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Posted by sarita0001 on October 6, 2003, at 20:01:55
Hi,
The new doctor is ok but she said something that upset me very much. She thought I was crying going through my whole history. That was part of it.
After I told her how long I had taken lithium for she said "So you took your lithium like a good little girl?" First of all, I''m in my 20's now and second that was condescending. I told her I questioned my diagnosis all along- I am hard enough on myself for that and that comment made me feel like an idiot for the last 7 years on meds.Then I was upset she said my previous doctor should have lowered my meds last summer. This is just all so hard. On the way home I was crying. Besides that comment- she was fine. Out of 6 doctors, two have said something that made me mad. I don't get people.
So that was that. I should be off lithium in 9 days and hopefully I am making the right decision.
Thanks for the support.Sara
Posted by Dinah on October 6, 2003, at 21:33:13
In reply to went to the new doctor and..., posted by sarita0001 on October 6, 2003, at 20:01:55
I'm glad you're overall pleased with the doctor. Let's hope she had a one time lapse in tactfulness based more on her feelings about the actions of your former doctors than on your actions. Which I'm sure is what she was thinking.
Posted by jane d on October 8, 2003, at 21:49:49
In reply to went to the new doctor and..., posted by sarita0001 on October 6, 2003, at 20:01:55
Sarita,
Since my own foot spends so much time in my mouth I usually give my doctors at least 3 really stupid comments before I get upset with them. It cuts down on turnover tremendously.
The thing that struck me reading your post was the expression "good little girl". It's one I have used about myself but it really mocks other people's expectations that you be blindly obedient. Especially the kind of expectations that some doctors have about their patients. Since you say that you told her you doubted your diagnosis, I wonder if she was trying to be supportive of you - by pointing out the pressure we are under to just do what we're told - to be a "good little girl" while trying to say she didn't expect that from you.
Finally, I want my doctor to tell me when they don't agree with another doctors actions. I hate having to read between the lines.
Jane, hoping her foot isn't back in her mouth.
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