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Posted by elizabeth31 on October 17, 2009, at 14:38:54
Oh no, I think my therapist is mad at me. :( I haven't seen him in awhile and went to my first session back with him and it was horrible. Describing it as awkward at best with uncomfortable silences and it felt more like forced chit chat you would have with someone on a blind date. He was asking me questions that made me feel like he never met me before (what hobbies are you interested in? what do you do in your free time? Have you met any men you're interested in? etc...) These questions only made me feel worse about myself as I am focusing solely on my career and don't have any time or money for fun things now in my life. The more questions he was asking, the worse the tone of the session got as it made me feel worse about myself having my therapist point out how boring my life is and what a dull person I am. I guess I wasn't as chatty as I normally was and I have issues with trust and even told him it felt hard for me to open up with him because he hasn't been apart of my life in past few weeks. He was pretty defensive though and asked me if I really wanted to quit therapy completely with him....that made me feel horrible, because that wasn't my intention at all. I emailed him a few days ago and kinda apologized if I had been rude or hurt his feelings in any way....but I haven't heard back from him (which is inconsistent with his normal responses) Great, how many people can be so rude and horrible to deal with that their therapist doesn't even want to deal with me now? I feel horrible about myself :(
Posted by Deneb on October 17, 2009, at 20:25:01
In reply to have you ever made your therapist mad at you???, posted by elizabeth31 on October 17, 2009, at 14:38:54
(((((((((((elizabeth))))))))))))
I think it was awful of your T to ask all those awkward questions, but maybe you should give him the benefit of the doubt. Maybe he was having a brain dead day and since you were quiet, he didn't know what to talk about.
Those questions would have made me feel bad about myself as well. I really don't have much of a life.
Your T sure jumped to conclusions when he asked if you wanted to quit therapy. Maybe he is frustrated, but as a T, he should keep his frustrations to himself. Maybe you can put a positive spin on things. Maybe he is frustrated or angry because he cares about you.
Give him a few days with the email. Sometimes things just come up and people don't have time to check their emails.
((((elizabeth)))))
Posted by Dinah on October 19, 2009, at 10:08:05
In reply to have you ever made your therapist mad at you???, posted by elizabeth31 on October 17, 2009, at 14:38:54
Unless you left out some cursing and screaming, I don't see that you need to apologize for that. You were expressing how the situation has caused difficulties for you. His response didn't need to be defensive.
Overall, it seems he did a lot more to make you mad than vice versa.
I can't really recall the situation as well as I should. How long have you seen him? Did you let him know how his questions made you feel?
Posted by sassyfrancesca on October 22, 2009, at 12:31:29
In reply to have you ever made your therapist mad at you???, posted by elizabeth31 on October 17, 2009, at 14:38:54
Your t was "rude and horrible." YOU are paying him for a service, and YOU are the one who is supposed to decide what to talk about.
If his questions made you feel uncomfortable, you should have said so.
There is no reason he should be mad at you. I would be angry with HIM.
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