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Posted by Susan J on January 12, 2004, at 13:26:20
I've all but given up with this internet dating thing. Some guys e-mail or call me a thousand times a day and scare the bejeebers out of me. Some I meet in person and they're scary, too. Then, I meet a really nice guy and he's not interested. Wonder if that means *I* scared him? :-)
Then, there's the mean evil soon-to-be ex-sister-in-law who spazzed out and left my brother for god knows what reason. She promised to pay half of the kid's daycare and now she won't pay a cent. Says she' can't afford it. Well, she makes $15 g more than my brother does....why should he have to pay for it all? How, exactly, do you reason with unreasonable people?
That's my rant. Here's hoping your lives are more stable than mine. :-)
Susan
Posted by Medusa on January 12, 2004, at 13:53:45
In reply to My Life, posted by Susan J on January 12, 2004, at 13:26:20
I think that having a man in one's life is kind of like owning a condo in Florida:
A time-share might provide maximum return on the investment.
I could use the x for certain events, for fulfilling social obligations - and for warding off that All Single Women Are Definitely After My Husband thing I get from some partnered women ... other than that, I think about ten or twenty women could benefit from various practical applications of whatever he might offer that could be relevant to their lives, needs, wishes.
After New Year's, I told him I should have auctioned him off here, and he said well, he would want someone who was spunky, so only women who'd gotten at least 3 PBCs could bid.
Posted by Susan J on January 12, 2004, at 14:00:11
In reply to Re: My Life, posted by Medusa on January 12, 2004, at 13:53:45
Med,
>>and for warding off that All Single Women Are Definitely After My Husband thing
<<Sheesh! What's up with that? I feel really badly for women like that, and I've run into my share.>>and he said well, he would want someone who was spunky, so only women who'd gotten at least 3 PBCs could bid.
<<LOL!!!! You know, there's a website called great boyfriends dot com or something where an ex gets to recommend her ex to some other woman. Sign him up for that. But I think you should get a finder's fee. :-)S.
Posted by Angielala on January 12, 2004, at 14:18:45
In reply to My Life, posted by Susan J on January 12, 2004, at 13:26:20
Don't worry... dating is like that- no matter the method.
Have you tried joining a book club or something like that to meet someone? Sometimes joining in a group with a similar hobby as you is a great way to not only meet a guy that doesn't scare the heck out of you, but also has something in common with you right off the bat.
Just a thought :)
Now on the other hand- the crazy ex-sister-in-law.... it's sad because she doesn't realize that her actions aren't hurting her ex-husband, but instead hurting her kids.
Isn't there a law that binds both parents (once divorced) to pay for the children, as in child support?I hope you are doing ok. Try not to let other's burdens bring you down too much (I know that can be really hard).
And don't worry about finding love- s/he's looking for YOU! You just have to make sure s/he can find you :)
> I've all but given up with this internet dating thing. Some guys e-mail or call me a thousand times a day and scare the bejeebers out of me. Some I meet in person and they're scary, too. Then, I meet a really nice guy and he's not interested. Wonder if that means *I* scared him? :-)
>
> Then, there's the mean evil soon-to-be ex-sister-in-law who spazzed out and left my brother for god knows what reason. She promised to pay half of the kid's daycare and now she won't pay a cent. Says she' can't afford it. Well, she makes $15 g more than my brother does....why should he have to pay for it all? How, exactly, do you reason with unreasonable people?
>
> That's my rant. Here's hoping your lives are more stable than mine. :-)
>
> Susan
Posted by Karen_kay on January 12, 2004, at 15:43:55
In reply to Re: My Life, posted by Medusa on January 12, 2004, at 13:53:45
so only women who'd gotten at least 3 PBCs could bid.
*Thinking of something completely rotten and uncivil to say to bring me up to 3..... Hmmmm....
Posted by octopusprime on January 12, 2004, at 21:25:44
In reply to My Life, posted by Susan J on January 12, 2004, at 13:26:20
> How, exactly, do you reason with unreasonable people?
heh, you don't. you can't.
sums up the reason why i'm single perfectly.
it sucks that your brothers marriage is breaking up, and damaging the kid. but there is *no* *way* to force crazy ex (short of a court order) to behave. it's not your battle to fight, susan.anyway, i highly doubt you're scaring people. i've also had the nice guy not interested thing ... i suspect he has issues. they all do. :)
my life is fairly stable, but i'm working on "eat less move more 2004". so far this year (it's jan 11) i've done a swim, a square dance, cross country skiing, snowboarding, and three 5 km walks. not bad so far but i am hungry!
Posted by Emme on January 12, 2004, at 22:34:58
In reply to Re: My Life, posted by Medusa on January 12, 2004, at 13:53:45
> I think that having a man in one's life is kind of like owning a condo in Florida:
>
> A time-share might provide maximum return on the investment.I roared when I read that! :)
> other than that, I think about ten or twenty women could benefit from various practical applications of whatever he might offer that could be relevant to their lives, needs, wishes.Well, ya know, the guy probably wouldn't mind having multiple women in his life either. Depending on what they wanted from him.
> After New Year's, I told him I should have auctioned him off here, and he said well, he would want someone who was spunky, so only women who'd gotten at least 3 PBCs could bid.
3 PBCs. I better get busy. Usually I'm afraid of getting one - I'm still expecting the nuns in grade school to grouch at me. :)
Posted by Emme on January 12, 2004, at 22:45:25
In reply to My Life, posted by Susan J on January 12, 2004, at 13:26:20
> I've all but given up with this internet dating thing. Some guys e-mail or call me a thousand times a day and scare the bejeebers out of me. Some I meet in person and they're scary, too. Then, I meet a really nice guy and he's not interested. Wonder if that means *I* scared him? :-)
Oh geez, I hear ya.
> Then, there's the mean evil soon-to-be ex-sister-in-law who spazzed out and left my brother for god knows what reason. She promised to pay half of the kid's daycare and now she won't pay a cent. Says she' can't afford it. Well, she makes $15 g more than my brother does....why should he have to pay for it all? How, exactly, do you reason with unreasonable people?
You can't. You probably have to hold their toes to the fire through legal means. I'm sorry your family is going through this. Hellish.
> That's my rant. Here's hoping your lives are more stable than mine. :-)
Well, for the moment it is. My psycho landlord said he would not renew my lease. Now he will. really really bizarre unpredictable guy. I think maybe he's related to your sister-in-law.
Posted by Susan J on January 13, 2004, at 9:14:11
In reply to Re: My Life » Medusa, posted by Karen_kay on January 12, 2004, at 15:43:55
> so only women who'd gotten at least 3 PBCs could bid.
>
> *Thinking of something completely rotten and uncivil to say to bring me up to 3..... Hmmmm...<<LOL! That was too funny! :-)
Susan
Posted by Susan J on January 13, 2004, at 9:17:09
In reply to Re: My Life » Susan J, posted by octopusprime on January 12, 2004, at 21:25:44
Octo,
> my life is fairly stable, but i'm working on "eat less move more 2004". so far this year (it's jan 11) i've done a swim, a square dance, cross country skiing, snowboarding, and three 5 km walks. not bad so far but i am hungry!
<<That's great! That's one of my resolutions, too. I actually started a diet a week before Christmas, and while I wasn't great every day, I managed to lose about 2 pounds those two weeks, which is so much better than gaining 5 or so. I haven't done nearly as much activity as you have, even though I just joined a gym (bad, bad Susan). I'm very impressed. And I'm hungry, too, although not bad hunger. Tolerable. Unlike Weight Watchers while on Paxil where I thought I was going to DIE from hunger.....
Keep it up! What did Ben Franklin say? It takes 28 days to instill a new habit....
Susan
Posted by Susan J on January 13, 2004, at 9:18:52
In reply to Re: My Life » Susan J, posted by Emme on January 12, 2004, at 22:45:25
> Well, for the moment it is. My psycho landlord said he would not renew my lease. Now he will. really really bizarre unpredictable guy. I think maybe he's related to your sister-in-law.
>
Arrghh! Well, there are legal protections for you, wherever you are. Lemme know if he keeps jerking you around, and I can do some research for ya. :-)Susan
Posted by Emme on January 13, 2004, at 23:58:09
In reply to Landlord » Emme, posted by Susan J on January 13, 2004, at 9:18:52
> > Well, for the moment it is. My psycho landlord said he would not renew my lease. Now he will. really really bizarre unpredictable guy. I think maybe he's related to your sister-in-law.
> >
> Arrghh! Well, there are legal protections for you, wherever you are. Lemme know if he keeps jerking you around, and I can do some research for ya. :-)
>
> SusanThanks! :) I know I have the long arm of the law on my side. I'll be happiest if there's not too much conflict. I think the real fun will begin if I end up getting a job out of the area and need to break the lease - not a big issue for *most* landlords around here. Of course he pretty much guarantees that tenants in all four of the apartments get along. We have a common enemy and I'm sure he knows we hang out together and compare stories...
Posted by Karen_kay on January 17, 2004, at 23:15:59
In reply to Re: My Life, posted by Medusa on January 12, 2004, at 13:53:45
Actually, I'm up for grabs! I just figured out my very first post was respoded to with a PBC. Could you let him know for me? :) I'll keep my eyes open....
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