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Posted by Janelle on April 10, 2003, at 18:11:38
I read the latest thread about Kristen above, and of course I am concerned: 1) that if it is true, will she come out of the coma and will she come out of it okay (no brain or other body damage) and 2) about the authenticity of "RichardN" who posted the message that Kristen is in a coma, only because I was told that her parents are divorced, she was living with her mom, so if they are divorced why would the father/husband (RichardN) refer to the mom as his "wife" rather than his "EX-wife" (unless he wants to keep things simple here).
Anyway, I think we *need/should* take a step back from Kristen, give her time and space for HEALING and RECOVERY, I even think that is what she asked for somewhere on here. I think this will be MUTUALLY beneficial (good for her and for US).Thank you. This is, of course, just my humble opinion.
Posted by noa on April 10, 2003, at 18:53:22
In reply to Could we PLEASE leave Kristen alone for awhile ..?, posted by Janelle on April 10, 2003, at 18:11:38
I agree. Angry tho many of us might be at the provocative behavior, I am trying to think of it as indicative of extreme distress. I am trying to just keep some distance. Wish I could help, but I think the best help for her *and* for me is to just try to stay out of the way and hope she gets some in-person help.
Posted by lostsailor on April 10, 2003, at 20:03:16
In reply to Re: Could we PLEASE leave Kristen alone for awhile ..?, posted by noa on April 10, 2003, at 18:53:22
Posted by shar on April 10, 2003, at 20:43:48
In reply to Re: Could we PLEASE leave Kristen alone for awhile ..?, posted by noa on April 10, 2003, at 18:53:22
Yes, I will. I hope she is ok.
S
Posted by white rabbit on April 10, 2003, at 23:36:47
In reply to Could we PLEASE leave Kristen alone for awhile ..?, posted by Janelle on April 10, 2003, at 18:11:38
IF Kristin is in a coma, everyone here prays for her recovery.If Kristin has posted this message for attention or revenge, shame on you.
-Gracie
Posted by Tabitha on April 11, 2003, at 2:25:45
In reply to Re: Could we PLEASE leave .. alone for awhile ..?, posted by shar on April 10, 2003, at 20:43:48
Another reason to step back.. if she is hoaxing us to get attention, then getting up in arms about it (either worried about her or angry at her, or debating what's true) gives her the reward she craves.. so we contribute to the cycle.
that said.. I have to admit that a suicide hoax pushes my buttons. It's hard to just brush it off. Usually when my buttons are pushed I try to go back into the original feelings.. which in this case are about my family member who committed suicide, not about the hoax at all..
but you know what? I don't really need to have that issue brought up like this.. so I'm still angry.
Posted by noa on April 11, 2003, at 18:55:22
In reply to Re: Could we PLEASE leave .. alone for awhile ..?, posted by Tabitha on April 11, 2003, at 2:25:45
Tabitha, can we help you stay away from those posts? You're right--you don't need that, at all.
For me, not only suicidal hoaxes, but even the ups and downs of repeated on/off suicidal messages, the sounding of big alarms type thing, makes me very ambivalent. I hate to be distant, cold and uncaring (because I'm not) but sometimes, I have to disengage to take care of myself. I feel that sometimes people are in a place in their lives when they need help that isn't realistically offered in a forum like this, and that I realistically cannot deal with emotionally. I think even in person, if I had a friend who had repeated suicidal crises and needed a higher level of care, I might have to set limits--not because I don't care about them, but because the support I am able to give is not enough and is not helping and is too taxing for me as well. Ie, not healthy for either of us.
So, if the rest of us can support you in setting boundaries for yourself to take care of yourself, let us know.
Posted by Tabitha on April 12, 2003, at 1:00:38
In reply to Re: Could we PLEASE leave .. alone for awhile ..?, posted by noa on April 11, 2003, at 18:55:22
thanks for admitting your limitations.. mine are similar. You spelled it out really well, it makes me feel less alone. At times I question whether I belong on a mental health support forum at all. After all, there will be folks in suicial crisis, that's part of the purpose. I admire the people who can stay connected and supportive to people in crisis without getting drained. I quit a couple of real life support groups because the overall crisis level was too high for me.
I think I know how to take care of myself here.. I'm ignoring my own limits lately. The little voice says 'maybe it's best not to log in for a couple days' yet here I am... again. I'm not sure how anyone else could help short of coming over and hiding my power cable, but thanks for the offer.
I'll probably have to do some forced time-outs. That seems to really help.
Posted by noa on April 12, 2003, at 11:51:50
In reply to Re: Could we PLEASE leave .. alone for awhile ..? » noa, posted by Tabitha on April 12, 2003, at 1:00:38
or we can encourage you to not read certain threads?
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