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Posted by muffled on June 7, 2006, at 23:31:32
I hate the word safe.
I used to phone my T when I was downtown and she would say 'are you safe?' and I would spaz on her.
Took a few spazzes b4 she stopped saying it. But she never does now.
They should really teach that at T school.
When you think of it, its really an incredibly stupid thing to say to some people.
Really.
That post to curt was great.
Take care
Muffly
Posted by Poet on June 8, 2006, at 10:53:53
In reply to Ha Poet!, posted by muffled on June 7, 2006, at 23:31:32
Hi Muffled,
Do therapists, pdocs, etc. honestly think that telling us something is safe (scream) will instantly make us feel it? My response to Dr. Clueless when she asked what made me feel THAT WORD was “ being alone in a room with the door bolted and that includes this room.” She wrote an down an awful lot for such a short statement.
Maybe we should have our own written ground rules that we hand them at the first session.
Therapist or psychiatrist acknowledges that s/he may not at any time use *fill in word(s) here* in any context. Therapist or psychiatrist understands the potential consequences for violations of this rule may include having words and/or objects hurled at them. Patient reserves the right to storm out and slam door. Therapist or psychiatrists agrees not to charge patient for the session if the infraction occurred within the first 15 minutes.
Poet
Posted by Daisym on June 8, 2006, at 20:19:03
In reply to Re: Poet's Ground Rules for Words » muffled, posted by Poet on June 8, 2006, at 10:53:53
Great Rule!!
Let's start with opening lines..."How are you?" is OK -- "How was your weekend?" is OK -- "You look like you've been crying" is not OK.
And phrases they just have to stop using, "Well, what do you think about that?"
urg...
Posted by annierose on June 8, 2006, at 21:13:24
In reply to Re: Poet's Ground Rules for Words » Poet, posted by Daisym on June 8, 2006, at 20:19:03
So many phrases I wished mine would refrain from using ...
"So why do you think that is?"
"What's running through your mind today?" (must remind myself that sarcasm is not nice)
or the throwing the question back at you trick, although I must say, my T has pretty much stopped doing that after I told her straight out, "I really HATE that." So now she will actually try to either answer the question, or appear to answer the question by talking about something else.
And the most painful one of all, "Our time is up."
Posted by 10derHeart on June 10, 2006, at 10:30:43
In reply to Re: Poet's Ground Rules for Words, posted by annierose on June 8, 2006, at 21:13:24
hi annie,
>> And the most painful one of all, "Our time is up."<<
Yeah, mine says that one sometimes, too. Depending on the session, that alone can trigger new tears unless I fight them off really hard. Gee, can you tell I'm having trouble being able to leave his office lately? :-(
Or even more often, he'll say, "we have to stop." I don't know which is worse, but your post just made me realize I really *hate* when he says either one. It's pretty irrational 'cause I can usually feel how much time has passed (I don't wear a watch and can't see the clock), and obviously we can't talk indefinitely (little 10der whines in my head: "But why NOT?! I don't wanna go!) but I don't wish to actually hear him confirm that out loud.
Some day maybe he'll give in and let me curl up and nap under his desk all day? Yeah, right. <sigh>
Posted by 10derHeart on June 10, 2006, at 10:36:25
In reply to Re: Poet's Ground Rules for Words » annierose, posted by 10derHeart on June 10, 2006, at 10:30:43
I guess annierose's post got me off on a tangent about how sessions end and away from what you posted about.
I feel safer in the world than you guys do. But it's still limited to a few places and people, and I can turn on defensive, frightened, "don't mess with me," mode in a split second, even with my T. sometimes.
It's one loooooong journey to figure out what that's about and maybe lessen it some, ya' know? 'cause it sure takes up a lot of precious energy in daily life to be on edge and ready for 'fight or flight' at any time.
Posted by Poet on June 11, 2006, at 12:12:14
In reply to Re: Poet's Ground Rules for Words » Poet, posted by Daisym on June 8, 2006, at 20:19:03
Hi Daisy,
Let's all print up our rules and pass 'em out!
Poet
Posted by Poet on June 11, 2006, at 12:16:31
In reply to Re: Poet's Ground Rules for Words, posted by annierose on June 8, 2006, at 21:13:24
Hi Annierose,
My T never does the throw the question back at me bit, she'd get a pillow thrown at her for sure.
I regularly respond to my T with sarcasm and she does it right back. She asks for my thoughts and well, my thoughts aren't very nice most of the time.
Poet
Posted by Poet on June 14, 2006, at 19:23:11
In reply to Ha Poet!, posted by muffled on June 7, 2006, at 23:31:32
Argh. I told her (AGAIN) I hate that word and she looked at me all innocent, like, *what you don't like the S word?*
I launched a pillow at her and she said it's a good thing she only allows pillow throwing because I looked like I wanted to hurt her. I should have thrown the tissue box.
Poet
Posted by muffled on June 14, 2006, at 19:47:10
In reply to She said that word!, posted by Poet on June 14, 2006, at 19:23:11
> Argh. I told her (AGAIN) I hate that word and she looked at me all innocent, like, *what you don't like the S word?*
***So did you tell her????
>
> I launched a pillow at her and she said it's a good thing she only allows pillow throwing because I looked like I wanted to hurt her. I should have thrown the tissue box.***Mebbe explain it to her so she knows WHY.
Sometimes stuff that makes sense to me (eg. packing a knife) shocks other people.
I've had it said to me, 'but you would NEVER use it'(knife). I wouldn't carry it if I didn't know how to use it....
Dense.
My T is ok that I have a knife.
She's pretty ok.
Muffled
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