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asked my T a question today

Posted by Angela2 on May 27, 2008, at 13:06:56

I asked her if she saw any progress in me. She said she wanted to turn it around and ask me what I thought. I felt like I was grasping at straws. I said maybe I'm a little more positive and that was about it. She said she sees me more in tune with my emotions.

What I'm getting at though, is that I don't know if therapy is helping me. I have this T group tomorrow and I'd like to try it at least..

My friend has stopped going to therapy and her gp is giving her her meds. That sort of got me thinking about my own progress and my own experience in therapy. I feel like I've been in therapy for so long (but only started seeing this t four months ago) and maybe it's time to move on and stop going to therapy.

 

Re: asked my T a question today » Angela2

Posted by ClearSkies on May 27, 2008, at 15:59:54

In reply to asked my T a question today, posted by Angela2 on May 27, 2008, at 13:06:56

Maybe ask the question another way - do you think you connect with your therapist? Does she (or he) "get" you, or do you feel that you have to explain yourself to her?

It's become very important to me to have a therapist with whom I am comfortable with no matter the mood that I'm in, and no matter the subject that's before us. It's not that we haven't had our missteps, but we have been able to work through them.

Before this therapist, whom I've been seeing for over 3 years, I had 3 in a row that I would have to characterize as duds - and not because they weren't good at what they do, perhaps, but because we didn't have a good rapport. (Oh, OK - maybe 2 out of those 3 were actually duds! But one of them was alright, but not alright for me.)

Four months in is maybe a good time to be asking yourself how well your fit is...

That's my contribution, anyways.
CS

 

Re: asked my T a question today

Posted by I need a hug on May 27, 2008, at 17:25:25

In reply to asked my T a question today, posted by Angela2 on May 27, 2008, at 13:06:56

Angela,
What are your goals? What do you want to accomplish by going to therapy? Is this therapist helping you achieve your goals? Do you feel comfortable with her? I agree with CS. Maybe this T isn't a good fit for you. You have to have a good rapport with your T. I've been with mine for 10 years. I keep telling her if she ever moves very far away to schedule me to see her once every 3 mos. I'd just jump on a plane and go to wherever she was. She just laughs but I keep telling her I'm crazy enough to do it. Besides, I tell it would be a nice little vacation. Seriously, think about what you want out of therapy. Are you getting it? If not, maybe it's time to rethink things. Hugs

 

Re: asked my T a question today

Posted by Phillipa on May 28, 2008, at 0:24:19

In reply to Re: asked my T a question today, posted by I need a hug on May 27, 2008, at 17:25:25

I got another dud do better on my own it seems. Set higher goals and achieve them on my own with her no goals and she never followed through to see if I'd accomplished them. Phillipa

 

Re: asked my T a question today » Phillipa

Posted by sunnydays on May 28, 2008, at 11:36:33

In reply to Re: asked my T a question today, posted by Phillipa on May 28, 2008, at 0:24:19

I don't know Phillipa - your T sounded ok to me. Many T's don't follow through on asking about homework because they don't want the client to feel bad if they didn't do it. It might be more helpful to you to ask her to ask. What's important is that YOU know whether you did it or not. If you're finding yourself not able to accomplish what she gives as homework and it bothers you, then that would be something that in my opinion would be your responsibility to bring up and discuss. But I hear that you are frustrated with your lack of progress. Unfortunately, therapy isn't a process where you typically see immediate results, and things sometimes have to get worse before they get better (at least in my experience).

sunnydays

 

Re: asked my T a question today

Posted by angela2 on May 29, 2008, at 10:59:51

In reply to Re: asked my T a question today » Phillipa, posted by sunnydays on May 28, 2008, at 11:36:33

ALL, I will respond later when I get internet access at home again. which will be in a couple days maybe sooner. thanks


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