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Posted by woolav on August 8, 2004, at 9:19:04
Hello, i have been on these boards for a while now and have learned a great deal and appreciate all the support. But I need advice. I have panic disorder, which causes social phobia, depression, etc...and my hubby thinks the social phobia is a joke...like he makes fun because I dont want to make a phone call or dance in front of people, whatever...and I feel that he believes/knows that i have panic disorder and depression, but he doesnt understand social anxiety. I have tried printing out information about it, but he doesnt get it. What should I do?
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Posted by Dinah on August 8, 2004, at 15:04:17
In reply to how do i get my hubby to understand???????????, posted by woolav on August 8, 2004, at 9:19:04
There's nothing you can do, really. If you've provided him with the information, and he still doesn't choose to change his behavior, the only thought I have left is can you have your psychiatrist or therapist or family practitioner talk to him about it?
Perhaps he has some feelings about it that he's covering with jokes, and talking to a third party might bring those out.
Other than that, I always use the broken record technique with my parents. "I'm sorry, but I don't like it when you do that. If you're going to continue to behave this way that's fine, but I'm going to have to walk away from you." And then I do. Easier with parents than husband, admittedly. But if you do it consistently over a long period of time he might get the message.
Posted by partlycloudy on August 8, 2004, at 17:43:48
In reply to how do i get my hubby to understand???????????, posted by woolav on August 8, 2004, at 9:19:04
I would definitely get him to a p-doc or therapy appointment, if only to get a professional's perspective on what you are going through.
My husband was like this at first (I'm bipolar2, have anxiety and panic attacks), but I kept on battering him with information and asking if he read it. At first he said, well this isn't you, is it? He just couldn't comprehend it.
Now, as he sees how I am improving with medication and therapy, he can see how much worsse I was. He still doesn't understand but is more sympathetic.
pc.
Posted by woolav on August 8, 2004, at 20:39:18
In reply to Re: how do i get my hubby to understand???????????, posted by partlycloudy on August 8, 2004, at 17:43:48
Thanks for the advice, both of you. I will try asking him to go to an appt. with me or keep explaining to him how important it is for him to understand my illness.
thanks again guys...
S
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