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Posted by messadivoce on July 8, 2005, at 0:43:01
PROS
1. I'll have someone to reliably, dependably talk to again about everything.
CONS
1. The money
2. Looking for a T--how many will I have to interview?
3. Potentially hating a few Ts before finding one, and subsequently wasting all that time
4. My fiance is a little wary that I'll get too dependent on a T and never be able to leave
5. What if I have another horrible termination?
Posted by daisym on July 8, 2005, at 1:14:45
In reply to Going back to therapy--a musing, posted by messadivoce on July 8, 2005, at 0:43:01
What if you find a wonderful support?
More Pros:
You carve out time for yourself to learn about yourself.
You have more to post about (Not that you need that you know...)
Sharing your bad termination with a new therapist might help this one avoid ever, ever doing that to another client, including you.
Good luck with this!
Posted by Tamar on July 8, 2005, at 18:42:25
In reply to Going back to therapy--a musing, posted by messadivoce on July 8, 2005, at 0:43:01
I'm glad you're thinking about it. I know you've been through the mill in the past.
> PROS
>
> 1. I'll have someone to reliably, dependably talk to again about everything.Yippee!
> CONS
>
> 1. The moneyYeah. Not much can be done about that.
> 2. Looking for a T--how many will I have to interview?
It might depend on how you go about finding one. Getting some recommendations might keep the list shorter. Finding out what if anyone specialises in the sort of stuff you want to talk about might help too.
> 3. Potentially hating a few Ts before finding one, and subsequently wasting all that time
Yes. But you can discuss the reasons you hate them when you find the one for you!
> 4. My fiance is a little wary that I'll get too dependent on a T and never be able to leave
It might be helpful if you involve him in a session near the beginning of your therapy (once you find the right person) if he's concerned. It's sometimes hard for partners because they don't always understand the dynamics. But it will be much easier for you if you have his full support. By the way, are you planning to marry sometime soon, or are you having a long engagement? (Obviously you don't have to answer that if you don't want to.)
> 5. What if I have another horrible termination?I wish I could promise you that you won't. If I ruled the universe no one would have horrible terminations! I guess it comes down to whether your sense of hope can transcend the pain of losing your former therapist.
I hope you keeping thinking about it. Let us know what you decide to do!
Tamar
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