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Posted by Deneb on June 19, 2005, at 23:19:38
I wish I had more time to read other's posts and respond to them, but I've been really busy. Today was supposed to be my day off, but my uncle needed me to work again. He wants me to work without a day off for at least two months...sigh. I don't think I'm getting enough sleep...I think I need a lot of sleep. Normally I get caught up during the weekends by sleeping 12 hours or something, but now I can't.
I hate this. If this is going to be my life, I am going to kill myself. I don't even have time to play with hammy or go grocery shopping or anything. All the stores are closed when I get off from work. My breaks last only 15 mins, so I'm working 10 hours and 15 mins during the weekdays.
My ankle has swollen up again (the one I twisted a week before I started work). I'm abusing my Mom's Tylenol 3's because my feet hurt after standing up for so long.
I hate complaining and feeling sorry for myself. I guess I'm just spoiled. I don't know how other people do it. I think I would rather die than live such a life.
If I die, I will surely screw up my uncle's business, but what do I care? I'll be dead, ha!
Deneb
Life is hard, death is easy
Posted by justyourlaugh on June 19, 2005, at 23:26:52
In reply to Too much work make Deneb go crazy *trigger?*, posted by Deneb on June 19, 2005, at 23:19:38
deneb...
come on girl friend...i did not like your situation...but i was there...i did not like pain..but it does get easier...skills taught to cope...day program?
Posted by Deneb on June 19, 2005, at 23:30:39
In reply to Too much work make Deneb go crazy *trigger?*, posted by Deneb on June 19, 2005, at 23:19:38
I hate this, I'm getting all teary eyed, thinking how much working sucks. I wish I could run away for a while, or time could stop, maybe even die for a week and be a ghost for a while. Not that I believe in ghosts.
I don't care about money, I just wanna have fun. I don't have time to have fun anymore. :-(
Posted by justyourlaugh on June 19, 2005, at 23:35:26
In reply to Re: Too much work make Deneb go crazy *trigger?*, posted by Deneb on June 19, 2005, at 23:30:39
what is fun?
are you hoping for true bliss?..that can only happen if you want to inject it in your vien..life is not blisss. life is being content...enjoying the bliss when it washes over you...
Posted by Deneb on June 20, 2005, at 8:27:13
In reply to fun..fun?? » Deneb, posted by justyourlaugh on June 19, 2005, at 23:35:26
> what is fun?
> are you hoping for true bliss?..that can only happen if you want to inject it in your vien..life is not blisss.I can experience extreme happiness without drugs. :-)
>life is being content...enjoying the bliss when it washes over you...
That sounds really boring. I don't want to be content all the time.
Posted by Jazzed on June 20, 2005, at 17:20:51
In reply to Too much work make Deneb go crazy *trigger?*, posted by Deneb on June 19, 2005, at 23:19:38
>He wants me to work without a day off for at least two months...sigh.
This is VERY unfair to you, and it seems he's taking major advantage of you. I don't think that's even legal, is it? Can you make the same or better money somewhere else? If so, GO! He's obviously not thinking of your best interest, the heck with him!
I don't think I'm getting enough sleep...I think I need a lot of sleep. Normally I get caught up during the weekends by sleeping 12 hours or something, but now I can't.No wonder you feel so bad, you need sleep. Can you tell him you need two days off every week?
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> I hate this. If this is going to be my life, I am going to kill myself.You really need to tell your uncle that he's taking advantage of you. This just isn't right. Please don't harm yourself because you're being taken advantage of!
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> I hate complaining and feeling sorry for myself. I guess I'm just spoiled. I don't know how other people do it. I think I would rather die than live such a life.This is NOT feeling sorry for yourself! This is slave labor! I don't blame you for feeling so bad, I would too.
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> If I die, I will surely screw up my uncle's business, but what do I care? I'll be dead, ha!
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Don't die, just walk away from his business, and let him suck eggs!Jazzy
Posted by Deneb on June 20, 2005, at 22:35:46
In reply to Re: Too much work make Deneb go crazy *trigger?* » Deneb, posted by Jazzed on June 20, 2005, at 17:20:51
> >He wants me to work without a day off for at least two months...sigh.
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> This is VERY unfair to you, and it seems he's taking major advantage of you. I don't think that's even legal, is it?No, but that doesn't stop him from doing it. I hate that he's family and as such I'm supposed to help him out. It's a low paying job I'd never wanted. I KNOW I can do better than fast food, why the heck did I go to university?
I never even agreed to help him. My Mom and my uncle and aunt all decided for me. I'm the only one who can really speak English and they need me badly
I just hate the little things...like only getting a 15 min break to eat. I told my uncle that I wanted to take a small break to go get some coffee from the Tim Horton's next to us in the mall, but then my uncle asked me why? Sigh...I don't even have the freedom to eat what I want to eat. I get free food at this place, but I'm getting sick and tired of it. I don't care if I have to spend $10 on food somewhere else...money isn't everything to me.
> Can you make the same or better money somewhere else? If so, GO! He's obviously not thinking of your best interest, the heck with him!
I come from a very hardworking family (they had to be). I'm not seen as an adult either. I'm not expected to become totally independent. Family is supposed to be everything.
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> No wonder you feel so bad, you need sleep. Can you tell him you need two days off every week?No, the best I can do is to get Sun off. My parents and everyone else work 6 days a week. I don't even know if I'll be able to get out of working if I get sick, there is no one capable of working the cash and the computer there except me. I'm supposed to teach the owner and my aunt. I actually taught their 12 year old son as well. He caught on very quickly...it isn't rocket science. I think my uncle might make my 12 year old cousin work cash...he is very tall for his age (much taller than me), but he still looks like a boy. It is illegal for him to work, but so is working without a day off...
I don't want my cousin to work at all...he should be a kid. Kids shouldn't have to take responsibility for reading and understanding bills and letters, or negotiating business dealings etc. My uncle needs him though, because he can speak English. Poor kid...being the oldest sucks....always getting yelled at when he makes a mistake or doesn't understand something.
> You really need to tell your uncle that he's taking advantage of you.
I think I will just have to ride it out. I'm going to refuse working on Sun and see what happens...what is he going to do?...fire me?
Hmmm...I can actually get away with pretty much anything really...he can't fire me...but I won't...it's not fair to the other workers he hired...and I really do want his business to work.
Thanks Jazzy for the sympathy
It's nice to know what I'm feeling is normal.
Deneb
Posted by Deneb on June 20, 2005, at 23:03:15
In reply to Re: Too much work make Deneb go crazy *trigger?* » Jazzed, posted by Deneb on June 20, 2005, at 22:35:46
My aunt and her husband (my uncle) has 3 kids; one 12, one 11 and one 10. They are home alone after school until at least 10:30pm now during the weekdays. On the weekends they will probably spend their time helping out at the restaurant.
It is not good for kids to be home alone for so long. I know, I've been there.
Deneb
Posted by Jazzed on June 21, 2005, at 3:13:06
In reply to Re: Too much work make Deneb go crazy *trigger?* » Jazzed, posted by Deneb on June 20, 2005, at 22:35:46
> Hmmm...I can actually get away with pretty much anything really...he can't fire me...but I won't...it's not fair to the other workers he hired...and I really do want his business to work.
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> Thanks Jazzy for the sympathy
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> It's nice to know what I'm feeling is normal.
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> DenebThere's no way I could do this, family or not! I"m sorry you have to endure. Since they're so dependant on you, can you tell him he'll have to pay you more. What's he making, you should be making just as much, and getting an hour lunch.
You definitely have my sympathy.
And, I do believe in bliss and happiness and contentment, any you deserve some of it, not to be stuck in some dead end job with no fulfillment.Jazzy
Posted by Susan47 on June 22, 2005, at 21:27:54
In reply to Re: Too much work make Deneb go crazy *trigger?* » Deneb, posted by Jazzed on June 21, 2005, at 3:13:06
What's ironic to me is that there's billions of people who'd love to be able to not have their children work at a young age, but they're forced to, and children die because of overwork, and here where you have a choice, you can choose to do things otherwise, someone is still making the decision to work you to an early grave. Work you so you don't have time, work you so you don't have an opportunity to support yourself, to get an education ... it's seems such a waste when a little sacrifice for future security, that's what it's really all about, isn't it? The idea that you can get ahead, that you can provide security for yourself and your children and their children .. when those children are emotionally bereft, when they become the cold middle class adults you see so much nowadays, people wh have two incomes and two vehicles and big houses and not enough time for their kids .. it seems ridiculous.
But on the other hand, also, if that's all your family's known how to do, for generations and generations, is work work work nose to the grindstone everybody work, maybe because in another countrym a different past, that's the way it had to be, I can see where making the change might be a challenge. But it's sad that kids are forced to spend so much time in emotional poverty because parents can't change their priorities. When they actually have a choice, albeit a financially poorer one .. what the heck. I don't like our societal expectations at all. They s-u-c
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