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Posted by rjlockhart37 on March 23, 2013, at 1:07:51
i sit and go out through the day...try to act happy in frount of other people, but that feeling of someone walking away when im tryin to be friends with them....reaized that its natural part of life....people don't go to auditions for movies and get accepted every audition they go to...there are alot of rejections...so, it has to be a part of everyday life, but what i do to make it not hurt as much is to be ready for someone to walk away or talk behind my back...like i said my term of "not hoping for the best...but not bothered by the worst"...yea i use that term everyday, of course currently im not active in school, and active life...so i don't have to use protection mechanisms while im with people...just being ready for someone to leave...or attack, its happened a little bit with me in the past and it hurt so bad....that's why i learned to tune out hypersensative emotions and just feel bland, dull the pain. Pity Parties are not a popular thing in society lol, but i do have them at night when im alone...cry those tears in the pillow hoping for someone to come take me in there arms...having no energy to even get help from someone....knowing they won't understand....anotherr thing i do know is false belief systems....like..."no one loves" "no one is gonna come help me" those are pity party emotions and will make the mind go into more misery...they have no light of hope, i have to say who ever reads...don't use false belief systems, there always gonna be someone who will help, love, there's 6 billion people here on the earth, there will be a person that will love, care, take you under there wing....my case i've got support but that ideal person i want to come...get a world wide yellowpages, and go down the list....lol
But....i do deal with emotions that tell me im low, stupid, ill be somewhere talking to someone and then start hearing that laughter or get a picture of someone saying wtf is wrong with you. Happens to me all the time....but anyway ill just end this with saying you are the way your are....if people don't like it....don't be bothered.
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Posted by baseball55 on March 23, 2013, at 19:29:57
In reply to defense mechanisms, posted by rjlockhart37 on March 23, 2013, at 1:07:51
A therapist would say you need to learn first to love yourself and talk to yourself the way you would to a dear friend or that a loving parent would talk to you. Not listen to these negative voices saying there's something wrong with you, but give yourself compassion and find some peace. If you can do that, you can learn to be more compassionate and peaceful with others. Have you ever worked with a DBT or CBT therapist? They really focus on teaching you these skills.
Posted by sigismund on March 27, 2013, at 0:40:18
In reply to Re: defense mechanisms, posted by baseball55 on March 23, 2013, at 19:29:57
>A therapist would say you need to learn first to love yourself and talk to yourself the way you would to a dear friend or that a loving parent would talk to you. Not listen to >these negative voices saying there's something wrong with you, but give yourself compassion and find some peace. If you can do that, you can learn to be more >compassionate and peaceful with others.
This took a long time with me, too long. When I was young my mind was swimming in a soup of resentment, envy and desire and I did not know how to be kind to myself. I got the idea in therapy but didn't really do it. Perhaps having children of my own did it for me? Learning to be compassionate but not indulgent.
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