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Posted by toetapper on December 24, 2006, at 20:24:58
A year ago today my ex-T referred to me as a whore, taking out of context (and judging, harshly) the promiscuity that often accompanies CSA, this is for him:
you have a girl who was that age once
eleven
maybe you remember what she was like then
just a few years ago
watch her at dinner tonight, the whole family gathered
and ask yourself what you would have done
if your wife came home and told you
my sister's husband raped our girl
and then, if you dare, come and tell me
you think you did right by me
Posted by Tamar on December 24, 2006, at 21:03:38
In reply to Ode to My Shrink ***SA Trigger***, posted by toetapper on December 24, 2006, at 20:24:58
> A year ago today my ex-T referred to me as a whore, taking out of context (and judging, harshly) the promiscuity that often accompanies CSA, this is for him:
>
> you have a girl who was that age once
> eleven
> maybe you remember what she was like then
> just a few years ago
> watch her at dinner tonight, the whole family gathered
> and ask yourself what you would have done
> if your wife came home and told you
> my sister's husband raped our girl
> and then, if you dare, come and tell me
> you think you did right by meHow awful for you. I’m sorry you had such a crap therapist. You didn’t deserve his judgmental attitudes.
It never ceases to amaze me how little some therapists know about the consequences of CSA and sexual assault, especially considering the prevalence of that kind of experience among therapy clients.
And of course promiscuity is not something a therapist should be judgmental about, whether or not there’s a history of CSA.
Have you been able to find a therapist who can be accepting and sensitive about your sexual history?
Posted by Poet on December 25, 2006, at 10:49:35
In reply to Ode to My Shrink ***SA Trigger***, posted by toetapper on December 24, 2006, at 20:24:58
Hi Toetapper,
I am sending one hard cyber slap to your ex T's head. Hope it hurts him as much as his thoughtless comment hurt you. I'm glad he's your ex T, he shouldn't be a T period.
Poet
Posted by Lonely on December 31, 2006, at 13:41:22
In reply to Ode to My Shrink ***SA Trigger***, posted by toetapper on December 24, 2006, at 20:24:58
Having had some brutish Ts myself I want to say I'm sympathetic to your anguish. The T had no right to say/do what he/she said. I'm glad others have expressed the same. It's hard to remember to stand up and say something like "That was rude, mean, and unprofessional. I expect an apology" and mean it. One is already too mired down to demand the respect that they deserve. As you've figured out, it's victimizing the victim.
Somewhere there needs to be a place to report such outlandishly bad therapists but I don't know where it is. Joint Commission for Accreditaiton of Healthcare Organizations? This is the type of behavior that gives therapy and therapists a bad name. There just isn't enough regulation. Please, don't let that monster cause you any more pain.
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