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Posted by Ilene on March 16, 2003, at 21:08:53
I'm leaving tomorrow and I don't know when I will be back. I hope it will be for only a few days. So there's really no reason to respond. I just want to vent.
My husband took a call from my father's girlfriend when I was in the shower. She had to take my dad to the ER. I thought he was dying right there and then. I should remember how that old biddy over-reacts. Grrr.
(Last night he told me he had cancer. I told him I would fly out. I was planning to call or e-mail him today about when would be a good time to come, since I know he has a lot of medical tests coming up. )
I called my pdoc and she called in a presciption of Klonopin. I've never taken it before. She warned it might wipe me out. Probably will.
Girlfriend didn't leave a number for the ER, so I had to figure out which hospital they went to, and find the main number, and get connected to the ER. Lo and behold, he's not at death's door, they may not even keep him overnight, and I got to talk to him.
Then I talked to the Wicked Witch of the West for a moment, and asked to talk to the nurse again. "She wants to talk to the nurse, she can just talk to me, " I heard her say, probably to my dad, but maybe just to whoever she thinks listens to her complaints.
"I want to get the phone number," I told her. "I will tell you how he is when you come," she says to me. So I said again, "I want to talk to the nurse."
This woman reminds me so much of my mother. I wonder why. The person who always knew what was best for everyone in the world.
My husband said she told him how she can't handle him, she's "no spring chicken", if it were *her* family they would be here by now, (No one in her family has kids AFAIK, and they come from money.)
Is this going to be a power struggle, or what?
I am armed with durable power of attorney, advance health care directive, the key to his house, and two books on dealing with difficult people. My biggest fears are dealing with the Witch and spending time alone.
So I hope things aren't too dire, that I can see how he is doing, get a case manager or a social worker lined up, and then come home.
I can run through all the legal, financial, and medical activities in my head. I can sit with him and keep him company as long as the Witch butts out. But I can't decide what to pack.
--I.
Posted by sienna on March 16, 2003, at 21:19:19
In reply to Leaving town for a while, posted by Ilene on March 16, 2003, at 21:08:53
hi
i dont know you will see this or not but wanted to give you some support. i dont know how long you will be gone but my advice would be to not pack too much because its easier to deal with less stuff and who cares if your clothes are dirty. pack stuff to read if you like to read and that will help you with time alone and also if she is bothering you you can tell her to leave you alone because you are reading.I would pack some clothes, bathroom stuff, and anything really important like meds and stuff. Then pack things that you can distract yourself with. But then again I am running from reality right now so im not sure if thats the best advice.
I hope it works out all right. Be strong. you can do this.
Sienna
Posted by noa on March 17, 2003, at 16:49:11
In reply to Re: Leaving town for a while, posted by sienna on March 16, 2003, at 21:19:19
Good luck. I just came back from Dad in hospital, but didn't have to deal with such stark family bs, just the run of the mill kind of family bs. Good luck. Do you have any sibs? I hope your Dad will be ok.
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