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Posted by caraher on July 27, 2005, at 15:18:18
Yesterday was my oral dissertation defense, which I passed. It's at this point that people start in with the cracks about being a "doctor" who cannot heal anything. Anyway, I'd scheduled a T appointment for the following morning, which was (of course) this morning.
The session focused on passing the defense, my reactions to it, those of people around me, what I drew from all that, etc. I felt a bit odd because I'd hoped to feel more relieved when it was over, but really mostly felt tired. And the main thing I kept telling people was that I'm not completely done until I make some revisions in my thesis and get the final version approved and submitted. Or in other words, I still haven't done anything yet (basically how I tend to look at my 41 orbits of the Sun).
Anyway, at the end of the session she asked if she could show me something. She removed from the closet a helium "Congratulations!" balloon and a plant, which she gave me! I was really, really surprised! She talked about how excited she was that I'm finally finishing this PhD and thought I should know that, and asked if she could give me a hug (which has never happened before, the only other physical contact we ever had was probably a handshake when we first met).
It was so unexpected... I think this is the one place where others would really appreciate what that was like for me...
Posted by Emily Elizabeth on July 27, 2005, at 15:29:41
In reply to gifts *from* T (long-ish), posted by caraher on July 27, 2005, at 15:18:18
How sweet! That must have been so special. And congrats to you. Although you still have some revisions to take care of, you have passed the worst part!
Best,
EE
Posted by Dinah on July 27, 2005, at 15:45:56
In reply to gifts *from* T (long-ish), posted by caraher on July 27, 2005, at 15:18:18
Congratulations on both!
That was very thoughtful of your therapist. I like a therapist who isn't afraid to cross (not break) boundaries when appropriate.
Posted by alexandra_k on July 27, 2005, at 16:00:37
In reply to gifts *from* T (long-ish), posted by caraher on July 27, 2005, at 15:18:18
:-)
Oh, well done.
It is a pretty big thing you know... I mean, how many years of your life have you spent working towards it???
A few revisions... Hmm...
I think they feel obliged to say that ;-)That sounds really sweet of your t.
Posted by rubenstein on July 27, 2005, at 16:08:42
In reply to Re: gifts *from* T (long-ish) » caraher, posted by alexandra_k on July 27, 2005, at 16:00:37
that is so cool and brought a huge smile to my face, thanks for sharing
rachel
Posted by Annierose on July 27, 2005, at 16:26:38
In reply to gifts *from* T (long-ish), posted by caraher on July 27, 2005, at 15:18:18
Very hip T ... I'm glad she felt she show you how proud she is of you!!
Thank you for sharing. My T would never do something like that in a million years :(
But I'm glad yours did :)Annierose
Posted by happyflower on July 27, 2005, at 16:34:33
In reply to Re: gifts *from* T (long-ish), posted by rubenstein on July 27, 2005, at 16:08:42
That was so cool of your T to do that! How long have you been working with her? I think a lot of T's are really awesome people inside and outside of work! (but I am a little jeolous!) [but I guess I saw my T in his gym shorts(twice, now), so I guess that is good enough gift for me! lol] sorry , i couldn't help myself! :)
Anyways, congrats! You should feel really proud of yourself!
Posted by caraher on July 27, 2005, at 16:56:39
In reply to WOW!, posted by happyflower on July 27, 2005, at 16:34:33
I've been seeing her almost 5 years if my arithmetic and memory haven't failed me, and I entered grad school full-time ten years ago (though I've been away two years so it's less than 10 years' work).
Thanks for your congratulations too, Babblers :)
Posted by pinkeye on July 27, 2005, at 17:26:37
In reply to Re: WOW!, posted by caraher on July 27, 2005, at 16:56:39
Posted by Shortelise on July 27, 2005, at 19:57:59
In reply to gifts *from* T (long-ish), posted by caraher on July 27, 2005, at 15:18:18
Congrats on your defense! THat's the end to a big piece of your life, and the beginning of another??
I also think it's quite quite wonderful of your T to give you gifts. ANd appropriate too.
It made me feel wonderful to read your post, except the bit about you being tired, of course.
ShortE
Posted by daisym on July 27, 2005, at 23:54:50
In reply to gifts *from* T (long-ish), posted by caraher on July 27, 2005, at 15:18:18
She sounds really special. thank you for sharing.
Congrat's to you too! Don't minimize your accomplishment just because there are a few details to take care of. You've obviously worked hard and have earned a few minutes (at least) to feel proud of yourself. Wallow in the good stuff -- it IS allowed!!
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