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Posted by Moonshadow on September 6, 2009, at 10:32:11
"you're really messed up". ?
On Monday that's what she said. Not in a mean way, just very matter of fact. I can't remember the context. I wasn't acting crazy, and I hadn't hurt myself.
On my way home, I thought it was funny. Psychiatrists aren't supposed to say that, right? I'm not offended at all. The thing is, I don't think I'm that bad.
Now, this is the same T who told me I had more scars than she had ever seen. My T is not some newbie- I think she's trying to do something, get me to react or realize something. I just can't figure it out. I'm wondering if she's even telling the truth. T's don't lie, do they? She's psychanalytically trained.
Any thoughts?
Posted by Phillipa on September 6, 2009, at 13:00:40
In reply to What would you think if your T said, posted by Moonshadow on September 6, 2009, at 10:32:11
It just doesn't sound like a helpful comment to me. I'd think she would be trying to build up your self esteem. That's just my thoughts Phillipa
Posted by Dinah on September 6, 2009, at 14:13:02
In reply to What would you think if your T said, posted by Moonshadow on September 6, 2009, at 10:32:11
I think I'd ask some followup questions because context is *really* important. If that was the sum total of what my therapist said, I think I'd seriously consider whether he was the therapist for me. But when I listened again in context, I might well discover that that wasn't *all* he said.
Posted by emmanuel98 on September 6, 2009, at 19:22:42
In reply to Re: What would you think if your T said » Moonshadow, posted by Dinah on September 6, 2009, at 14:13:02
My T said the exact same thing to me -- you really are very messed-up and, he added, I don't mean that in a negative way, just that you have a lot of work to do.
I wasn't hurt. I was pretty messed-up at the time.
Posted by Moonshadow on September 7, 2009, at 9:59:55
In reply to Re: What would you think if your T said » Moonshadow, posted by Dinah on September 6, 2009, at 14:13:02
> I think I'd ask some followup questions because context is *really* important. If that was the sum total of what my therapist said, I think I'd seriously consider whether he was the therapist for me. But when I listened again in context, I might well discover that that wasn't *all* he said.
I think you're right. I need to ask her about it. All I can remember is that phrase.
Do therapists ever say things just to provoke?
Posted by floatingbridge on September 7, 2009, at 13:54:59
In reply to What would you think if your T said, posted by Moonshadow on September 6, 2009, at 10:32:11
I think Dinah gave some good advice. I don't know if I'd be able to follow it. Personally, I'd feel hurt and need quite an explanation. Sounds unprofessional.
two cents.
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