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Posted by factamala on December 12, 2000, at 9:27:05
to all who offered me help with my sister, i thank you. I also want to send out the warmest holiday greetings to you all. The advice you all gave me was more than they could at this hotline i called, those people were weird. All they said was to rush her to the emergency room and have her commited to the psych-ward. Also it has been a week since she has cut herself in any place I can see ( I took time off from work to spend time with her) and we had a very long discussion about the matter, she said she thought it would make her feel better, but she felt worse and she doesn't like it. so wherever that goes is yet to be seen. but she doesn't seem depressed anymore, maybe it is just because i came home for a while or what i don't know. once again thanks stjames, noa, and judy1 for the info and the injsight.
happy holidays
factamala.
Posted by Racer on December 12, 2000, at 20:03:40
In reply to thanks for the help with my sister!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!, posted by factamala on December 12, 2000, at 9:27:05
Don't stop here! Therapy will make a big difference, but if that's just not going to happen, see if she's willing to write a diary about her cutting and her urge to cut. It will help more than hoping this will just go away will.
I don't cut (anymore), but I did go through a phase long before it was 'popular'. The pain of the cut helped divert attention from the emotional pain I was in. It gave a focus to my pain.
When I gave up cutting myself, though, I found other ways to accomplish the same thing. Those 'other things' didn't kill me, which is a bit of a miracle, but they still devil me now, 25 years later.
It's great that your sister has such a caring big brother, and even better that she has the insight to recognise that this isn't helping her. The best thing of all is that the two of you have a relationship that allows you to communicate about something so difficult. Congratulations for that. You must be a special fellow.
Unless you can be there ALL the time, and protect your sister from EVERYTHING the world has to offer, which you can't ;-), she needs something to help her learn a better coping strategy. Therapy is best, but otherwise, a diary that she can use to gain insight into herself, and maybe share with you or later with a therapist, to help show what sets her off, and maybe figure out a way to shift that to a more healthy response, that might help.
Man, didn't I learn anything about sentences and punctuation? Guess not... Hope you got the gist of that!
Good luck, and blessings to you and your sister.
Posted by stjames on December 13, 2000, at 14:51:54
In reply to Re: thanks for the help with my sister!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!, posted by Racer on December 12, 2000, at 20:03:40
I would agree with Racer. Cutting is not something
that is the start of mental illnesss; it indicates
a problem that has gone on for a while. Unless some significant thearpy has happened I would be pessimistic to any claims of "I'm all better" or "I stopped cutting". It is what you want to hear, but come on, people do not cut themselves "just because".james
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