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Posted by sweet77 on November 12, 2003, at 22:46:58
ok here it is .. i am 23 and i have been in therpy for 3 yrs and i have been inlove with my therpist 2 out 3 of the yrs .. he dont know though and i am too embarssed to tell him what should i do????????????????????????? today i found my self lookin for his house i think that is crazy i dunno help me
Posted by Destroyo on November 12, 2003, at 23:10:59
In reply to in love with my therpist, posted by sweet77 on November 12, 2003, at 22:46:58
Believe it or not, I was 23 once, back when dinosaurs ruled The Earth, and before I had my disastrous, crippling "schizophrenic break". Get out into the world, meet someone else. Don't get involved with this guy. If you've read any of my previous posts, he probably only has an IQ of around 85 or so, anyway; you can do better. If you're shy, why not try online dating? I particularly like the concept embodied at www.eharmony.com Trust me, make the right decision now, and though it may be tough in the short term, the situation will resolve itself favorably.
Posted by tensor on November 13, 2003, at 7:23:02
In reply to in love with my therpist, posted by sweet77 on November 12, 2003, at 22:46:58
Hi,
I agree with Destroyo. I believe when you are seeing a therapist you are in a weakened condition(of course, i don't know the reason you are seeing him, but in general). Your therapist in his profession knows that and i hopefully believe he(?) would never take advantage from a such situation.
/tensor
Posted by fallsfall on November 13, 2003, at 7:44:21
In reply to Re: in love with my therpist » sweet77, posted by tensor on November 13, 2003, at 7:23:02
You need to talk to him about it. Check out Psychological Babble for other's tales of being in love with their therapists. It is VERY hard to talk about, but it is often incredibly helpful. You can learn so much by talking about it.
Posted by Smilez on November 13, 2003, at 16:14:31
In reply to Re: in love with my therpist, posted by fallsfall on November 13, 2003, at 7:44:21
Study transference and counseling for more on it.
I once told a counselor I found myself wishing that I could meet a man JUST LIKE HIM and he asked point blank if I felt that I was developing a crush on him. Feeling it was love, I admitted only that a crush was begining. He told me that he would have to give me over to another counselor if it were to continue or grow.
My new counselor is even sexier and more appealing! lol
Transference. UGH!
As a note, counselors can lose their license for dating or seeing a patient within a year of their last appointment. At least here in California.
Posted by Dinah on November 13, 2003, at 17:34:58
In reply to Re: It's very common, posted by Smilez on November 13, 2003, at 16:14:31
Sigh. It seems like confusion reigns supreme among less well trained therapists.
Could you have someone send him this video, or a printout of the information of this video, if you're not supposed to contact him?
Or if you think that would be intrusive when he doesn't want to have contact, I suggest this.
Why don't we all buy a copy of this video and donate it to our local training schools, to keep future clients from having to go through rejection by untrained therapists. And since I know not everyone can afford the video, we could also print out the order page and mail it to all our local training schools.
It's true that a therapist can't date a client. It's also true that a therapist might have to refer a client because of *their own* feelings about a client, or *their own* inability and lack of training to deal with transference.
But it is NEVER the fault of a client if a therapist does this. A client's *feelings* NEVER are cause for a therapist to terminate them. A client's actions might be, but not their feelings. A well trained therapist will use any feelings a client has for them to explore the client's issues and ways of dealing with the world.
Ok, here's the link. Therapy clients of the world unite!!!! If they can't do it for themselves, let's do it for them!!!
(And thank you Penny for the link. I've already ordered a video, and if it's as good as it looks I'll donate it to one of my local colleges with a therapy degree program and order more as I can afford it.)
http://www.apa.org/videos/4310570.html?CFID=2493388&CFTOKEN=89863392
Posted by Dinah on November 13, 2003, at 17:39:26
In reply to Re: Therapy client's unite!!!!! » Smilez, posted by Dinah on November 13, 2003, at 17:34:58
I'm tired.
I also redirected myself to Psychological Babble.
Here's a link.
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20031030/msgs/279487.html
Posted by Smilez on November 20, 2003, at 23:01:24
In reply to Sorry for the apostrophe., posted by Dinah on November 13, 2003, at 17:39:26
lol!! Thanks, Dinah. I hadn't seen it that way before. Good point.
by the way - I have a crush on my new doctor. *rolleyes* And it doesn't help that he often tells me that things I feel, do have done, he is, does or understands. He often points out the things we have in common and honestly, if he does it to help me open up, it works. I am SO comfortable discussing life issues with someone who (says he) understands and has the same weaknesses at times, etc.
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