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Posted by Penny on September 4, 2003, at 7:29:05
So, my dear darling roommate told me last night that she's moving out end of October/November 1. Apparently her mother has been looking for a place for her for a while now. She brought up the whole tension thing again, and I didn't really respond anymore than I already had. Reminded her that she was the first to bring up moving out and she said she knew that but was caught off guard when I said something about tension - that she doesn't feel any tension. I didn't even respond.
Now I just need to find a place to live. If my apartment complex will be willing to work with me on a good rate for a one-bedroom, I may renew my lease. If not, then I'm heading somewhere else. My biggest concern is my credit/finances. But we'll see.
I'm just so exhausted and don't have the energy to deal with any of it anymore.
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Posted by Dinah on September 4, 2003, at 9:25:52
In reply to November, posted by Penny on September 4, 2003, at 7:29:05
Well, it's a month earlier than you would have chosen, but I'm sure it's for the best overall. The stress you've been living under has not been good for you.
I hope you can work something out for a one bedroom apartment, if you don't want to leave your apartment complex. Is housing tough to come by in your area?
Posted by Penny on September 4, 2003, at 9:36:32
In reply to Re: November » Penny, posted by Dinah on September 4, 2003, at 9:25:52
There are LOTS of places to live - apartments, duplexes, whatnot - b/c this is a college town, but everything thing is so darn expensive! The biggest complaint in this area is that *most* of the people who work for the university can't afford to live in our county. How crazy is that???
They apparently have just built an apartment complex in Chapel Hill specifically for employees who make under a certain amount, and I'm just under that amount, but I haven't even bothered calling b/c of my dogs. Don't know that they would have any spaces available anyway.
The biggest reasons I would want to stay in my aparement complex is convenience (not having to move very far), safety, and the huge pet deposit I paid that I can't get back. I don't want to have to pay another deposit for my dogs. Just don't have the money for that!!!
Hoping I find something affordable and safe. That's the challenge.
P
Posted by Tabitha on September 4, 2003, at 13:00:58
In reply to November, posted by Penny on September 4, 2003, at 7:29:05
Once you get through the hassle of moving, you're bound to feel better without the whole roommate situation creating constant stress for you. Have you lived alone before? It really suits some people (including me).
Posted by Penny on September 4, 2003, at 13:22:03
In reply to Re: November, posted by Tabitha on September 4, 2003, at 13:00:58
Yeah - I lived alone for 15 months in Charlotte, until my landlord died (I was living in a garage apartment) and I was forced to find a new place to live. That's when I moved in with the family I nannied for.
I remember enjoying living alone, but I also remember coming home during the times I was severely depressed and completely losing it. Not that having my roommate around prevents that, except that maybe I'm not as vocal as I was when I was alone (screaming, crying, etc.).
I just need a place where I can feel comfortable going home to and not feeling fear about what she's going to say or do or what kind of mood she'll be in, etc. It's just too much.
If I can just find somewhere I can afford. That's my biggest fear right now.
:-(
But at least now I have a definitive date from her, so no more coming home to "I'm moving out, don't know when..." crap. That was totally stressing me out. Though I still don't understand what she has against finishing out the lease???!!!
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Posted by fallsfall on September 4, 2003, at 20:33:43
In reply to November, posted by Penny on September 4, 2003, at 7:29:05
Penny,
I'm glad the end is in sight.
So is she leaving 1 month early or 2 months early?
At this point, if you can say "This is how it is" and move on from there I think you will be fine.
There's a lot to do, but you must be feeling relief. The stuff to do is all going in a positive direction.
There is hope for the future.
Posted by Penny on September 5, 2003, at 8:17:09
In reply to Re: November » Penny, posted by fallsfall on September 4, 2003, at 20:33:43
Technically, she's leaving 2 months early - the lease ends at the end of December, but with the 1 months rent for a lease cancellation fee, really it's like she's leaving one month early. Which is just plain stupid in my opinion. I have yet to figure out what she has against staying to the end of the lease, but at least she has finally given me a date so I have something to work with. There's nothing I hate more than not knowing information I need so I can make a decision for myself.
Didn't even speak to her last night. She was upstairs, as usual, when I got home, and I was downstairs, and we didn't speak when I went upstairs. I didn't speak, and she didn't speak. But, I'm sure, if you asked her, she would say she didn't speak b/c I didn't speak. Well, guess what? I didn't speak b/c I didn't want to speak! But her actions are always taken as a result of something I've done, it seems.
Okay - rambling here. Sorry. I'm just still irritated about this whole situation, and at this point, as you said, I need to just say "This is how it is" and move on.
Moving on...
And waiting for November...
P
Posted by fallsfall on September 5, 2003, at 8:29:11
In reply to Re: November » fallsfall, posted by Penny on September 5, 2003, at 8:17:09
One day closer than yesterday.
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