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Posted by Penny on September 8, 2003, at 7:49:33
Well, I got home last night at about 9:30 p.m. after spending the weekend with the family I used to nanny for. It was so good seeing the kids. And I'll see them again next month for little miss's birthday party. She's turning 6. And still wearing a size 3T, 4T or 4. Can't really do a 5 yet. She's, as her mother says, just a peanut.
Little man, on the other hand, is sprouting. Thinning out and getting taller. He'll be 4 in December. His sister just starting riding a 2-wheeler without training wheels, and he got a 2-wheeler with training wheels, but says he wants them off - anything she can do, he thinks, he can do better. :-)
Anyway, got back and my roommate had left me a letter on my bed some about how she feels about the situation between us and some about the logistics of moving. Was moving up the moving date again from end of to mid-October. If I hadn't already found my place to live, I would have been really angry. But it just made what I had to tell her even easier, which is that we can both just move out at the end of September. She's moving into a neighboring county, into a 3-bedroom modular home on 2 acres of land. I haven't yet figured out why 1 person, 1 single person, needs that much space, but whatever. Me, personally, I don't mind close quarters. Haven't lived anywhere 'big' since I was about 10 years old. The house I lived in while in middle and high school, then my dorm, then the places I lived in Charlotte, were all small. And that suits me just fine. I am but one person after all.
Now I just have to find a couch...
And we'll have to have a birthday/moving party for me on Babble on Oct. 1. I'm starting my 27th year fresh...
P
Posted by Penny on September 8, 2003, at 7:57:18
In reply to weekend with my munchkins, posted by Penny on September 8, 2003, at 7:49:33
Had this in my inbox when I got to work this morning, from the mom of the kids I nannied for:
So good to see you this weekend. It sounds like it's been a rough summer -- and I'm with you there! But you've got a good support system in place with the Drs and your Nana, and I think your on your way to some better times once you get this move behind you at the end of the month. I'm really impressed with the clear logical thought and research that you put into your career planning. I do think the therapy thing is right up your alley. SO GO FOR IT! We're behind you all the way.
I was thinking about your roommate/friendship situation and I believe you have your roommate's number. I realize that friends have a support responsibility to each other, but I haven't ever really seen a healthy pattern of that with her in the years that I have known you. Being a very cut and dry person (as *my former therapist* calls her) my threshhold for friendship is 80/20. If they are not positive influences on my attitude, my career, my family, my lifestyle, etc. at least 80% of the time, are they really a "friend"? Maybe I am their unpaid therapist or punching bag. I think you saw that happen with your other college friend. Even friendship is a learning experience. The good news is that if you surround yourself with people you're bound to have friends. Get going on that volunteering to help your MSW application. And think about some social stuff too, like Habitat or Junior Women's Club or something else that strikes your fancy.
One other thought --when I was your age, I had not yet met my husband. There's always another influencial person right around the corner.
There is always a family in Charlotte (or maybe Chicago) who believe in you. And there are two little red heads who are better people because of the two years that you lived with them. No one will ever take that away from you.
Love you.
M
Posted by fallsfall on September 8, 2003, at 9:02:49
In reply to Re: Oh - read this..., posted by Penny on September 8, 2003, at 7:57:18
Oh, Penny.
The love spills over so far that I can feel it here. What a wonderful family, and they love you so much. You have been everything to them. Bask in this - let it settle in so you will always have access to it. THIS is life.
What a wonderful, insightful woman. Stay in touch with her, she will bless your life.
I am so happy for you
Posted by chicklet on September 8, 2003, at 11:44:05
In reply to Re: Oh - read this..., posted by Penny on September 8, 2003, at 7:57:18
Penny- I'm overwhelmed. Not only do you have a fabulous family that you can always turn to for love and support but you have a dear friend in this woman. She seems to understand you so well. Didn't it feel great to see them and know that while so many other things may change in your life, they remain a constant? I've told you my story- I know how warm and wonderful it feels. And I'm still in touch with several of my former clients too. You have clearly touched this family maybe even more than you know. but I think you know!
Sounds like the roomie thing is starting to clear up and i'm thrilled! BTW, roomie NEEDS this home with all the land because she needs to replace what she lacks in her life with material possessions, methinks. my bud was exactly the same way. She grew up in a wealthy family but now she's on her own. She still insists on shopping at Lord and Taylor and spends $2300 on a one-bedroom apt in the richest town in our county. She works 3 jobs to support her chosen living situation and complains about that to. Woe is she. I swear i'm happy that she's not part of my life anymore...sounds harsh but as the mom of your wee ones said, '80/20'!)...
And I didn't meet my husband until I was 31.
Get ready for a fresh start and congratualtions again. You're a good soul
Lots of Love,
Kar
Posted by Penny on September 8, 2003, at 14:01:55
In reply to Re: Oh - read this... » Penny, posted by fallsfall on September 8, 2003, at 9:02:49
Yes, I am so lucky to have found the family I nannied for. It was an amazing turn of events that led me to them, and I certainly see it as the ultimate reason for things like my first job out of college that I hated - b/c it was through that that I met my roommate at the time, who introduced me to that family.
They have been so good to me. The kids were asking all weekend when I was going to move back in with them.
I am going to hate it, though, when they move to Chicago, as I won't get to see them nearly as often. :-( But that's not for another couple of years (hopefully?).
P
Posted by Penny on September 8, 2003, at 14:10:35
In reply to Oh - read this and cry!!!! » Penny, posted by chicklet on September 8, 2003, at 11:44:05
I certainly cried!
Yes, I really enjoyed my weekend with them. The kids are so good. Very very loving. Lots of hugs and kisses.
I agree that my roommate needs her material things. And, again, she needs to feel as though what she has is *better* than what I have. Bigger, better, more expensive, etc. etc. That's her game and always has been.
But, ya' know what? It's almost over. I am looking for more social activities, I will have my own apartment again, I will be able to let my dogs have free roam in the house, I won't have to breathe a sigh of relief when I come home and her car isn't there, or get tense when it is. Whew.
And I guess I'm taking my birthday off - Oct. 1 - since I'm moving that day. Not the most choice way to spend my birthday, but at least it's leading me in the direction I want to go!
P
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