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Posted by zebracrossing on February 17, 2006, at 2:05:36
hey guys
i dare u to all give 10 reasons u dont want to sleep with u shrinki know its a challenge , just wanna get the thread going then will post mine.
Posted by Tamar on February 17, 2006, at 5:36:13
In reply to 10 reasons u dont want to sleep with u shrink, posted by zebracrossing on February 17, 2006, at 2:05:36
I don’t have 10, but here are my thoughts…I could sleep with my shrink and he might be good… he might be great. It might be the best sex I’ve ever had. And if I had the most amazing sex of my life with him, I would want to keep him forever. I would fall in love with him and wish to be his partner. But if he had sex with me it wouldn’t be a sign of his love for me and he wouldn’t leave his partner for me. I would be desperately hurt.
I could sleep with my shrink and he might be terrible. We might not connect sexually at all. I remember once before (many years ago) I had a massive crush on an authority figure. Eventually we had a relationship but the sex was nothing like my fantasies. If that happened with my shrink I’d be horribly disappointed.
I could sleep with my shrink and he might be OK. Not fantastic, but not awful. I think I’d like that. But we wouldn’t be able to do therapy any more, and he really is a good therapist…
Sorry, perhaps that was too serious... I'm still not quite myself...
Posted by madeline on February 17, 2006, at 6:27:02
In reply to 10 reasons u dont want to sleep with u shrink, posted by zebracrossing on February 17, 2006, at 2:05:36
10. You will never really know if he is sleeping with you out of love, or a desire to help or if he is just doing it for his own gratification.
9. He could lose his license to practice
8. You would be trading recovery for sex.
7. For CSA survivors, it could end up with your THERAPIST re-traumatizing you.
6. They NEVER leave their wives.
5. The sex probably wouldn't be a great as you think it would be - they are human after all.
4. Even if the sex was fabulous, therapy would be over.
3. The overwhelming majority of people that have slept with their therapist end up in worse shape than if they had never attempted therapy.
2. Given the structured nature of the therapeutic frame, could you ever really consent?
1. You'd probably still have to pay him.
Posted by annierose on February 17, 2006, at 8:23:29
In reply to Re: 10 reasons u dont want to sleep with u shrink » zebracrossing, posted by madeline on February 17, 2006, at 6:27:02
Love your list ... I laughed out loud at reason # 1
Posted by B2chica on February 17, 2006, at 9:48:33
In reply to 10 reasons u dont want to sleep with u shrink, posted by zebracrossing on February 17, 2006, at 2:05:36
mostly i think madeline said it all but i''ll try.
10.he might be analyzing how you have sex. (you know, like why you placed your leg there'...)
9.afterwards he'd ask 'how did that make you feel'
8.would he keep notes on it?
7.would he say 'times up' before you could 'O'?
6.you would feel 'loved and comforted' during fore-play and 'used' after sex
5.next session would you talk with him about the sex?
4.could you really tell him all your deep secrets after knowing what he looks like naked?
3.would you role play during sex???
2.would you giggle during therapy?
1.half way through your session he would roll over and start snoring.
***one reason to do it.
it lasts 50 minutes! not 2.b2c.
Posted by fairywings on February 17, 2006, at 14:19:23
In reply to Re: 10 reasons u dont want to sleep with u shrink, posted by B2chica on February 17, 2006, at 9:48:33
OMG! ROTFLOL Both lists were too funny, I won't attempt to list any after that. You guys should write stand-up routines! ; )fw
Posted by happyflower on February 17, 2006, at 14:24:50
In reply to Re: 10 reasons u dont want to sleep with u shrink, posted by B2chica on February 17, 2006, at 9:48:33
> 9.afterwards he'd ask 'how did that make you feel'7.would he say 'times up' before you could 'O'?
> 3.would you role play during sex???
> ***one reason to do it.
> it lasts 50 minutes! not 2.Okay these were my favorite ones! LOL Too funny! :-)
I can think of a lot more reasons TO do it than not. So that makes it okay, right? Hee Hee I think we could catch the bed on fire, yup! With our mutal attraction and sexual tension, It would be good, I just know it. 80% of sex is in your mind, well we have great mind sex, so I am sure the physical would just melt us into one. Actually I am thinking of spontanious combustion. LOL :-) Dang, do I need to get laid, its been over a year for me.
I showed him my picture of me and my trumpet and he pointed out my fishnets, (he blushed slightly)and I smacked him (playfully). I am sure that will give him food for thought!
Posted by Poet on February 18, 2006, at 11:31:31
In reply to 10 reasons u dont want to sleep with u shrink, posted by zebracrossing on February 17, 2006, at 2:05:36
10 We both won't fit on the love seat
9 Rug burns
8 I don't want to have sex with anybody
7 Would I feel guilty for faking it?
6 Would I have to be honest with her that I faked it? I mean, we're supposed to be honest in therapy and not lie.
5 How would the session end *well, that was a disappointing experiment, see you next week?*
4 Did I mention that we're both female and that makes it awkward, 'cause I know I'm straight, though I'm not sure about her...I am pretty cute, so of course she's hot for me. (ROFL- see #9)
3 I know I'd be waiting for the pizza delivery guy to knock on her office door and join us like in a bad porn scene.
2 They'd probably go at it and I'd just be sitting there eating cold pizza.
1 The insurance company would challenge paying for the session as they don't cover sex therapy. Or pizza.
Poet
Posted by Susan47 on February 18, 2006, at 15:18:23
In reply to Re: 10 reasons u dont want to sleep with u shrink, posted by happyflower on February 17, 2006, at 14:24:50
Remember about blushing though. People blush when what they're feeling internally doesn't match the impression they know they just gave. So maybe it isn't what you think, and remember, he hasn't exactly TOLD you what he's thinking about you, if anything, sexually. Remember to say you have great mind sex, not we, unless he's told you. And if he has, he's bad.
Posted by zebracrossing on February 20, 2006, at 7:21:13
In reply to 10 reasons u dont want to sleep with u shrink, posted by zebracrossing on February 17, 2006, at 2:05:36
My thread I started seems to be going well....
very funny1. what happens if he is really really small and is a shrink because he is trying to compensate ,with having a big brain. so we just assume everythings big...
2. it will b exactly the same as therapy u probably wuld hav told him abt your previous partners but wont know anything abt his.power imbalance once again
3.you get to see how much he really cares when he cums and dosent care abt u
4.you stare at the women waiting on the way out and wonder if she will get to see him naked too
5.I think ive opened up to my shrink enough....dont want to OPEN UP..anymore
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