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Posted by 10derheart on July 16, 2013, at 16:43:56
I'm not sure I have anything to say today - or yet. I don't know how engaged or helpful I can be going forward. I'm no longer in therapy because my latest T. suddenly took some sort of personal, medical leave 5 months ago and I haven't bothered to do anything about it. It's up in the air when she is returning to work. Supposedly she is....someday.
Sigh. Some form of this has happened to me three times in a row. I never got to choose - *my timing* - when therapy would be "done." One retired and moved away, the other...---- (help me out here, Dinah) well, he, messed up everything, unilaterally terminated me, lied to me, and has refused any and all communications from me for 2.5 years. Then the latest (who I only sought out after being traumatized by the abandoning liar-jerk) does this "I-have-to-take-a-break-for-my-own-well-being" thing. How did I get so darn lucky?
Even if parts of my saga might help someone, or at least resonate, I just wouldn't know where to start.
I guess I could respond to some of the above threads. Not sure why I don't. Feel sort of like an outsider since I have no therapist. It feels so odd though. This board is so different.
Posted by alexandra_k on July 16, 2013, at 18:34:07
In reply to I promise to *try* to post here again, but, posted by 10derheart on July 16, 2013, at 16:43:56
I don't have a therapist, either. I'm... Well, mostly I'm alright with that. I guess he didn't terminate me, it is more that I just stopped going. But then I needed to stop going, with the hours I needed to work. And then I left the country... I emailed him each year with an update... But then I didn't hear back so... I haven't emailed him again.
I'd like to send him my thesis, I think. Once it is done. Because he did help me there for a time. He was Very Good in a number of ways. Not perfect. Not by any means. But Good Enough. I would... Like to work with him again, I think. Or someone like him. I would like to figure how to be More Productive.
I think your situation... Is fairly normal. I mean... I think that it is fairly common that therapists need time out for their own health. I... I don't know that I would be able to function in the profession. The need is too great... I think I would feel overwhelmed by my inability to fix things. I think I would struggle with the whole zen thing of accepting and supporting and trusting and having faith...
Maybe... We can work through things a bit here? Or something... I don't know.If you had to pick a topic for your very first session what would it be?
Or maybe you did already... Flaky therapists... Want to say more about that?
Posted by Dinah on July 16, 2013, at 21:46:02
In reply to I promise to *try* to post here again, but, posted by 10derheart on July 16, 2013, at 16:43:56
If you were to return to therapy, what would you like to work on?
Would you rather come to a more positive view of the therapist, or is it better for your well being to maintain a negative view? I suppose ideally you'd want a detachment and lack of caring. I wish I could lend you my ability to emotionally divorce.
Posted by alexandra_k on July 17, 2013, at 0:09:23
In reply to Re: I promise to *try* to post here again, but » 10derheart, posted by Dinah on July 16, 2013, at 21:46:02
> If you were to return to therapy, what would you like to work on?
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> Would you rather come to a more positive view of the therapist, or is it better for your well being to maintain a negative view? I suppose ideally you'd want a detachment and lack of caring. I wish I could lend you my ability to emotionally divorce.Hmm...
Negative view vs detachment and lack of caring...
I think I might go with the former since it is *alive*. I'm trying to do the whole alive thing right now, rather than the whole curling up and wish I was dead, thing. It is hard. An attempt to break the habits of a lifetime...
Posted by Phillipa on July 18, 2013, at 10:06:06
In reply to Re: I promise to *try* to post here again, but » Dinah, posted by alexandra_k on July 17, 2013, at 0:09:23
I don't post here for same reason saw many therapists but none worked out. Just didn't care so I terminated. Phillipa
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