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Posted by TherapyGirl on April 7, 2009, at 19:19:34
We had a decent discussion today, mostly brought on by Dinah's response to my thread above (about the Oak and Willow trees). She asked me which part resonated with me and I said, "Almost all of it. The only part I can't see right now is trying to cobble together enough support to fill in the huge gaps left by you and best friend." She said she is having a hard time because she is afraid for me and because she truly does believe I can do this. But she also understood how I might just need her to be in the pain with me right now and she said she would work on that.
We also talked about the suicide stuff. I wrote in my journal (and took a copy of it to her) that I had to be able to talk about these feelings or it was just pointless to go to therapy. And that I couldn't talk about them if she threatened me with hospitalization like she did last week. I told her that in all the time she's known me, no matter how suicidal I've felt, I have not attempted -- not even once. That I thought she had to trust me on this issue and that I thought I had earned her trust. She said that she was never going to stand by and do nothing if I told her I was going to leave her office and commit suicide. I told her I would never say that to her. She said that not only ethically and professionally but personally because of her care and love for me that she would have to step in if I did that. I told her again that I wouldn't. So we have reached a tentative agreement on that. She does want me to be able to talk about my feelings.
I don't know how much this helps, but at least I didn't leave there feeling worse like I did last week.
Thanks, Dinah, for helping me articulate one of the issues so well.
Posted by Dinah on April 7, 2009, at 22:44:02
In reply to T said she loved me ***Trigger***, posted by TherapyGirl on April 7, 2009, at 19:19:34
How wonderful that she said that. I was sure she did, from how she's been with you. But hearing it is special too.
It sounds like a really good talk. You need to be able to be honest with her. There is a lot to be honest about.
I am very glad that I was able to help, in whatever way I could. You know how I identify with your situation.
Posted by raisinb on April 8, 2009, at 18:26:25
In reply to T said she loved me ***Trigger***, posted by TherapyGirl on April 7, 2009, at 19:19:34
Of course she does :) I'm so happy for you that your relationship is on the mend. Take care of yourself.
Posted by TherapyGirl on April 8, 2009, at 20:49:01
In reply to Re: T said she loved me ***Trigger*** » TherapyGirl, posted by raisinb on April 8, 2009, at 18:26:25
Thanks, Raisin.
How'd your session go today?
Posted by raisinb on April 8, 2009, at 21:27:02
In reply to Re: T said she loved me ***Trigger***, posted by TherapyGirl on April 8, 2009, at 20:49:01
The session isn't until tomorrow, but thanks for asking :)
I did see my pdoc, who wanted to know why I was doing so badly, and pushed me into talking about therapy...and then kept pushing me to find a new therapist. I finally pacified her with an offer to sign a release so she can call my therapist. What a mess.
Posted by TherapyGirl on April 9, 2009, at 6:58:08
In reply to Re: T said she loved me ***Trigger*** » TherapyGirl, posted by raisinb on April 8, 2009, at 21:27:02
What a mess indeed. I hope all of this will mean something good comes out at the end. But the process is painful, huh?
Sorry I got my days mixed up -- I'm on the road this week so everything is weird. I hope it goes well today. I'll be thinking about you.
Posted by raisinb on April 9, 2009, at 12:16:46
In reply to Re: T said she loved me ***Trigger*** » raisinb, posted by TherapyGirl on April 9, 2009, at 6:58:08
It certainly is. My pdoc is like a pit bull when she gets an opinion about something. So if I go today, my therapist will have been (very professionally, but strongly) chewed out by my pdoc--she's chewed me out before for doing unhealthy things--unless my pdoc is substantially different with other clinicians than she is with patients. I'm not at all sure I want to walk in there with that having happened. I suppose I have three hours to decide, but it's not looking good.
Thank you for thinking about me :) I hope your trip goes well.
Posted by raisinb on April 9, 2009, at 12:18:09
In reply to Re: T said she loved me ***Trigger*** » TherapyGirl, posted by raisinb on April 9, 2009, at 12:16:46
Posted by TherapyGirl on April 10, 2009, at 8:12:27
In reply to and sorry for hijacking your thread :) (nm), posted by raisinb on April 9, 2009, at 12:18:09
This is the end of the thread.
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