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Posted by AdaGrace on November 24, 2004, at 8:48:43
Was quite a while ago, and I keep remembering that weekend and it hurts.
Posted by saw on November 24, 2004, at 9:21:10
In reply to The Last Time I was Happy, posted by AdaGrace on November 24, 2004, at 8:48:43
Yes. It hurts. Please let it? I know that sounds reversed and like the last thing you want to do right now. I have found that once I let that hurt wash over me, it becomes almost like a healing process. Please don't run from your hurt Ada. I also don't know when the last time was that I felt happy. And I am not talking about getting through each day with a smile and a laugh and a couple of jokes on babble. I'm talking about REAL happiness. My poor husband is finally trying to understand that I am robbed of my happiness. That evil brain chemicals keep stealing it.
I am here for you. Even though we are separated by a good few hours (and an ocean) - I am here for you. Cry as much as what you *can* and as much as you need to. I didn't want to do this when I got divorced but if I think back now, I remember that it did have its merit.
My thoughts are with you.
(((AdaGrace)))
Sabrina
Posted by AdaGrace on November 25, 2004, at 6:53:47
In reply to Re: The Last Time I was Happy, posted by saw on November 24, 2004, at 9:21:10
Seems to me to be better because then I still have a say so.
To let it continue to hurt seems to me to be wallowing in it. I just don't want to wallow. I just want it to go away, I want to forget it ever happened and I want to forget ever wanting to feel anything again.....
Posted by saw on November 25, 2004, at 8:05:57
In reply to Re: Fighting It » saw, posted by AdaGrace on November 25, 2004, at 6:53:47
No, I don't mean you should wallow in your hurt but rather allow yourself to go through the grieving process. Basically, you have lost someone that you loved and it is somewhat harder to grieve for him because he is a phone call away. (When he doesn't end the call that is)
I don't mean you should let the hurt continue but rather let it move through all its various complex processes without trying so hard to fight it. I don't imagine you can ever forget what happened. I understand that you want to and why you want to though.
This is so hard for you. I wish there could be an easier way.
Thinking of you
Sabrina
Posted by partlycloudy on November 25, 2004, at 9:26:25
In reply to Re: Fighting It, posted by saw on November 25, 2004, at 8:05:57
I would rather have skipped the broken heart and pain, personally. But I got through it too. It fades like a scar in about as much time.
Posted by sunny10 on November 25, 2004, at 11:24:08
In reply to Re: Fighting It, posted by partlycloudy on November 25, 2004, at 9:26:25
Here's the perfect version for you.
hope this helps...
http://www.computerbob.com/abuse/seven_stages_of_letting_go.php
Posted by AdaGrace on November 26, 2004, at 7:37:50
In reply to Re: Fighting It, posted by saw on November 25, 2004, at 8:05:57
But you can't come in........
Those words keep ringing in my ears these days....
I hate caller ID!!!
Posted by AdaGrace on November 26, 2004, at 7:39:00
In reply to Re: Fighting It, posted by partlycloudy on November 25, 2004, at 9:26:25
I have a 1 inch scar on my forhead from when I was 5 years old and slid into the cabinet. It's still there and very noticable.
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