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Posted by AdaGrace on February 20, 2005, at 15:59:34
If only I could become her 24/7.
That would be the ideal life, wouldn't it?
To be something everyone wanted.To be anything, anyone wanted is more like it.
To have the attention of one is not enough.
I want the attention of many.I want to be desired, wanted, prized.
Is that too much to ask?
AdaGrace, shut up, it's Sunday afternoon, and you're drunk again. Go back to bed.........
Talk to yourself, tell yourself you are no good, and too big for your britches. Thinking that way is sinful. Thinking that way is so very egotistical.
There, I answered for you, no need to respond.
Posted by Toph on February 20, 2005, at 16:19:50
In reply to The Temptress, no need to respond., posted by AdaGrace on February 20, 2005, at 15:59:34
I have always found you to be desirable, Grace.
Posted by AdaGrace on February 21, 2005, at 8:03:27
In reply to Re: The Temptress. » AdaGrace, posted by Toph on February 20, 2005, at 16:19:50
I am horrified of this post, simply and utterly ashamed and horrified. What the hell was I thinking writing that. I feel so silly that I am so hung up on outward appearances.
In my defence, however, I have been extreemly overweight for most of my adult life. I have slowly and gradually decreased my size over the past few years. I am now within 10 pounds of my own goal and for some reason, I now think that my outward appearance should be rewarded with attention. Never having any for so long made me yearn for it. Made me want to be the subject of conversation when I walked I a room.
This is simply another one of my cries for attention. One of my tiresome pleas to be noticed and praised. Why am I like this? God, this is embarassing.
Posted by partlycloudy on February 21, 2005, at 8:48:52
In reply to Re: The Temptress. » Toph, posted by AdaGrace on February 21, 2005, at 8:03:27
AdaGrace, how strange it feels to me to see you mirror so many of my actions in my past. I think that when I moved to England I had a true identity crisis. I had worked on keeping myself in shape and dressed well - then I moved to a place where, culturally, those things are not noticed as outwardly as they are here in North America. **Disclaimer - this is what my experience was, not a reflection of anything REAL!! **
The upshot was that all of a sudden, I felt invisible. No one took any notice of me, no matter how nicely I dressed or how outrageously, either. Those folks were just so darned polite. It took away an entire way that I had been defining myself, though. I felt belittled by having my outward appearance so utterly ignored. What I realize now is that I was in a community where these things weren't taken into account by others. On reflection, it was a great gift to be known for my more unseen qualities; but at the time, I felt crushed.Don't know why I posted this except to say that how I see myself has changed over time and I give much less credence to appearances than I used to - and that's a good thing.
((((AdaGrace who has to stop looking in mirrors to find her beauty))))
Posted by TamaraJ on February 21, 2005, at 12:23:56
In reply to The Temptress, no need to respond., posted by AdaGrace on February 20, 2005, at 15:59:34
Well, I don't know, but I would think it would become exhausting after a while. I don't know that I particularly want to be "all things to all people". Not that I consider myself inordinately desirable, but I sometimes kinda like my "undesirable" qualities. Ya, I like being able to belch, f*rt, curse and swear, and not give a d*mn about it. Now, how desirable is that? Anyway, it really is all the facets of our personalities that make us desirable, whether it be the quiet, reflective, introspective side or the outgoing, vivacious, life of the party side, or somewhere in between.
Tamara
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