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Posted by jyl on November 11, 2002, at 11:31:08
just got out of the hospital.
my mother told everyone i was in because of my thyroid(it was low)
no one came to see me and my mother did not bring my kids to me!was suppose to be in for another week but i left against pdoc's wishes:(
i feel like her dirty little secret!
my husband wouldnt come home from his business trip to watch his own kids or for my support.
i feel like his dirty little secret!
i feel ashamed:(
eventhough i know mental illness is an illness.
hoo hummmm-mabe i should concentrate on turning shame to anger and tell them all to f... ...
ahhhhhhhhhhhjyl
Posted by Miller on November 11, 2002, at 12:07:31
In reply to dirty little secret..., posted by jyl on November 11, 2002, at 11:31:08
I feel the same way!! I have not told any relatives about my mental defects. This weekend, a friend came over to the house. She made reference to my shrink. My husband FLIPPED out. He is appalled that I told anyone about having a shrink.
Dirty little secret indeed. I can't figure out if I am mad or ashamed or just disappointed (again) at life. It's bad enough we always feel like crap, have melt downs, and can't control our emotions, but people have to continue to make us suffer about it all.
Posted by Sienna on November 13, 2002, at 17:16:39
In reply to Re: dirty little secret..., posted by Miller on November 11, 2002, at 12:07:31
I feel the same way. My best friend even has this funny look whenever I talk to her about any of it. I know she thinks its good that i see my doctor, but i dont think she really understnads. Its so sad that metnal illness is so stigmatized. Its so unfair. I feel really ashamed a lot of the time about it too. Like if you have to call in sick for work i always would feel like im lying. Right now I am on disability but i feel like its a lie because most pepole would tell me to just deal with it. But i know that it isnt a lie and my doctor knows its not, but i think people see it as being weak, and not as being a real illness.
At least we have each other and we understand. Right?
Sienna
Posted by IsoM on November 13, 2002, at 18:24:41
In reply to dirty little secret..., posted by jyl on November 11, 2002, at 11:31:08
I know many are ashamed to admit that they or someone they know or love has mental problems like depression or panic attacks, but what's with people? I feel like I'm moving in a special circle of friends & acquaintances.
I've never hid my problems though when I've been really bad in the depths of despair, I don't want to talk about it. Still, I've been very open, even at work. And I've not been stigmatized for it. Just the opposite, I've had many come up to me saying they're glad that I've been so open about it as they feel they can share with me that they've had it too, or that they're also taking meds.
I've got a very strong, rather dominant personality but not hard at all. I try to be empathetic & caring but perhaps it's the force of my personality that discourages anyone from being negative with me. I'm gentle where it counts but can be adamant when needed.
What is needed perhaps is a friend who's also suffered but is very sure of her/himself & can be a voice for others who are less bold. It's no dirty, little secret. The fact that such concerns are hushed up is the dirt part. The secrecy around mental ills is what's horrible, not the mental ills themselves.
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