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Posted by iris2 on July 30, 2004, at 21:46:31
Hi everyone. I have used the pscho-babble meds board a few times. I thought I would look at what else there was here to offer.
I am not sure what everyone is talking about.
I hav a need to socialise. I spend most days alone in my house talking to no one. I am very lonely yet a people person. So there is a little bio. on me. Its been about two years since I worked and about 11/2 years since I began to be afraid to leave the house. Since I have been ill for so much longer I have but one or two friends, neither is very social so even when I was more able to get out I could not convince them to do anything with me.
My long winded way of saying how very lonely I am.
Maybe if I start interacting here I will not be so lonely and maybe I can help someone else too.
Any advice or topic to converse about would be appreciated.
Thanks,
iris2
Posted by fayeroe on July 30, 2004, at 22:07:07
In reply to NEW AND ALONE, posted by iris2 on July 30, 2004, at 21:46:31
Iris: I'm glad you decided to post here. You'll find friendly and social people here. I think you've made a big step by coming to social. Please post again. Pat
Posted by 64bowtie on July 31, 2004, at 3:29:20
In reply to NEW AND ALONE, posted by iris2 on July 30, 2004, at 21:46:31
(((Iris))),
Some background: I studied under a therapist who worked miracles with people afraid of hieghts, afraid to go outdoors, or any number of other fears of abstractions (I'm trying to stay away from the "phobia" label out of respect for your self-awareness and self-image).
His name was David Peck; he passed away recently.
I witnessed 10 to 12 interventions during the six years of the study group. His approach was to show the clients that they were very uncomfortable while sitting safely on the couch, looking out from his study into his great backyard garden setting.He would encourage the client to explain why the fear was there without any apparent danger. When they reported that it didn't make sense to them either, he would ask them to see in their mind's eye a scene that makes them feel safe and free of danger. Then he had them fix on that feeling by concentrating on it.
He would then ask them to hold onto the good feeling while going back to the scene that evoked the fear and sense of danger and simply connect the good feeling with the scene that used to cause fear. Suddenly they would report that the bad feelings were gone. It was awesome to me how predictable the timing of the experience was as it would unfold with every new client. Awesome!
If the guided imagery overlay process was not working, David would ask the client to see themselves in the situation that caused fear. Then he would have them move out of their body to a position across the room and look back at themselves.
After a minute or so, he would ask them if they, across the room, felt the fear. If they said a very surprised no, he would have them study the image of themselves that was sitting across the room in peril. He would ask them to feel love for that person across the room. When they could, he would ask them to lovingly encourage that person (themselves in peril across the room) that they will love and take care of them so that they won't allow harm to come to them (selves).
The person, sitting right there in front of us, would get all giddy and flushed. It was amazing! It was amazing! It was amazing! The clients would report feelings of being free of the torment for the first time ever. Amazing!!!
A few had to have a tiny booster session a few months later. Doesn't matter. They are all so grateful any time I run into these people around town when I'm visiting my Dad or Kids in Fresno.
As a life coach, I can only do this for free without getting crosswise with the State certifying agency, so use this process with gusto and my blessing. I'm passing it on to you for free.
Rod
Posted by deirdrehbrt on July 31, 2004, at 6:17:44
In reply to NEW AND ALONE, posted by iris2 on July 30, 2004, at 21:46:31
Hi Iris,
What to say right off? You're new, but you're not alone at all. There are so many of us who feel as you do. For some of us, Social is the only, or one of the few places where we experience interactions wotj others.
Some nights, you might want to check out Psychobabble Open. There you'll have the opportunity to chat live with some of us.
Wishing you the best....Dee.
Posted by partlycloudy on July 31, 2004, at 6:39:53
In reply to NEW AND ALONE, posted by iris2 on July 30, 2004, at 21:46:31
Welcome, iris. I've been posting here since last October, and my name chas changed from rainyday to partlycloudy, so this place has helped me! You'll find that loneliness is a topic brought up often by people who post here. It's a familiar theme for me, in particular. I look forward to seeing your posts. This is a wonderful place for support and advice, to be silly, sad or serious.
Posted by iris2 on July 31, 2004, at 9:48:06
In reply to Re: NEW AND ALONE » iris2, posted by partlycloudy on July 31, 2004, at 6:39:53
Thanks everyone for the heartfelt welcome.
I will be "talking" to you soon.This seems like a warm and inviting place.
Iris2
Posted by ghost on July 31, 2004, at 11:29:36
In reply to NEW AND ALONE, posted by iris2 on July 30, 2004, at 21:46:31
I just wanted to say hello and welcome you to PB. I think that socializing on here has helped me a great deal. I hope it helps you, too. And jump right in! It's nice to have a new face around here.
ghost
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