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Posted by Happyflower on April 8, 2008, at 12:30:05
I called him yesterday when I got all upset because I felt unsafe even in my own house. He was on lunch and I got to talk to him, I didn't even ask, the secretary just put me through. He tried to tell me what I was feeling was normal considering the trauma therapy we were doing and the feelings of unsafe I felt a lot at home. I took a xanax and went to school and I was fine.
But what made me call him?
I could have called my DH or anyone else, but I called him. I have never done that before.I don't want to rely on him in that way because I know he can't be there for me all the time. I don't want to get into the habit of calling him.
Now I know it will come up on Thurs. in session, but I feel like freak. I don't want to count on him, I don't want him to be that important to me. But I called, he helped me, but I wished I didn't call. I don't want him to become important to me, I don't want to count on him, I wish I didn't call. It wasn't really an emergency, I was just starting to panic. Why did I call him? auugghhh!
Posted by star008 on April 8, 2008, at 12:54:03
In reply to I called my T and now I feel stupid, posted by Happyflower on April 8, 2008, at 12:30:05
try not to feel bad about calling him. that is what he is there for. I don't think that they mind as long as you aren't calling all the time.
I call my T once in awhile when things are too much for me.. He doesn't make a big deal about it when i see him.. I don't want to be dependent either but sometimes for me, calling some else just doesn't help..
Posted by stellabystarlight on April 8, 2008, at 13:32:00
In reply to I called my T and now I feel stupid, posted by Happyflower on April 8, 2008, at 12:30:05
Hi Happyflower,
I know how you feel. When I've called mine on a few occassions, I felt so weak. I felt like I was going on a runway train to dependence and neediness. So odd when that's what we're paying them for. Why is this therapy process so difficult? It's suppose to help us...right? You're welcome to email me anytime if you need to talk at all. Take care.
Stellabystarlight
Posted by Phillipa on April 8, 2008, at 16:31:05
In reply to Re: I called my T and now I feel stupid..I'm sorry, posted by stellabystarlight on April 8, 2008, at 13:32:00
To me it's sort of like calling the pdoc if meds giving problems so you called for help. I think it's fine. Heck you were very frightened . Love Phillipa
Posted by raisinb on April 8, 2008, at 19:36:42
In reply to I called my T and now I feel stupid, posted by Happyflower on April 8, 2008, at 12:30:05
I know what you mean. My T always urges me to call if I need to, then jokes, "but I know you won't," because I hate to get in the habit. I mean, where will it end? How can I rely on her, after I've taught myself to get through things on my own? How do I know when I'm feeling bad enough? I think getting a good phone call would freak me out, too, because then I'd worry about being dependent.
But it's good that you called him and he was there for you, I think--even though it scares you at first. My T would call it progress, so congratulations :)
From reading the board, I have an impression that you have a very good, affectionate, friendly relationship with this therapist, and you're relieved that the boundary crossings/intense feelings you had with your old T haven't shown up. Are you worried that if you get closer to the new one, those things will start happening? I might be way off, just an idea.
Anyway, stay well and take care of yourself :)
Posted by sassyfrancesca on April 9, 2008, at 10:18:04
In reply to I called my T and now I feel stupid, posted by Happyflower on April 8, 2008, at 12:30:05
you called him, because you needed him.
No need to feel stupid or anything else. As humans we all need to depend on someone, sweetie!
I try to be independent, and rarely call or e-mail my t; I even waited a whole week to call him when we were both in Hawaii........it's a fight to not reach out and be needy and to try to maintain independence, but it is the nature of the beast, once in therapy TO become dependent. It simply is what happens. Try not to beat yourself up you did nothing wrong.....you were simply....human.
Posted by Shadowplayers721 on April 18, 2008, at 0:55:58
In reply to I called my T and now I feel stupid, posted by Happyflower on April 8, 2008, at 12:30:05
Please don't judge yourself so harshly. You are engaged in powerful work and your t understands what you are going through. That's what they are there for - to help give you emotional support.
It actually a form of taking care of yourself to reach out and get yourself what you need now with caring professionals.
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