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Posted by B2chica on August 1, 2004, at 17:34:45
just need to vent a little here.
fyi- mother is MAJOR anger trigger so i'm not going to add to this post about mothers cuz i wouldn't stop (besides that would take two years to cover the hurt here) but i needed to vent a bit.friday evening my mom and pops dropped by for a few minutes. my dad went to talk with my husband about something real quick so mom came over to me...(d@mn it, i didn't run in the house quickly enough...) so she mentioned her hair appt. and i (made the mistake of)telling my mom i was going to color my hair at my next hair appt -first mistake of trying to have a normal conversation with her regarding ANYTHING personal! and was trying to describe the color. i had to mix two colors to get the one i wanted so i described the first color i said "it had a red/copper highlight but the base color was lighter than i normally color it, a light brown and..."(she butted in here and said) -as she tilted her head back- "Oh thank God" ...gee mom why don't you tell me what you really think?? (as she added a few more 'comments')
but then i said well the other color is REEEEALLY dark...almost BLACK! (hehe -just to stab back) Just cuz she always dies her hair SUPER light with blonde highlights (which doesn't look all that great on her) i guess she thinks mine needs to be blonde too.
i personally think she's got some shame issues of her roots (ethnic not folical) and that's why she's been coloring her hair for as long as we've lived in this midwestern state. assimilations a b#tch.
i am a plain brunette but i like the med ash brown colors (a darker brown-almost chocolate like) it matches my dark eyes....you know..you'd think id'of learned by now. though it really is laughable to me, it SOOOO didn't suprise me, besides i've learned to kick em right back. Luckily she can't trigger depression (cuz i don't give a flying f@#$ what she thinks of me, i stopped that when i was 11) though that doesn't mean i don't feel a little sting.
but she can shove her opinions of me straight up her.. (sorry dr.bob, i really am trying to be civil here) -gee, can you see the slight anger trigger popping up here??anyway, just wanted to vent that out. thanks for listening...and btw i am LOVING my color!!
it is a Beautiful dark brown with slight reddish tint and i think i love it more after hearing *her* say that! (i know it's childish but i'm allowing myself that today.)b2c.
Posted by Catgirl on August 1, 2004, at 19:26:44
In reply to tell me what you REALLY think mom..., posted by B2chica on August 1, 2004, at 17:34:45
The mother/daughter relationship is so volatile. I love my mom dearly, but she can hurt my feelings very easily so I can sympathize with you. Maybe it's the need to have my mom's approval.
At any rate, you're an adult--color your hair green if you want to!! :)
Posted by cubic_me on August 2, 2004, at 6:24:35
In reply to tell me what you REALLY think mom..., posted by B2chica on August 1, 2004, at 17:34:45
Your hair is your decision - and I'm glad you like your new colour!
Posted by B2chica on August 2, 2004, at 8:51:15
In reply to Re: tell me what you REALLY think mom... » B2chica, posted by cubic_me on August 2, 2004, at 6:24:35
Thanks, i really love it. Ya, my only mistake was even talking about it to her. fool me for trying to be civil.
i think what i hate most is she's brutally honest when were alone but if anyone else is around...it's fakey fakerson. infact last night i dropped by with my husband and his friend (his friend wanted to see something my hubby built for my dad) so i knew it would be quick and i went along (to say hi to my pops) and twice my mom complemented my hair (right in front of my hubby's friend) the second time she made sure to say it loud enough that everyone heard...
-man that just ticks me off.>and I'm glad you like your new colour!
Posted by Dinah on August 2, 2004, at 9:26:43
In reply to tell me what you REALLY think mom..., posted by B2chica on August 1, 2004, at 17:34:45
Your hair sounds lovely. I'm glad you're pleased with the color. :)
Posted by AuntieMel on August 2, 2004, at 10:05:56
In reply to Re: tell me what you REALLY think mom... » cubic_me, posted by B2chica on August 2, 2004, at 8:51:15
>> the second time she made sure to say it loud enough that everyone heard...
I know what you mean.... It's the emotional equivalent of complimenting your breast implants at Thanksgiving dinner.
Or, in my case, making sure everyone in the extended family knows when you had your first 'monthly' (trying not to be too graphic)
Posted by B2chica on August 2, 2004, at 11:18:37
In reply to Re: tell me what you REALLY think mom... » B2chica, posted by AuntieMel on August 2, 2004, at 10:05:56
oh, my...
i would have just died had my mom done that...i'm so sorry you had to experience that!
(luckily my "mother" was all awkward about it, and just not talked about. in fact the only reason i even told her was cuz my friend kept telling me i should-good thing i learned from friends about it otherwise i'da thought i was bleeding to death!)i think what just erks me is she's all "nicey" to me around others, trying to be girly and communicative. but when were alone she has constant negatives and Really defensive toward me like i'm the evil one trying to "trick her" i mean she can be such a total wack job sometimes but no one else sees. It's like jeckle and hyde but no one believes. Luckily my dad has seen this before. i think he's the ONLY one that has...and it was accidental- she always makes sure no one else is around...
Talk about major head games growing up.But that is Way more than enough air time for "her". so
thanks AuntieMel"the now grown up and protected from 'her'" B2c!
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