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Posted by moime on October 8, 2004, at 18:52:00
AS some of you might notice, I just joined Dr. Bob, mostly because my family lives far away and I don't want to upset them, and so far, this is really helping! Anyway, if you have read my 10/8 postings, you will find that I have been in a really bad relationship, which I just broke off after finding out he was seeing (screwing) another woman. All after promises he would tell me if he decided to be interested in another. ANYWAY, my ex-husband, who still has feelings for me, came to my home today after finding out from my older children that I was completely devastated. He wants to continue the relationship we had been rebuilding before I met this other man. I really threw him over for this bad relationship. He is in a vastly unhappy marriage and will not leave it until the time is right, which he has said in the past will be in about a year (and no promises or allusions were made to me). All his marriage probls did all take place without my influence I might add. Only after he decided to leave his wife and contacted me did I see him several times. Anyway, I really needed someone to talk to , and he just drove up to my house and put his arms around me. He listened to all the horrible things this bad relationship had done to me, and what this particular man had done, to include the great but unintimate sex we had, took it with a grain of salt and was very comforting. Told me he still loved me. I know I am vulnerable, and THAT put me in tears too. Need some help here....
Posted by 64bowtie on October 8, 2004, at 19:35:06
In reply to Gee...How Messed Up Am I?, posted by moime on October 8, 2004, at 18:52:00
....means you must look past your feelings for your eyes to know the difference between beautiful and ugly. You can't just feel that a picture or a person is beautiful. They must be seen, first, for what they are.
There must be a story as to why your ex is your ex... Is that a beautiful picture, or an ugly picture?
What will be a beautiful outcome?
What will look and feel and be the best for you?Rod
Posted by moime on October 8, 2004, at 20:14:01
In reply to Look for a beautiful outcome » moime, posted by 64bowtie on October 8, 2004, at 19:35:06
> ....means you must look past your feelings for your eyes to know the difference between beautiful and ugly. You can't just feel that a picture or a person is beautiful. They must be seen, first, for what they are.
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> There must be a story as to why your ex is your ex... Is that a beautiful picture, or an ugly picture?
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> What will be a beautiful outcome?
> What will look and feel and be the best for you?
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> Rod
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> Rod, thanks for replying to this...I hope the elation I am feeling is not due to the thought that I might get back together with my ex. It was not a beautiful relationship by any means. I already told him I could not be burdened with guilt concerning him leaving his wife, and frankly, (God what have I become), he is also excellent in bed, and half of me is REALLY needing a man and half of me is saying I don't want one that doesn't love and commit to me. This really IS the Madonna/Whore thing, isn't it!?
I mean, I really enjoyed the sex in the bad relationship, and I think he held it against me because it was good and I was continually giving him the impression that I wanted to be loved by him which he would not/could not do. Now, I miss sex terribly (I never really did before) and don't want to go without it....and that makes me just like the bad guy I just broke up with, doesn't it?
Because I don't want to use my ex, I did tell my ex that too.... but I know he wants me. And I am tired of not getting what I want but still not callous enough to take and not give. Oh, the insanity.Well, still losing my mind, and I do have to get to bed for my race tomorrow so if I do not reply tonite, I will reply in AM. Have a nice weekend everyone!
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