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Posted by mmealltalk on May 18, 2011, at 20:16:40
Hi all,
My t is in the midst of making many changes to her practice, its location and even her school of thought, psychoanalytical are deepening as she is training at another pychoanal institute. Anyway, I'm trying to express how I feel the floor being pulled from beneath me. I feel like I am losing the continuity I count on and the safety of a consistent environment. Its called psychotherapy frame. When I try to explain my feelings she tells me I have to trust in our relationship-tho she gets my feelings. I've tried looking up articles about other patients but have failed. I am super sensitive and freak out when she adds a book to her shelf or a shift in furniture so this is very hard.
Anyway, anything anyone could tell me would be helpful!
Mel
Posted by Dinah on May 19, 2011, at 8:18:23
In reply to need help putting thoughts in words, posted by mmealltalk on May 18, 2011, at 20:16:40
Do you think she truly understands as she says she does?
Understanding doesn't bring about any changes, I'm afraid. :(
I think to some extent, she may be right about having to trust in the relationship. There have been times in my therapeutic relationship when there have been absolutely no constants in our lives except the relationship itself. We met in the house he was staying at during the evacuation. With him in shorts because he didn't even have his work clothes with him. We met in various offices, and at various times. It was disconcerting, but I soon realized that anywhere we both were, we could do therapy. The essentials were him, me, and the space between us.
Maybe you could identify which items are absolutely essential for you and focus on those for continuity? For me, the external variable that was really important was the physical distance between us. And his mood.
If everything about you were to change, what are the things you would hold on to in your therapeutic relationship. Are those things in any danger?
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