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Posted by Tabitha on May 7, 2003, at 13:46:37
In reply to Re: Where's Beardy?, posted by lil' jimi on May 7, 2003, at 0:15:57
perhaps her beard finally grew all the way to the floor and she became tangled in it.. can't... reach .... keyboard .... (!)
gosh, yeah, I miss her too.
Posted by fayeroe on May 7, 2003, at 13:57:14
In reply to Re: Where's Beardy?, posted by Tabitha on May 7, 2003, at 13:46:37
Posted by Linguini on May 10, 2003, at 0:21:26
In reply to Re: Where's Beardy?, posted by Tabitha on May 7, 2003, at 13:46:37
She usually makes grand exits, people miss her and then she comes back. look back in the archives.
Please! So dramatic
Posted by lil' jimi on May 10, 2003, at 1:20:27
In reply to Re: Where's Beardy?, posted by Linguini on May 10, 2003, at 0:21:26
Posted by ayuda on May 10, 2003, at 10:49:18
In reply to Re: Where's Beardy?, posted by Linguini on May 10, 2003, at 0:21:26
It's rather that she gets so sickened
by people who wear their mental illnesses
like a badge on their sleeves, who post
to hurt instead of looking for help and
support, that she leaves.Only out of kindness towards the people
she truly likes does she post again, but
sooner or later, she is sickened again.So leave her alone, stop speaking about her behind her back -- at HER request. And she is not returning, dramatically or otherwise.
You all have driven her away.
And Dr. Bob, if you read this and want to give me a "please be civil" or block, Beardy has BEGGED her friends to keep her name away from this board, and this place has caused her SERIOUS trauma. You can block me forever then, if you'd like, as long as the request to not post to or about Beardy is upheld by everyone on this board forever.
Posted by ayuda on May 10, 2003, at 10:50:13
In reply to ALL: please stop posting about or to Beardy » Linguini, posted by ayuda on May 10, 2003, at 10:49:18
Posted by Dinah on May 10, 2003, at 11:35:20
In reply to ALL: please stop posting about or to Beardy » Linguini, posted by ayuda on May 10, 2003, at 10:49:18
I certainly don't want to hurt her, or to cause her distress. If this board does that, she should do what is best for her and take care of her own needs. I won't try to tease her into returning again. If she ever feels comfortable returning, I'd be delighted to see her, of course.
But could you pass on my best wishes to her, and my genuinene respect and fondness for her? And she knows my email address if she'd ever like to say hi.
Posted by whiterabbit on May 10, 2003, at 13:27:07
In reply to Re: From Dinah » ayuda, posted by Dinah on May 10, 2003, at 11:35:20
I miss her, have always enjoyed reading her posts
and wish she she would come back, but I understand that she needs to do what is best for her. I wish her peace and happiness-
Gracie
Posted by fayeroe on May 10, 2003, at 14:03:33
In reply to Same goes for me...., posted by whiterabbit on May 10, 2003, at 13:27:07
Please quit posting about Beardy.This is her request....... She is doing what is best for her. And as for you, Linguini, I doubt you know her as well as some of us do.........so leave her be. She is one of the kindest, smartest and most compassionate posters that this board has been lucky enough to enjoy. So, please, Ling, leave her alone. And Dr. Bob, I'll take a lifetime ban also for her...if you think I've been uncivil.
Thanks, Gracie and Dinah.....you truly know how kind she is. I talk to her daily and will let her know that you send kind wishes and love. Pat
Posted by fayeroe on May 10, 2003, at 14:20:42
In reply to And while you're at it, don't post to me, linguine (nm), posted by ayuda on May 10, 2003, at 10:50:13
Posted by shar on May 10, 2003, at 14:31:39
In reply to Leave Beardy alone!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!, posted by fayeroe on May 10, 2003, at 14:03:33
Well, no names in this post.
A general question: is it so awful to ask about and after someone you've become fond of? Or, to express sadness about their absence? Or, to extend well-wishes? Or, to say one wants them to come back? Or, is there some undercurrent I am missing here?
Over time, there have been several posters that I "posted to" even though they were no longer here. Thinking that if they lurked, they might like being remembered, and I might be lucky enough to hear a word from them (like: I'm doing well.).
For all your good intentions in wanting to protect someone (I suppose that's what you're doing), it's really odd to me that fond expressions about missing someone or wanting to hear from someone long gone, generates so much hostility (as in the "Leave XXXXXXX alone!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!" title of your post).
Even if someone posts something not so nice, as was done in this thread, others of us may still feel quite fond of the missing comrade.
However, if we do, in fact, sicken any poster, then I am glad he or she stays away, and thus will have a better chance of feeling good.
Shar
Posted by lostsailor on May 10, 2003, at 14:34:57
In reply to Re: Where's Beardy?, posted by Linguini on May 10, 2003, at 0:21:26
some of us cycle and stay away.
some cycle and read but not comment till we feel better.Some. like me, ban my-self so I am not negative or ranting on the board---but try to offer something when I can.
Everyone is different and I don't think anyone of us would bother to look for a statistical formula and emprical data for reasons not to worry about someone...or to worry that they were looking for attention or whatever you seem to be impling
In peace,
~tony
Posted by gabbix2 on May 10, 2003, at 14:55:51
In reply to Re: Leave Beardy alone!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! » fayeroe, posted by shar on May 10, 2003, at 14:31:39
Posted by noa on May 10, 2003, at 18:05:40
In reply to Same goes for me...., posted by whiterabbit on May 10, 2003, at 13:27:07
> I miss her, have always enjoyed reading her posts
> and wish she she would come back, but I understand that she needs to do what is best for her. I wish her peace and happiness-
> GracieMe too.
Posted by fayeroe on May 10, 2003, at 18:37:07
In reply to Re: Same goes for me...., posted by noa on May 10, 2003, at 18:05:40
> > I miss her, have always enjoyed reading her posts
> > and wish she she would come back, but I understand that she needs to do what is best for her. I wish her peace and happiness-
> > Gracie
>
> Me too.thank you, noa.......she's fine....and i know that she knows you care for her.
>
>
Posted by fayeroe on May 10, 2003, at 18:51:29
In reply to Re: Leave Beardy alone!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! » fayeroe, posted by shar on May 10, 2003, at 14:31:39
Okay~~~~I was asked by Beardy to tell people to leave her alone....four of her friends were asked to do this. I didn't mean to hit the exclamation point that many times but left it there because I was tired and didn't feel like re-doing it.
I didn't like the tone of Linguine's message and I believe it was posted in a sarcastic manner.
Others have posted and have wished her well.
Perhaps I'm being over-protective but she is a dear friend and I think she got a raw deal on here. And if she feels like staying away and is asking to be left out of posts then that is her choice. I thought her posts were always timely, wise and entertaining. And I know others have felt the same. Sorry that you feel whatever it is you feel. Fayeroe
Posted by ayuda on May 10, 2003, at 20:00:28
In reply to ALL: please stop posting about or to Beardy » Linguini, posted by ayuda on May 10, 2003, at 10:49:18
Gracie, Noa and Dinah (and anyone else to whom this applies):
I hope you didn't think that I meant you
chased her away -- people like shar and
linguine (sorry, I have to spell it
correctly) are the problem. In rereading
my post, I realized that I typed as I
thought, and spent too many years in
the South and use "you all" automatically.Like I said above, there are people who
are supportive and kind, and then there
are posters like shar and linguine and
others (we know who the usual suspects are)
who insist on making others feel put-down.
Posted by ayuda on May 10, 2003, at 20:01:14
In reply to Re: Leave Beardy alone!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! » shar, posted by fayeroe on May 10, 2003, at 18:51:29
Posted by ayuda on May 10, 2003, at 20:10:51
In reply to Re: Where's Beardy?, posted by lostsailor on May 6, 2003, at 5:26:57
Tony -
Please know that Beardy misses you, too,
and thank you for caring enough to start
this thread.She just made this request, and as I said in
my last post, it's nothing personal against
people she likes, there are just too many
people who are hurful here, and that can make
a person sick of even thinking about the place.
Posted by Dinah on May 10, 2003, at 20:18:32
In reply to Re: Where's Beardy?, posted by Linguini on May 10, 2003, at 0:21:26
> She usually makes grand exits, people miss her and then she comes back. look back in the archives.
> Please! So dramaticHi, Dinah here, acting as deputy for Dr. Bob.
Please don't jump to conclusions about others, or post anything that could lead others to feel accused or put down.
The civility guidelines can be found at
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#civil
Posted by Dinah on May 10, 2003, at 20:27:01
In reply to tx for the kindness but we need to end this thread, posted by ayuda on May 10, 2003, at 20:00:28
> Like I said above, there are people who
> are supportive and kind, and then there
> are posters like shar and linguine and
> others (we know who the usual suspects are)
> who insist on making others feel put-down.I'm sorry, Ayuda, especially after your kind words, but I'm going to have to ask you to please follow the civility guidelines at
Http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#civil
In part they read:
Please respect the views of others even if you think they're wrong. Please be sensitive to their feelings even if yours are hurt.
I realize that you were trying to be supportive of Beardy, but please don't do so in a way that could lead others to feel accused or put down.
Posted by BekkaH on May 10, 2003, at 20:31:41
In reply to Re: Please be civil » ayuda, posted by Dinah on May 10, 2003, at 20:27:01
I started this thread, and I'm sorry it has taken a wrong turn. I began it because I miss Beardy's posts, and I never anticipated the thread would end up like this. Let's just stop it now. Beardy, I wish you well.
Posted by Dinah on May 10, 2003, at 20:47:45
In reply to Re: Leave Beardy alone!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! » shar, posted by fayeroe on May 10, 2003, at 18:51:29
> I didn't like the tone of Linguine's message and I believe it was posted in a sarcastic manner.
>Hi,
I realize that you are trying to be supportive of Beardy, but please try to be careful not to do so in a way that could lead others to feel accused or put down.
PS: Follow-ups regarding posting policies, and complaints about posts, should be redirected to Psycho-Babble Administration; otherwise, they may be deleted
Posted by fayeroe on May 10, 2003, at 20:48:06
In reply to Let's stop this thread now., posted by BekkaH on May 10, 2003, at 20:31:41
Posted by Greg on May 11, 2003, at 2:11:53
In reply to tx for the kindness but we need to end this thread, posted by ayuda on May 10, 2003, at 20:00:28
Ayuda,
First, I hope that you’re doing well and life is treating you OK.I don’t know what the motive was behind Linguini’s post, I could assume something, but we’re not supposed to make others feel put down here, so I won’t. I think you’re off-base as to Shar’s intent in her post however. I have known Shar for a long time, she is one of my dearest friends. She is a kind, caring, loving woman, and I count my blessings everyday to have her as a friend. She is an honest person and does shoot straight from the hip, but I have never known her to be openly hostile toward anyone unless she was being attacked by another poster, and even then she has a tendancy to take the high road in a confrontation. I believe the only questionable post was the one from Linguini, and Shar, like myself and maybe a few others are confused because it seems that you don’t want us to post to her at all.
I think Shar’s question is a legitimate one; Why is it a bad thing to ask about someone who is, or has been a valued member of this community? Or to ask someone who is in touch with that person to say hi to them for you and send along your best wishes? I miss Beardy a lot, I think she’s charming, very intelligent, and speaks honestly and from the heart. I wish she was still here and hope someday will find it in her heart to return. But if she doesn’t, I hope she is happy and is taking very good care of herself.
I guess what I’m saying is that there are many here that care about Beardy and miss her presence here. Her input, honesty, sense of humor, the free grammar lessons :). And from time to time, even if she doesn’t respond, we’re still going to ask after her. Because we care.
Beardy, if you read this, you are missed. Please take good care of yourself, okay?Much love,
Greg
> Gracie, Noa and Dinah (and anyone else to whom this applies):
> I hope you didn't think that I meant you
> chased her away -- people like shar and
> linguine (sorry, I have to spell it
> correctly) are the problem. In rereading
> my post, I realized that I typed as I
> thought, and spent too many years in
> the South and use "you all" automatically.
>
> Like I said above, there are people who
> are supportive and kind, and then there
> are posters like shar and linguine and
> others (we know who the usual suspects are)
> who insist on making others feel put-down.
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