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Posted by tampagirl70 on January 4, 2005, at 15:05:03
I'm looking for PC - is she here today?
Posted by partlycloudy on January 4, 2005, at 17:28:25
In reply to Where's Partlycloudy today?, posted by tampagirl70 on January 4, 2005, at 15:05:03
I'm here, belatedly. Are you feeling any better, tpa-girl?
Posted by tampagirl70 on January 5, 2005, at 9:38:12
In reply to Re: Where's Partlycloudy today?, posted by partlycloudy on January 4, 2005, at 17:28:25
Hey! I'm up and down again. The holidays always bring me down, then I started worrying/obsessing about my lack of interest in sex and started analyzing my feelings and our marriage, so I'm not terrible, but I'm not where I want to be. I hadn't taken any klonopin in a few weeks and I've taken some every day since Monday. A very small amount, half of a .25mg pill, but it helps calm me down. I think I'm having a mid-life crisis. We don't have kids and I don't want kids right now, but it feels like something's missing and I don't know what it is. I'm not eager to get out of bed in the mornings and I'm not terribly eager to go to the gym or do other social things right now. I want to read and hang out with my cat in front of the tv. That wouldn't be so bad, except I need to start exercising again to get some of the holiday pudge off.
Enough about me, how are you? Are you going back to work? How were the holidays? How do you get rid of marriage boredom?
Posted by partlycloudy on January 5, 2005, at 10:42:07
In reply to Re: Where's Partlycloudy today?, posted by tampagirl70 on January 5, 2005, at 9:38:12
This is my first full week back at work after the holidays. Today is a good day, my first so far. I really miss my memory, though. It feels like I had to relearn almost every aspect of the job, having lost most of my cognitive abilities over just 2 months. I have a great deal of work to do on myself - to become more assertive but not agressive; to find out where my self esteem took off to and wrangle it back home; and not to take myself and the work so seriously. I always figured that was the flip side of what made me a dedicated and loyal employee, but now I can see that my sense of responsibility is way out of proportion to what's expected of me. It will be a long year with my therapist (whom I really like, AND she is on my insurance!).
I've been married to my husband 2 and a half years. It is such a completely different experience than my first marriage, which lasted 18 mostly very unhappy years. Pretty much going right into this relationship I've been in one psychological crisis after another. My husband has gone to great lengths to understand my illness and continues to be supportive. It doesn't even feel like a "honeymoon" period to either of us, we are just happy and grateful to have each other. Between the sheets can be pretty dodgey as my depression, anxiety and panic has dictated what I'm able to achieve. We just keep things as relaxed as we can and take advantage (!) of the good times. We shares lots of hugs, kisses, and don't stay mad at each other for long.
Did you find a therapist you're happy with?
Posted by tampagirl70 on January 5, 2005, at 11:12:17
In reply to Work, boredom, marriage » tampagirl70, posted by partlycloudy on January 5, 2005, at 10:42:07
I've been seeing a therapist but I'm not sure if he's right for me. I found a woman that I'm going to see on the 17th. I'd like to have a woman instead of a man because I feel like I could be more open with her about sexual issues and she would have a better perspective on it since she's a woman as well.
I've been with my husband for almost 12 years, about 9 of those married. I get worried and obsess that I won't want him to touch me or I won't like the sound of his voice, or what made me feel comfortable and/or secure won't make me feel that way at some point, and when that happens, what do I do? How do I find the next thing that'll make me content/safe with him?
The past couple times he's wanted to fool around, I've had a yeast infection or my period, so I wasn't in the mood either time. But I started feeling guilty about it and then, of course, I started worrying/obsessing that there's something wrong with me and/or the relationship which is why I'm not that interested in sex. It would be this way with any guy I was with for this long (at least I believe it would be), so I don't think its anything related specifically to my husband.
The holidays were stressful and I'm sad when they're over, but I want to get back to normal. I'm hoping I can feel that way soon. Congrats on going back to work! What do you do?
Posted by partlycloudy on January 5, 2005, at 12:37:44
In reply to Re: Work, boredom, marriage, posted by tampagirl70 on January 5, 2005, at 11:12:17
I think it's natural to have an ebb and flow in desire in a marriage and (easy for me to say, right?) I wouldn't worry if things cool down before they heat up. It can be so frustrating when our bodies don't cooperate, and since I've been put back on The Pill, I find I get more yeast infections than usual.
Jeez can you tell I'm not used to writing on line about sex? I'm not a prude but just not used to talking much about it!!I answer the phones for a construction firm. Very low stress job if I let it be. Usually I get anxious about every single aspect of the job - being stuck in a slow moving conversation while other lines are ringing; having piles of paperwork spread out on my desk; trying to remember who I have on hold and who they are calling for... I'm getting riled up just listing them!!
What do you do for work?
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