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Posted by Scentedgarden on October 8, 2007, at 14:52:26
your sentiments on private email suits me just fine babe. im glad ur well. and thats all the matters. take care
Posted by Scentedgarden on October 8, 2007, at 15:33:21
In reply to Thank you for your kind message Dory, thats fine x, posted by Scentedgarden on October 8, 2007, at 14:52:26
I'm just another babbler looking for support on my therapy issues here. My good friend Dory has blocked me from private emailing because of something i said which is a bit annoying. It's quite okay for someone to block someone if they don't want to correspond but i think its unfair to do say after you have said something back thereby not giving the other person a chance to respond.
Whats the point of discussion if its only to say what people want to hear? It's just a thought.. a psychological thought.
Lets face it everyone on these psychology boards are here mostly due to psychological issues in their life.
Suffering from some sort or form of neurosis or psychosis or whatever.. the list is endless. I just think its so funny that is now the 2ND person to block me from private email.
Maybe i will take this all to my new therapist to discuss what annoying things people can sometimes do when they don't hear what they want to hear. Oh that would include therapists too judging by the post above on 'yet another bad termination'
Basically none likes to hear things that they don't like. i understand that. But I am who I am and i make no apology for my views. If the other person, be they a therapist or whoever doesn't like what i say that's fair enough, but I'd like the opportunity to discuss it and not simply be shut off from making a reply.
All emails are open to interpretation, and i can guarantee that 100% of what i say in them would be taken in a different context if they were said in person. I can assure no offence is ever meant.
If. oh whats the point... I'm checking out of this blasted email scenario altogether.
best wishes to all you babblers neurotic, psychotic or otherwise and everyone in between.
I'm sure you will all continue for many years to cum to say the things each one wants to hear.
and God forbid anyone rock that boat..hahahaha
I'm taking a bow!
graciously
always
scented garden
p.s. my babble mail is on, and no one is blocked from contacted me but if you're only interested in having your ears tickled please don't bother.
I ha vent got time for pandering around. I have something to say and I wont make apologies for that.
But if i offended Dory or anyone else over the years I apologise for that.
Hurt people hurt people - and that's my point about the folks here, who are mostly hurting and who need loved and helped... but it seems from what i see from reading the boards that progress is very slow if at all, and people here seem to tell everyone everything they should be discussing with their therapist..since they are paying the therapist not babble. -
ANYWAY Ive HAD ENUF, as im sure many have had enuf of me.To everything under the sun there is a time, this is my time to bid the psychology babble board a farewell..
I know people often say this then everyone says oh dont go, bla bla bla.. hahaha - Im not like that I have cohones, and im not into saying stuff for the attention, quite frankly i can live without attention... a quiet peaceful life is the life for me, but i wont shut upon what i know just to please someone... now that would be crazy!!!
********** I know who I Am. *************
love to muffled, i think ur the most lovely kind person Ive come ac cross here - u take care and may Our Lord Jesus bless and keep you muffled...
and there have been some pretty nice folks Ive chatted to on here over the years. to all of you I say thanks caring...and to take care. God bless you too. - or in other word, Bye Bye - cheers!
Posted by Deputy Dinah on October 8, 2007, at 16:01:40
In reply to DeepEmails, + online correspondence is so fraught, posted by Scentedgarden on October 8, 2007, at 15:33:21
> Maybe i will take this all to my new therapist to discuss what annoying things people can sometimes do when they don't hear what they want to hear.
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Posted by Scentedgarden on October 8, 2007, at 16:15:38
In reply to Please be civil » Scentedgarden, posted by Deputy Dinah on October 8, 2007, at 16:01:40
sorry dinah, i wasnt trying not to be civil as u put it. I honestly dont really care about your civil notice. get a life!
Posted by Scentedgarden on October 8, 2007, at 16:21:43
In reply to Please be civil » Scentedgarden, posted by Deputy Dinah on October 8, 2007, at 16:01:40
Posted by sunnydays on October 8, 2007, at 21:01:44
In reply to DeepEmails, + online correspondence is so fraught, posted by Scentedgarden on October 8, 2007, at 15:33:21
Well, I for one tell my therapist about all the stuff I post on Babble. I just sometimes 'practice' here first. And I think my progress has been miraculously quick, actually, given my experience. To decide to leave home within a year of starting therapy... that was huge for me.
Assumptions... *sigh* ... it's too bad we all make them.
sunnydays
Posted by happyflower on October 8, 2007, at 21:32:13
In reply to Thank you for your kind message Dory, thats fine x, posted by Scentedgarden on October 8, 2007, at 14:52:26
So are you removing the please don't ever write to me that you told me earlier this year? As far as I knew it, you didn't want to ever talk to me.
Posted by muffled on October 8, 2007, at 21:33:50
In reply to Re: DeepEmails, + online correspondence is so fraught, posted by sunnydays on October 8, 2007, at 21:01:44
Crazy life eh?
Take care.
Hope you are OK....
Hope you pop in from time to time.
M
Posted by Scentedgarden on October 9, 2007, at 10:49:29
In reply to Takecare, hope all will be well for you as can be » sunnydays, posted by muffled on October 8, 2007, at 21:33:50
Thanks Muff.. thanks for being so nice to me always.
To sunnydays, i didn't mean anything by that, it certainly wasn't directed at anyone in particular. And certainly not to you. I don't even know you! So i will apologise to you and to anyone else you feels my 'assumptions' are inaccurate, or inoffensive.
This is exactly what i mean tho about this place, you cant say Jack without it being called uncivil, or whatever. okay not always but often enuf for it to bug the living daylights out of this garden.
Sunny, whatever is happening in your life with the huge progress really IS huge. I'm glad for you. And I'm glad for anyone who gets their life going again.
There are many special people all over these boards, we are all special in our own way, and its relief of pain and some answers to things re out therapy etc that drive us into the land of 'world wide web' and as a result 'us lot' {{as in anyone who only reads, or posts}} have found babble boards. I myself found them when i was beginning to care for a therapist whom i had no attraction to whatsoever for around the first 18 months of CBT therapy. I googled until i dropped, and i landed here. It took me over a year to say anything. I would read the post about loving and being in love and sexual attraction , and counter transference etc etc.
Then I got up the cohones to post my wee bit. My tuppence worth, but i must say it was with trepidation as have noticed that I don't fit into forums very well. And it's always good to know ones limitations. So I probably should have remained silent, but crazy lady like me had to get involved. There was a time at the beginning of the year when my T had me in a state of utter distress; thru her lies and sudden change of tone with me. One person here in particular was n angel to me... and for that I am very grateful that i took the chance ans didn't remain silent.
To Happyflower, I am sorry if i said that I am at this moment having to rely on what you say as I couldn't remember if you blocked me or other way, or both.. lol - This is what happens when i get close to some people, not all but some..
I will go ahead and remove the block thing on my private email, and then if you so wish to at any time you are more then welcome to contact me. I have often thot of you and would have liked to say Hi, but when i fall out with people its always so final, so i didn't know if you would -
anyway its not to matter now.
My life span in virtual reality is probably past its 'sell by date' i only came back on the other night because i was so angry at my T for all the years we didn't actually talk about what i wanted to talk about.
Now to Dory, I think that is why I was so full on with you the other night in the private email, i was acting out my anger at not having been able to say what i wanted to say to the Therapist i loved so much because it made her feel uncomfortable. I think i am going around taking it out on everyone else, by just being very direct and straight to what i have to say.
But that doesn't excuse the insensitive nature with which i wrote you. I was drunk for the first time in over 4 years.. all thru therapy i didn't drink, now i am finding my feet again without the best mum and the worst therapist i ever had. ( she would have been a gr8 mum, but she is a bad therapist IMO)
I would like to apologise for the way it looked, but i was not trying to make you do anything, i was only saying how it is for me. and genuinely asking you ,'how is it for you' i honestly am/was interested as i have no knowledge of that.
If you had been there you would have understood i wasn't being aggressive to your ways of thinking. NEVER!!! why would i do that???
I'm not perfect and I'm many things that are maybe not the best, but I'm not a judgemental person. I was asking questions, and offering my take on my belief. It was open for discussion, although i was over doing it i accept that, but it wasn't as you thought, in that i 'was trying to make you do anything or dissecting what you had to say, i was only presenting where I am and asking you to share with me where you are.
I don't know if you believe that Dory, but its the truth. I'm glad u realise that i wasn't trying to be mean, and that i thot i was in some way just being bluntly honest about my way of thinking. That's all..! I don't need anyone to agree with me. But I'm willing to have a debate about it from a very personal and practical viewpoint. I wanted to know how your worked for you in all seriousness.. i was NOT disrespecting, or judging you or it.
Why would I?? It makes no difference to my life what you think. Anyway had i not been worse for wear on alcohol id have said less. But it was all said as a conversation that i hoped you'd answer line by line or precept by precept. Obviously I cam across all wrong and that made you block me. That's your choice and if |I make you feel like blocking me that is absolutely fine! But, as you quoted what Gandhi said, I would agree with him. So all I ask is that you consider maybe to not make your mind up about Christianity based on me or Christians. Cos I'm a crazy lady sometimes and only saved by Grace. But I do mean well Dory, and I am sad that you blocked me. But your entitled to block me if you want.
To everyone who reads this and likes me here, I'm hurting heaps [[right in my wee part of the world]]] now with conflicting emotions that came from my Fecking therapy relationship. I sometimes wish id never stayed in therapy.
I don't have another therapist I just said that ..but these days my therapist is my friends or family or whoever as my life moves on.
I'm done now.
Take care
so long farewellP.S. I'm so glad we all met
and Im so glad u have been kind to me on this thread. I dont think i could deal with any more hurt right now.
Thank you - and respect to all and everyone as you travel on your journey.
May the road always rise to meet you.
Posted by antigua3 on October 11, 2007, at 5:27:44
In reply to Re: Takecare, hope all will be well for you as can be, posted by Scentedgarden on October 9, 2007, at 10:49:29
I'm sorry you drank after four years. That must be very hard for you. I hope you're OK and were able to stop again.
antigua
Posted by Scentedgarden on October 11, 2007, at 7:04:12
In reply to Re: Takecare, hope all will be well for you as can be » Scentedgarden, posted by antigua3 on October 11, 2007, at 5:27:44
Posted by Scentedgarden on October 11, 2007, at 12:35:18
In reply to Re: Thank you for your kind message Dory, thats fine x, posted by happyflower on October 8, 2007, at 21:32:13
ur only sticking ur 2 cents in.. ur not even remotely interested in contacting me.. just sticking ur ore in where its not welcome! IMO
or ud have made contact.. you and D can be thick of thieves sumtimes.. hope u r happy \HF.. what goes around cumes ...bla bla
Posted by Deputy Racer on October 11, 2007, at 13:03:31
In reply to what u asking for HF? just 2 show off to everyone? » happyflower, posted by Scentedgarden on October 11, 2007, at 12:35:18
> ur only sticking ur 2 cents in.. ur not even remotely interested in contacting me.. just sticking ur ore in where its not welcome!
Please don't post anything which could lead others to feel accused or put down, even if your feelings have been hurt. You've been warned on this thread already, so this time I'm going to block you from posting for two weeks.
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