings attached to that.
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Thanks for the hugs. My mom was the main physical abuser, but my dad did things too. I could never do to my kids what was done to me. Thank goodness I stopped the cycle.
My T is in a group to prevent child abuse and he is just so impressed by how I am with my kids. We have talked about child raising issues and he says I am such a good mom. I thank Bill Cosby Show, Leave it to Beaver, Brady Bunch, and many other shows that taught me values and another way to be with kids then what my parents taught me. My T said it also taught him another way to be too. I don't know all his issues but I know that he said his parents had a bad marriage even though they are still married today for 60 years. He remembers waiting for his mom, while she was in therapy! lol> >
> > But I do cry in front of my husband and kids if I am pushed hard enough or like when my daughter had to have heart surgurey. But I feel very uncomfortable.
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> Gosh, who wouldn't? Is your daughter okay now? How long ago was that? I can't imagine!
>Yeah it was tough, it was 3 years ago. She had a heart defect we didn't know about until she was 7 yrs old. At first they told me she need open heart surgury. Which I cried so hard. But luckly for us, a new procedure was developed and FDA approved a month after we found out. They repaired her whole in her heart by going through the artery in her groin instead of open heart. It was outpatient and we were home the next day. But she has been checked every year now, and she is 100% normal. But we just had her appointment last month which was only 40 minutes and it cost over 1800.00!!!! Yikes. We have insurance but have to pay the 500 deductible.
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> I think my T does it too, and I think he does hypnosis, but I'm not sure I want to do that!
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Well I don't know if mine does this, but there is NO WAY I am doing this. Can you imaigine what I would say and do especially how I feel about him. Oh my!>> Hmmmmm, fun to think about, huh? Sensitive? I'm sure he'd be a great lover! LOL Now, get in the zone!
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Ohhhh, I have too much work to do today and a trumpet lesson to think about so maybe tommorrow I can get into the zone! AUUUGHGGHH!
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Posted by Dinah on June 21, 2005, at 12:45:40
In reply to Re: Happy, how ya doing? could trigger, posted by happyflower on June 21, 2005, at 8:32:31
I learned much of my parenting style from those shows as well. I think Cosby has the best example of parenting in the style I aim for.
Posted by Jazzed on June 21, 2005, at 14:52:40
In reply to Re: Happy, how ya doing? could trigger, posted by happyflower on June 21, 2005, at 8:32:31
> Thanks for the hugs. My mom was the main physical abuser, but my dad did things too. I could never do to my kids what was done to me. Thank goodness I stopped the cycle.Yep, thank goodness. I yell way too much. It seems no one listens unless I yell, which is one reason I wanted to get on some anti-anxiety med. I don't know if the Xanax is helping much or not, but I don't want to be a bad parent. I love my kids.
> I thank Bill Cosby Show,
Yeah, Cosby is a good one. So loving, humorous, and good discipline methods.
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> > We have insurance but have to pay the 500 deductible.I'm so glad she's okay, but what anguish!
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> Well I don't know if mine does this, but there is NO WAY I am doing this. Can you imaigine what I would say and do especially how I feel about him. Oh my!Don't even want to think about that! LOL
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> Ohhhh, I have too much work to do today and a trumpet lesson to think about so maybe tommorrow I can get into the zone! AUUUGHGGHH!Well good, better to be busy than thinking too much about that stuff! ; )
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