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Posted by sunnydays on April 9, 2008, at 18:29:46
So I was having a hard time and sent T and email (actually two emails). He only ever responds to some of them, not all the ones I send, so it's typical for him only to respond to one and I'm used to that. But all it said was, "Let's talk Saturday,"... in the past he's written that and everything was fine, there was nothing to worry about and I never even brought it up that it freaked me out. But I'm worried because that's so ambiguous... talk because I'm in trouble? talk because you want me to stop emailing (that was a prominent concern in the email I sent)? talk about the emotions (which is what I hope it means)?
Uggggh. And I want so bad to call and leave a message or send another email and ask. But I don't know if he'd answer another email (he's been answering very few of my emails lately, and it could be to do with me, or it could be due to many factors not associated with me, and I don't know why). And it might freak me out more if he didn't answer.
What do I do? Somehow the discomfort has to go down or I feel like I might explode.
sunnydays
Posted by earthmama on April 9, 2008, at 18:44:19
In reply to Aaaargh...., posted by sunnydays on April 9, 2008, at 18:29:46
{{{{{{{{{{sunnydays}}}}}}}}}}}Wow, have I been there, done that. I love being able to e-mail my T, but sometimes it creates WAY more issues than it solves. It's so painful and scary to try to interpret what he "means" by his responses sometimes. I would have had the exact same response you did to his e-mail....even knowing all of the possibilities - maybe he's busy and doesn't have time to e-mail, maybe he doesn't "get" how upset I am, etc, etc.
What I have learned to do in your situation is CALL. Usually, when I can hear his voice, and we can talk about whatever is going on, and whatever fears his e-mail generated, I feel a lot better. It is really hard to me to pick up the phone...but the couple of times I have called, it's helped. I know Saturday must feel REALLY far away right now...maybe you can give yourself some relief and touch base with him, on the phone, before then.
From what I've read, it sounds like you have a really good T. I don't think he would want you to suffer from now until Saturday.
I'm sorry you're feeling so bad right now. Maybe some other people here can give you some words of wisdom that will help!
Posted by star008 on April 9, 2008, at 21:03:57
In reply to Aaaargh...., posted by sunnydays on April 9, 2008, at 18:29:46
sometimes i think there is too much there for a T to answer right away so that is why he wants to wait and talk about it.. another sentence would have been nice.. like hang in there or somethng..
try not to read to much into it.. Everytime i read into things I am wrong..
Posted by frida on April 10, 2008, at 8:32:55
In reply to Aaaargh...., posted by sunnydays on April 9, 2008, at 18:29:46
dear sunnydays,
i totally understand because when my t responds to an email in a short way or says something like your T has said, i tend to interpret it as "I did something wrong", but then when we talk i see everything is all right and it was just that she was busy and wanted to acknowledge my mail and talk about it together, or that she thought it was too important and didn't want to mention anything in witing....or other reasons.
when this happens sometimes i try to wait, but when i can't stand the anxiety and fear i usually call her. It's much better, when i hear her voice and we can talk for a moment everything's better.
Fortunately Saturday is not that far from you, but it might feel like a long time feeling this anxiety and fear. Maybe you can call him briefly and if he's not there just say that you'd need to hear his voice for a moment and ask him to please call you?
I'm sure it'll be okay, you haven't done anything wrong and it will be okay. And you've built trust with your T...you won't lose that.
hang in there,
Frida
Posted by sunnydays on April 12, 2008, at 20:51:51
In reply to Aaaargh...., posted by sunnydays on April 9, 2008, at 18:29:46
Thank you everyone for your replies. I'm sorry I just wasn't feeling ok enough to answer them individually. See my post below for an update on the situation.
sunnydays
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