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Posted by fairywings on September 18, 2005, at 7:11:50
In reply to Road trip » fairywings, posted by crazy teresa on September 18, 2005, at 2:52:13
nah, i was just kidding, i only do my husband, no women, well vibrators too, but mostly my husband....but the vibrator is catching up. LOL
fw
Posted by crazy teresa on September 18, 2005, at 21:52:24
In reply to Re: Road trip » crazy teresa, posted by fairywings on September 18, 2005, at 7:11:50
Posted by fairywings on September 18, 2005, at 22:16:16
In reply to I was refering to your new vibrator friend! (nm) » fairywings, posted by crazy teresa on September 18, 2005, at 21:52:24
Better yet, susan's ex, he makes better noises! LOL
Posted by crazy teresa on September 19, 2005, at 7:23:02
In reply to Re: blush! Can I bring my husband too?! » crazy teresa, posted by fairywings on September 18, 2005, at 22:16:16
Posted by Susan47 on September 19, 2005, at 21:21:47
In reply to Re: Relationship with Myself .. May Trigger, Sex » Susan47, posted by fairywings on September 17, 2005, at 23:32:53
I think my ex- might be just sick enough to go along with that. Actually, we do not have a great relationship, we have a pretty lousy one, yet still better than many exes. It would be difficult to have a good relationship with S. He's not the type of person that very many people really want to spend a lot of time with, in that way.. including me. He actually did me a lot of psychological harm. I actually did what I thought I was smart enough NOT to do, I married a guy pretty much like my father is/was. And the weird thing is that he was pretty much well-disguised until you scratched the surface. I never gave myself that necessary time. Heavy sigh. In any case, thanks for the thought, wish it were true, haven't had sex since then and even though he tried I'm off limits, it was nice to know I could do it, but I just don't.. care enough that he turns my crank, unless I'm extremely H, which is as I was when that happened. Even then though I had to work hard to make myself feel good, loving feelings towards him. I managed to do it, because I had to and he was the safest person I know.
But it's horrible when the kids find out, which ours did even though we thought we were being secretive. That might be one of the reasons I'm not able to feel turned on anymore to him. Maybe in another six months I'll be with a new man. I hope.
Posted by Susan47 on September 19, 2005, at 21:22:39
In reply to Road trip » fairywings, posted by crazy teresa on September 18, 2005, at 2:52:13
If you drove a motorcycle, she wouldn't need her friend, the seat vibrates deliciously.
Posted by crazy teresa on September 20, 2005, at 0:02:22
In reply to Re: Road trip » crazy teresa, posted by Susan47 on September 19, 2005, at 21:22:39
Posted by fairywings on September 20, 2005, at 6:52:45
In reply to Re: Relationship with Myself .. May Trigger, Sex » fairywings, posted by Susan47 on September 19, 2005, at 21:21:47
OH! Sorry to hear that! If I married someone like my father, I'd well, you don't want to know. he was a total *astard!
Anyway, thought about a vibrator? ; ) Mines fuscia! and the speed adjusts! ; ) www.goodvibrations.com Just in case
Mine's one of their home brands i think. fuscia, soft pliable, adjustable, uses two batteries, and is "ribbed" that's not the right word for it, but....
oh well, not the same, but it helps in a pinch.fw
Posted by Susan47 on October 8, 2005, at 15:24:24
In reply to Re: Relationship with Myself .. May Trigger, Sex » Susan47, posted by fairywings on September 20, 2005, at 6:52:45
I'm going to look into an electric model, Hitachi I think has a good one. But they're expensive. Will have to make do, for now. Does anybody reading this have an electric vibrator, if so, what are they like, are they really better than battery? What types of electric vibrator can you get? I understand the Hitachi model has rabbit ears and a G-spot stimulator. Who's got one???
Posted by alexandra_k on October 8, 2005, at 17:51:13
In reply to VIBRATORS » fairywings, posted by Susan47 on October 8, 2005, at 15:24:24
ew.
okay, so not sure whether other people feel the same as me on this or what but...
ew.
i'm not so much into the idea of having sex with an object or a thing.
i'd rather make do with the hand.
okay, so its not perfect...
but it ain't so bad...(and i've heard that if you use your left hand it't almost like someone else is making love to you lol!)
:-)
Posted by Susan47 on October 9, 2005, at 21:30:12
In reply to Re: VIBRATORS, posted by alexandra_k on October 8, 2005, at 17:51:13
No, you don't actually have sex with it... and I'm not at a point where I can put anything inside me anyway, I honestly think it feels awful, nothing at all like a real penis, nothing is like a real penis inside you. I can't even fake an interest in anything else. But as far as clitoral stimulation, well, the hand gets a bit tired, you know?
Posted by alexandra_k on October 9, 2005, at 21:48:23
In reply to Re: VIBRATORS, posted by Susan47 on October 9, 2005, at 21:30:12
> No, you don't actually have sex with it...
oh. lol! shows how much i know about them then.
> well, the hand gets a bit tired, you know?
yeah okay. point taken...
but then maybe...
thats why god gave us two hands
(and multiple fingers)
lol
don't mind me.i think i get what you are saying...
Posted by Tamar on October 10, 2005, at 6:22:51
In reply to Re: VIBRATORS, posted by alexandra_k on October 8, 2005, at 17:51:13
I didn’t have any sex toys at all until a few months ago when several of my friends gave me toys for Christmas. I don’t know why… But it makes a change from using hands. And if you’ve got a toy, your hands are free for other things :)
I don’t know whether an electric vibrator would be an advantage over a battery-powered vibrator. I guess it depends on how well your batteries last! I’d be more inclined to get a waterproof one (if such a thing exists). But maybe I’m a pervert.
As for having sex with it… Er… (getting embarrassed here)… It was only after being given all these sex toys that I discovered that the G-spot thing isn’t the myth I’d previously thought it was. So that was interesting…
I’ve said enough! I’m going away to hide my blushing face now…
Posted by fairywings on October 10, 2005, at 8:56:47
In reply to Re: VIBRATORS, posted by Tamar on October 10, 2005, at 6:22:51
> I didn’t have any sex toys at all until a few months ago when several of my friends gave me toys for Christmas.
I like your friends! ; ) My husband got me mine in July when he was going out of town! ; ) B4 that I never had a toy either. I would never have thought I'd like it, but I do, it's just different.
>
> As for having sex with it… Er… (getting embarrassed here)… It was only after being given all these sex toys that I discovered that the G-spot thing isn’t the myth I’d previously thought it was. So that was interesting…Me too! ; ) The vibrator just "gets it" better! There's also an F spot, right below the cervix, on the same side as the G-spot.
>
> I’ve said enough! I’m going away to hide my blushing face now…
>
It is embarrassing sometimes, but you know, it's really no different than a great massage, or a great meal, except that those are socially acceptable. Oh well.fw
Posted by alexandra_k on October 10, 2005, at 20:32:44
In reply to Re: VIBRATORS » Tamar, posted by fairywings on October 10, 2005, at 8:56:47
> > As for having sex with it… Er… (getting embarrassed here)… It was only after being given all these sex toys that I discovered that the G-spot thing isn’t the myth I’d previously thought it was. So that was interesting…
> Me too! ; ) The vibrator just "gets it" better! There's also an F spot, right below the cervix, on the same side as the G-spot.
hmm. so they don't come with instruction manuels then ;-)
i'm getting confused about the number of spots...
i've heard of three and i've found two...
> It is embarrassing sometimes, but you know, it's really no different than a great massage, or a great meal, except that those are socially acceptable. Oh well.
yeah. lol. i guess thats true enough!
Posted by fairywings on October 10, 2005, at 22:13:26
In reply to Re: VIBRATORS, posted by alexandra_k on October 10, 2005, at 20:32:44
> hmm. so they don't come with instruction manuels then ;-)
I don't think so, but there are books out there. ; )
>
> i'm getting confused about the number of spots...
>
> i've heard of three and i've found two...Think about anywhere as an erogenous zone, and you might find more, who knows. You found two?, good for you! ; ) One more than I found w/o my toy!
fw
Posted by Susan47 on October 12, 2005, at 22:36:50
In reply to Re: VIBRATORS » Susan47, posted by alexandra_k on October 9, 2005, at 21:48:23
But I'm right-handed and the left just doesn't get it, it's like try to write with the left hand, I can't do it, only this isn't writing it's a heck of a lot more frustrating. But the one thing I really don't like is after a short while, I go numb. Anybody else have that problem? What'm I doing wrong???
Oh, dear. Embarrassing. Come on, somebody give some constructive advice, please?
Posted by Susan47 on October 12, 2005, at 22:38:27
In reply to Re: VIBRATORS, posted by Tamar on October 10, 2005, at 6:22:51
What did you use to find your G-spot, then? I found mine with my own fingers, I wouldn't want to put anything else in there, I tried and it isn't nice. Unless they were His fingers ... ;0
Posted by Susan47 on October 12, 2005, at 22:41:02
In reply to Re: VIBRATORS » Tamar, posted by fairywings on October 10, 2005, at 8:56:47
This is also acceptable in the right context, and I don't think we are out of line in discussing this issue. We're allowed. We're not doing anything bad, we're not hurting anybody, and we're simply sharing good information that is helpful. Do you have an electric vibrator? Because my battery-powered one makes so much darn noise I feel like the whole neighbourhood can hear it. Sigh.
Posted by Susan47 on October 12, 2005, at 22:42:46
In reply to Re: VIBRATORS, posted by alexandra_k on October 10, 2005, at 20:32:44
I've never heard of the F-spot. I haven't played with the G-spot for a while either. Lately it's like all I want to do is release some tension. Isn't that supposed to be more of a male trait? Do you guys ever just do it to release tension, like, the faster you get off the better?
Oh, dear.
Posted by fairywings on October 12, 2005, at 22:48:17
In reply to Re: VIBRATORS » alexandra_k, posted by Susan47 on October 12, 2005, at 22:36:50
> But I'm right-handed and the left just doesn't get it, it's like try to write with the left hand, I can't do it
I agree Susan, I can't use my L hand for this either. ; )
>>But the one thing I really don't like is after a short while, I go numb.
I think that's a legitimate question, worthy of some advice. I would guess you're long in the torso, so it's a reach, which puts a strain on your arm/hand? That's my guess at what's causing the numbness. Maybe try some different positions, to try to take the stress off of the arm? That's the best I"ve got, I think.
fw
Posted by fairywings on October 12, 2005, at 22:59:02
In reply to Re: VIBRATORS » fairywings, posted by Susan47 on October 12, 2005, at 22:41:02
> This is also acceptable in the right context, and I don't think we are out of line in discussing this issue. We're allowed. We're not doing anything bad, we're not hurting anybody, and we're simply sharing good information that is helpful.
**Put the triggers in there, just in case**
I agree, and I think women NEED to talk to other women about this kind of stuff. Sexuality is perfectly natural, satisfying our own urges has really gotten a bad wrap and that's a shame. If some women are comfortable talking about it, then more power to us, we should support eachother; knowing that others won't be comfortable with it, and that's okay too. I've come a long way since I was raped when I was 14. I didn't like sex or anything that had to do with sexuality. Now it's just such a part of me, a part that I love, and am comfortable with. Of course, I don't go announcing it to the neighbors or anything, but talking about it to others of like mind is good.
Do you have an electric vibrator? Because my battery-powered one makes so much darn noise I feel like the whole neighbourhood can hear it. Sigh.No, mine is battery operated. I know about the noise issue. On www.goodvibrations.com they have them rated by noise level and strength. Mine has a good strength, and is on the quieter side. If I turn on a CD at a low level no one can hear the vibrator.
You said you were getting a new one, right? Maybe consider checking out the noise level before you buy.
Good luck!
fw
Posted by fairywings on October 12, 2005, at 23:07:16
In reply to Re: VIBRATORS, posted by Susan47 on October 12, 2005, at 22:42:46
> I've never heard of the F-spot. I haven't played with the G-spot for a while either. Lately it's like all I want to do is release some tension. Isn't that supposed to be more of a male trait? Do you guys ever just do it to release tension, like, the faster you get off the better?
> Oh, dear.
LOL, I think it's just that everyone's always KNEW that guys do it, and it's expected! I think women do it, and just don't talk about it, and won't admit it. Of course, some of us have a higher sex drive, and need more "attention", and some women have a lower sex drive, and don't want to be bothered with the real thing, let alone self stimulation. I think it just has to do with our hormone levels, and, like you said anxiety level - mine's high too, and I blow off steam this way too. Better than road rage! LOL
I guess some ppl wouldn't consider it to be very feminine, but neither is being b*tchy because you're h*rny as all get out and have no release! Don't worry about it - guys scratch their b*lls and belch at will; we just try to be more "socially acceptable" about what comes naturally! ; )fw
Posted by Tamar on October 13, 2005, at 5:31:51
In reply to Re: VIBRATORS » alexandra_k, posted by Susan47 on October 12, 2005, at 22:36:50
> But I'm right-handed and the left just doesn't get it, it's like try to write with the left hand, I can't do it, only this isn't writing it's a heck of a lot more frustrating. But the one thing I really don't like is after a short while, I go numb. Anybody else have that problem? What'm I doing wrong???
Is the numbness in your hand/arm, or elsewhere?
If it’s your hand or your arm, perhaps you might try varying your speed or stroke. Going slower might help. Also alternating hands… I think most people can learn to do it left-handed, but often it requires a different technique. For example, perhaps try going much slower but keep the rhythm as steady as possible.
If you find your genitals go numb you might try using plenty of lube. Actually, that might work for numbness in the hand as well.
Not that I’m an expert or anything…
Tamar
Posted by Tamar on October 13, 2005, at 5:43:57
In reply to Re: VIBRATORS, posted by Susan47 on October 12, 2005, at 22:38:27
> What did you use to find your G-spot, then?
Just a fairly average vibrator. No bunny ears or anything. It’s kind of … how can I put this… not too hard; it’s squeezeable. I’m sure there’s a proper term for it. Anyway, apparently it’s supposed to feel a bit more like a real penis.
> I found mine with my own fingers, I wouldn't want to put anything else in there, I tried and it isn't nice.
I still haven’t found it with my fingers, and I know where to look now! Maybe my fingers are too short...
> Unless they were His fingers ... ;0
Yes indeed…
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