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Posted by AdaGrace on September 12, 2005, at 21:42:04
Made me feel unwelcome.
Although I did not intend to offend anyone with my comments, and I am sorry that I did, but I feel I was misunderstood. But it doesn't matter.
I was told recently that Lamar Hunt said "If no offence was intended, none should be taken" I was on the offended side, and of course didn't like the comment. Now on the offending side, I see the other way.
Doesn't make me feel any better for being misunderstood, and having my hand spanked for speaking my mind.
Guess that makes me self centered and selfish. Must be my depression taking hold of my ability to see clearly. Funny how my darkest hours are just before my dawn. The dawn comes gray and gloomy now though. I feel I have lost everything. My job, my self esteem, my ability to converse, my persona.....myself. I have lost myself. I've fallen and I can't get up.
This place is depressing. I am depressing.
Go Ahead Dr. Bob, move this to the admin board or wherever you feel it need to be. I don't have the energy or the know how to do it myself.
Posted by Deneb on September 12, 2005, at 21:51:12
In reply to Being Blocked, posted by AdaGrace on September 12, 2005, at 21:42:04
I felt extremely lonely at first when I was blocked. I couldn't see that people still remembered me and hadn't abandoned me. It's a horrible feeling and I acted out in horrible ways. I could have gotten myself in very big trouble if I had continued. I still may be in trouble, I don't really know.
I hope you feel better soon. I know it is next to impossible to think good things sometimes.
Deneb
Posted by alexandra_k on September 12, 2005, at 22:33:00
In reply to Being Blocked, posted by AdaGrace on September 12, 2005, at 21:42:04
> Made me feel unwelcome.
yeah.
i understand.i used to have a really hard time with the notion of blocking people
it reminded me of how my mother used to lock me in my room and shut me away from society it reminded me of her message that i was not fit for human company
:-(
but...
i really don't think it is about that.
i really don't think that it is intended that we will take those messages
i really don't think that it is intended that we will feel that waybut i hear you
yeah
i doi think...
what helped me see things differently...
was that people are welcomed back
that there is a consequence for civility infractions, yeah
a fairly predictable consequence of a blocking
but then all is forgiven
and one is simply accepted backalso i don't think that it is intended to be isolating at all
we can still post to other chat boards
we can still email
and that is goodand the people
the people still care
oh yes they do
i find it sad when people get blocked
i just hope they understand why it happened
so they won't get blocked for that againglad you are back adagrace
you too denebyou are both very welcome here.
Posted by Deneb on September 12, 2005, at 22:48:54
In reply to Re: Being Blocked » AdaGrace, posted by alexandra_k on September 12, 2005, at 22:33:00
I think that maybe in a weird way, a block can be a good thing...even though it is an unpleasant thing.
If I hadn't been blocked, people might have directed more anger and frustration towards me. That would have made me and others feel worse and worse. Things might have escalated to dangerous levels on the boards.
When I was blocked, my behaviour still escalated, but at least people here didn't get hurt because of that. I think it is like a time out for me...instead of throwing a tantrum in a room pull of glass, I end up throwing a tantrum in a room full of boxes. I sure hope I didn't bang the boxes up too badly...
My p-doc told me that when I get blocked for saying suicidal stuff, that it doesn't mean that people want me to die. She told me that it means the exact opposite...that people here value life. I have to remember what she says to me.
Deneb
Posted by alexandra_k on September 12, 2005, at 23:05:31
In reply to Re: Being Blocked, posted by Deneb on September 12, 2005, at 22:48:54
> I think that maybe in a weird way, a block can be a good thing...even though it is an unpleasant thing.
yeah. i have thought the same (about my block)
> If I hadn't been blocked, people might have directed more anger and frustration towards me. That would have made me and others feel worse and worse. Things might have escalated to dangerous levels on the boards.yeah, thats right.
> When I was blocked, my behaviour still escalated, but at least people here didn't get hurt because of that. I think it is like a time out for me...instead of throwing a tantrum in a room pull of glass, I end up throwing a tantrum in a room full of boxes. I sure hope I didn't bang the boxes up too badly...:-)
and you said about how it took you a week to kind of get back to normal
and then you had a week to sort things out...
to sort out *why* you got blocked
(which is really important with respect to avoiding them in future)
so you could come back and babble with us :-)> My p-doc told me that when I get blocked for saying suicidal stuff, that it doesn't mean that people want me to die. She told me that it means the exact opposite...that people here value life. I have to remember what she says to me.
yeah.
thats a great thing to have said.
i'm going to remember that too.
thanks
:-)
Posted by wildcard on September 13, 2005, at 8:39:35
In reply to Being Blocked, posted by AdaGrace on September 12, 2005, at 21:42:04
Posted by ClearSkies on September 13, 2005, at 8:58:27
In reply to Being Blocked, posted by AdaGrace on September 12, 2005, at 21:42:04
I felt quite lonely without my voice when I was blocked, able to read others' posts and unable to respond. My block was without dispute, and utterly deserved. Even with emails and other places to e-meet, I missed having this special place where my posting feels like putting on a comfy pair of slippers.
You are finished with work, AG?
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