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Posted by giget on July 25, 2003, at 9:03:59
FOr all those who have helped me and the others here this is not about you. You people have helped so much and remain that way no matter what.BUT...
What is going on with the people within the past 2 days being on here and pushing the others who are already on the verge of falling. This site is for support, not pushing someone to kill themselves or to feel bad or Insane for what they are doing...
We all have problems and this has always been a safe place to talk, now I am leary of this...
There are wonderful people here that have been there for everyone, with a kind hand. They will tell the truth but put it in a way that does not put people down...
The regs recently have been my lifeline and I am having a problem with the people who come in and just push us down..........
Rant... but this angers me!
Posted by justyourlaugh on July 25, 2003, at 9:23:42
In reply to People are pushing to hard RANT, posted by giget on July 25, 2003, at 9:03:59
gig,,
i cant help but wonder if its me?
let me know please if it is...
j
is it the depression that makes me believe i am always at fault:(
Posted by giget on July 25, 2003, at 9:46:52
In reply to Re: People are pushing to hard RANT » giget, posted by justyourlaugh on July 25, 2003, at 9:23:42
Sweety it is for sure not you....
Yes it may be the depression that makes you think that, but you have been nothing but wonderful!
I just don't want to sit here and name names.... I don't like that...
Like I said the regs are not pushing this... at all and I consider you one of the regs that helps everyone!
Posted by tina on July 25, 2003, at 10:04:56
In reply to Not You... you are a sweety » justyourlaugh, posted by giget on July 25, 2003, at 9:46:52
I'm sorry you're feeling pushed Gig. I often feel that way. I wonder sometimes why I come to these boards and then I see Dinah, Gracie,Tabitha, you and all the others who are so sweet to me when I need a shoulder to cry on.
Sometimes I feel pushed to just get over it from some people too. Like their problems are bigger and more important than mine and I believe them and disappear for awhile. I've always had a low opinion of myself. I've always believed that if I whine, no one will want to be my friend. It's hard to be up all the time because it's a lie.
You just be you and don't worry about the pushers. They aren't who you come here for. They don't need to be listened to or considered at all. Just read the posts from the people you know love you and support you and try to ignore the others. They aren't worth your time.
take care Gig.
T
Posted by Dinah on July 25, 2003, at 10:05:25
In reply to People are pushing to hard RANT, posted by giget on July 25, 2003, at 9:03:59
Giget, I think people try to help in the best way they can. And because of the diversity of people here (and I think that diversity is a blessing), sometimes it doesn't work out the way they intended.
I know I've hurt people here when it was the farthest thing from my mind to do so. It's easy enough to do, especially in a forum that relies on the written word, with no visual cues, and that doesn't allow for real time evaluation of the impact of your words. In a face to face conversation you can generally see when something has gone wrong, when something you have said has been taken the wrong way, or when you've inadvertantly stepped over a boundary. Here it's very hard to do that.
I think it's just a limitation of this medium.
Posted by lostsailor on July 25, 2003, at 10:07:07
In reply to Re: People are pushing to hard RANT » giget, posted by Dinah on July 25, 2003, at 10:05:25
Posted by giget on July 25, 2003, at 11:33:32
In reply to to hard RANT--if not jyl, it must be me:)(((gig))) (nm), posted by lostsailor on July 25, 2003, at 10:07:07
Posted by gabbix2 on July 25, 2003, at 12:40:05
In reply to Very funny (nm) » lostsailor, posted by giget on July 25, 2003, at 11:33:32
hi Giget
I just wanted to let you know that I've thought
you've been pushing yourself to hard.
I can't believe the things you've been calling yourself, weak and pathetic, after such a short period of grieving time, and such a long relationship.
I really think you're expecting superhuman things.
and you are definitely not weak and pathetic,
I hope you give yourself more time, and are
as kind and forgiving with yourself as you would be to someone else.
Would you ever think someone was weak and pathetic if they still cried over someone they lost after 3 weeks? I don't think you would.I wish I could write this better,I'm a little fuzzy brained today.
((giget))
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