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Posted by tabitha on March 22, 2004, at 22:07:49
Dang it all. My loneliness comes and goes, and right now it's here. It's spring. I want to play and be social and have fun, but I have no playmates. :-(
My therapist suggested I invoke a higher power and ask it to bring a new female friend into my life. I feel really really silly doing that!
Posted by Poet on March 22, 2004, at 22:31:00
In reply to I'm Lonely!, posted by tabitha on March 22, 2004, at 22:07:49
Hi Tabitha,
You might feel silly, but you might gain a silly playmate. Or at least someone new to hang around with and have fun.
Do it!
Poet
Posted by TexasChic on March 23, 2004, at 11:23:07
In reply to I'm Lonely!, posted by tabitha on March 22, 2004, at 22:07:49
I'm right there with you tabitha. I just ended an 8 year friendship, and am feeling pretty lonely myself. It can be so hard to meet people who want to be friends, especially when you don't have any to fall back on. That always makes me more desperate and try too hard. But I'm about to move into a new apartment, and I'm thinking of moving to an area that is really built up, full of people, and has lots of parks and places to go (even though it's a longer commute). Then I'm just going to do my own thing, work on being happy with myself, and hope that being out and about will help me meet people. I may even get a dog to walk in the park or take an art class or something so I'll have to go out! It's so hard to put yourself out there, but if you aren't out there you'll never meet anybody! I figure anytime you aren't in you house is a chance to meet someone. I tend to isolate myself so this will be a big step for me. I hope your search for friendship goes well.
Posted by Dinah on March 23, 2004, at 12:27:32
In reply to I'm Lonely!, posted by tabitha on March 22, 2004, at 22:07:49
I've thought and thought and I just can't remember being lonely. At least not by myself. I've felt bitterly lonely in a group of people.
Maybe I just don't get enough chance to work on it. Between work and my parents and my husband, I feel like I could just sit alone in silence forever and never ever get tired of it.
Posted by Karen_kay on March 23, 2004, at 13:24:28
In reply to I'm Lonely!, posted by tabitha on March 22, 2004, at 22:07:49
Tabitha, how could a lovely girl with such incredible fashion sense ever be lonely? I'm certain you have drones of fans and admirers lining up at your door. Put yourself out there and the girlfriends will come a callin'. I'd be your friend if I were there.
Posted by Bubbaleh on March 23, 2004, at 13:43:11
In reply to Re: I'm Lonely! » tabitha, posted by Karen_kay on March 23, 2004, at 13:24:28
A warning: sometimes even if you put yourself out there, it takes time for a new friend to come along. I was complaining on this board a few months ago about lack of friends, and now I feel I have enough mainly because I'm learning how few friends most people have. Five good friends, including close relatives, is typical. But even one can really help alot. By the way, the Internet is a great way to meet people, even if you don't see them in person. In my opinion, it still counts as social interaction.
Take care of yourself,
Bubbaleh
Posted by Susan J on March 23, 2004, at 14:44:14
In reply to I'm Lonely!, posted by tabitha on March 22, 2004, at 22:07:49
Don't be lonely. :-( But I know the feeling well. I lost my best friend to marriage in 98. Don't get that really, why did she hang out almost weekly with me, sometimes bringing her fiancee, only to disappear right after her wedding, literally? Anyway, so I started hanging out with the women in my boyfriend's gang. Fine until we broke up. I've spent 2 years cultivating female friendships and it isn't that easy.
I think an ad in the classifieds is a cool idea. I actually found some tennis buddies that way a few years ago. I saw an ad once from a woman who walked around the same lake I do, and I did that for a while. We didn't really click as friends though, but it definitely could happen.
The best thing that happened to me was making a friend who was extremely outgoing and had tons of friends and tons of events to go to. Got me a decent group of friends over the years...
Might be easier to do when your period of feeling lonliness is *gone.* I personally have more energy and confidence when I'm not feeling lonely. Or you could always hang out in MD with me. :-)
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